My mom and dad...

Maybe you should help pay the bills. Any little bit would help them. If you moved out you would have to pay all of the bills by yourself so why should living with your parents be a free ride? Is there a reason you can't get a better job or a second job? You being there means higher bills for them. More food, electricity, water, laundry soap. So unless you are caring for your mom & siblings think about a different job.

Ever talked about this matter to your mother and siblings?? I think you should first sit and talk with your mother. Dont bring up the point of "payment of bills" but as you already said, that it might make you feel happy. Just try to know how she feels about it and as You think , if she is not so fond of the idea , then dont push the idea. Just try to give a heads up about the thought ( one day you will have to move out, i guess??) For now, try another good paying job or a second shift which might earn some extra bucks and pitch in.. You will see things might be going in a smooth way. On the other hand, if your mother also thinks that you should be out and independent and learn how life is, then go ahead and try to take steps to move out eventually. Well, this is just my opinion. Think and do what is right for you..Good luck !

Well since you are working, you actually have the capacity to contribute in the monetary issues. Although it may be a factor that the amount you are earning is not that big of an amount to be contributed, it is still good if you can give a good 10-20% of your income. Afterall, you are still living with them and I believe they still pay for your expenses in terms of food and the like. And the fact that you are not helping pay the bills makes you have thoughts of maybe uneasiness, that is because you feel a slight guilt of not helping out pay the bills. If you are also thinking of your other siblings, it would definitely be nice if you can share in the responsibility of chipping in. And I also think that as you do so, your parents will be more than happy to accept your help no matter how big or small your contribution is.

It's time to be on your own and it would be one less person for them to have to support. At 25 you should be taking care of yourself.

I'm in the same boat. I am a 26 year old single mum. I moved back home when my guy left me because frankly I culdn't afford to live out on my own. My parents are not rich. In fact theya re pretty bad as they don't budget and often have crisis of huge bills going to collections etc.... My parents have never ever asked me to pay rent and I don't. What I do is.... I have paid off 3 of their outstanding bills. I buy groceries once a month (spend about $250.00) I am the only one that buys the groceries for my parents me, my son, and my 22 year old brother. In the winter I pay for the oil to heat our home. I help out with dishes and household chores, I help out on the farm. I do hay in the summer, and wood in the fall (to compensate for the oil). My mom was going to work and needed a car, we got a cheap one and had to take it to the shop to get it ready for the road. I paid the $900 to get everything on it fixed. I pay about $50.00 every week for gas money. I do household fixex and repairs.. I don't pay rent but I help out every way that I can because my parents have been there when i desparately needed help. I have had times when I was hugely frustrated because I live at home. Also it is somewhat embarrasssing because all of my other friends all have houses and families etc.. and I live at home... Sometimes it bothers me because I can't have friends over to play cards or watch movies etc... I ave thought about moving out on my own and have caluclated, yes I could do it. I would need to live very frugally but I could do it.... However, when I think about it, if I move out, my little brother doesn't do anything, in fact he adds more bills because he is a picky eater and wants specific foods etc... he doesn't contribute anything to mom and dad and doesn't even pay his car insurance so it falls to dad and mom and me to pay it for him. So basically if I move out my parents will sink. I know taht I am going to be moving out sometime within the next 2 years to live with my boyfriend in New Hampshire and it worries me because I don't want my parents to have to struggle. I am hoping that by that time I will have been able to help them get all the bills caught up and have everything in a manageable state. So I understand you completely that it is a bad situation to be in... I can't offer you any advice except to say that you are not alone.

Pragmatically in our Philippine setting/culture children above 18 years old stays with their family- very strong family ties. Children who earns not much are not obliged to help in paying bills. Its not proper that your parents fights or quarrels generatate from this issue. Am a Father of 4 children, our eldest is 25yrs old,like you; the others a 22, 19 & 17.. the eldest is not earning much-- though we're just a middle class family we don't obliged them to help.. voluntarily yes.. Considering your upbringing I am sure that staying with your family will be more beneficial to them/family.. clarify explicitly to your parents-- a heart to heart "dialogue"-- your desire to help even in a little way.. Working away will not solve your parents frequent fights.

You are 25 - that means that u are an adult and if u belive that you wil be happy to go away then it is your call. You can not live your life for your parenst - at the age of 25 it is time to get a life for yourself if that is what u want =)

If you are thinking about leaving then you would have to pay all the bills on your own so I would suggest trying to help out a bit , it doesn't matter what you give but if they are fighting over money then changes are they really could use some help . They don't want to kick you out because you are there daughter and they love you very much but it doesn't change the fact that one extra person in a household can put the bills up so much more . Maybe you could try talking to your mom and see what she suggests as well since it sounds like you are closer to your mom then your dad and you could try talking to your other siblings as well . Take Care and best of luck !!

I think you should look for any respectful job and earn something for your family atleast make your own expensises so that you dont make any extra burdon on them and then try to get better and better job in order to participate with your family and yeah i prefer not to leave family as family is a good thing to be with :)

I would suggest...try getting a job in your city..so you could stay with your parents. If at all you have to earn..take their advise and consult them..before going outstide your city for your job.

Money or lack of it is what causes family arguments and sometimes family breakdowns. I don't know your current situation, but can you help with the bills a little bit? Maybe take over paying one or two small bills each month. If you need a better job, start looking in the newspaper, take anything you can get if you have to, at least in the beginning. Temporary agencies are often looking for people with computer skills especially in the summer months, when office staff take their vacations. See if this is an option for you. Good Luck!

It's a tough call. I on the other hand would probably start contributing to something like paying for the gas bill or something else just to lighten the load, even if it was only part of the bill or even a little bit of it i.e $10. A little bit helps. It's tough going out on your own, and it means having to pay your own bills like rent, phone, gas, power etc. If you don't have the means to do that, then it's probably better to stay where you are until you are able to. Good luck!

Your 25- if you aren't going to help them pay bills- then you need to be out on your own- paying your own bills- nothing in life is free.

A little or a lot it doesn't matter, i think you should help out, just pay for parts of bills or just shove some money to them, its the meaning that counts, If they are really tight on money, i think it is a wise decision to first talk to them about you moving out and work out away from home. See how it goes and act accordingly, if they agree that you should earn more money moving out, then do so, and just visit them once in a while, but if they really miss you, and dont want to let you go, you would have to find a better paying job sooner or later when you want to develop your own family

I understand your situation about this matter but i think working away from your family is one thing you should think wisely.. if you feel you can help them more and you'll be happy by working away from them why not? but you must consider the fact what will happen if you are far from them as you said your sister already working away, i think this time you're the one expected to help your mother..

With that situation, you have to earn also to help your parents to pay the bills.There are times you have to sacrifice on something or someone to give them their needs.Don't think that you'll be selfish in that way but you have to contribute something for your family.

Sounds like you are growing up! Being young but not old is one of the toughest times. It's hard to know exactly what to do because of this reason: When you reach a certain age, you're more of a PEER than a child with your parents. So, their decisions are more or less just as confused as yours! It's up in the air, and it's hard to know exactly what to do. Good luck with your situation! Sumi --- http://www.helium.com/tm/340082/

I think you should go away at least you can breath without them and at least they will not get ache at you because of many bill but it's your decision if you really love your parents.

There are a lot of ways in helping them even if your away. By sending them money and sacreficing. But you have to talk it over the family first. Talk about the things you guys need to do so as you guys can help each other. It sounds corny but thats how it has to be. If you don't want to leave them then you have to look for a good paying job here or in your place. Find ways and means. One good example is by talking to your sister and ask for money so you guys can start a business. Any business can do as long as you make money. Before you get into a business, be sure to make a feasibility study. Its very important that you have to make sure that you will be making money. I advice is look for a business that is low cost and big earnings. Make sure its new or its for masa type. Start small and end big. Go girl!

as i read your discussion i can see your a responsible person, still thinking about ur parents and siblings even if you move out..thats good..on the financial matter i think you don't have to fret too much, you see our parents or most of the parents don't want their children to be forced in giving them something..i mean if we want to give they'd be all right..if you don't give they'll still be ok..if the issue is already on the 4th quadrant(urgent and immediate) your parents should have talked to you about it a long time ago...just give what you can give, your parents will definitely be happy..