Do you bang phone on others??
By mimpi
@mimpi1911 (25464)
India
June 27, 2007 6:33am CST
Today, i got so upset with my mom, over something trivial though, that i banged the phone on her! we were having a conversation over going to the airport to receive my sister and her children (they are coming tomorrow). she got hyper out of the blue and banged the phone!!! i phoned her back immediately and said --- you do whatever you wish to---and banged the phone!! i wanted to bang on her face...silly me! that was my mom and me.
i know, its not decent, but, do you guys bang on others??
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@weemam (13372)
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27 Jun 07
I try so hard to bang the phone on telephone sales people I just sit here repeating " no thank you " and my hubby laughs and says " put the phone down " I just can't do it lol ,
My mum and I have never had a fall out in all my 65 years , She is 88 now and has Alzheimer's and it is so hard sometimes not to get upset but I just keep reminding myself that it is the illness getting to her and not the real her God Bless xx
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
28 Jun 07
these telemarketeers and the insurance and credit card agents they just keep on persisting like anything and i have to hang up to avoid there further queries. i feel sad later on because they just do their jobs.
its hard to hang up on family and i hardly do that. but this time i did. i felt sorry and apologised. i think, i need to be more tolerant.
PS: weemam, sorry to hear about your mother. love and care is all she needs and i am sure you give that all the time.
smiles...
@thinkingoutloud (6127)
• Canada
27 Jun 07
I'm like you, weemam! If I hang up on anyone, it's usually a telemarketer. I'm never rude to them but I tell them very firmly that I'm either too busy to do a survey or I'm not interested in what they are selling, etc. Yet, if they persist with "BUT WAIT!..." and won't end the call, I hang up. I don't slam the phone down but I refuse to have my time disrespected that way.
As to the original question, I have never slammed the phone down on a family member or a friend. I prefer to just say "I'm ending this conversation now" and then hang up... so there's no uncertainty about what I was thinking LOL
@yanjiaren (9031)
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28 Jun 07
Oh i THINK THAT is so rude that is why I would never dream of doing that to any one. My beloved did that to me a couple of times but when he knew how upsetting it was to me he promised never to do that again, especially as we are long distance.I have told him that id he is in a pissy mode or tired..we don't have to talk at that particular time.I can wait.but don't be rude or nasty to me..He realized that what he did was out of order and has done well ever since..I told him plainly it is bad manners..He knows I am a well mannered person and realizes now that some things are not acceptable..It is so bad when it happens with someone yoyu love..Like your Mum..I AM SO SORRY.
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
29 Jun 07
yeah, i was being rude for no reason at all and she had all good reasons to be cross. i did apologised and she is a sweet heart!!
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
29 Jun 07
Mou!
By the time I have read your outbrust on your mom, I believe, things would have cooled down.
Just cannot understand, how a wise person like you can lose her cool...that too on a trivial issue?
I think whatever you did you would have done on the heat of the moment....later on you would have realised your mistake?
Just converse with your mother and sort out the matter, if you have not done till now, and do not afraid be to say -'sorry' to her. Mom is after all Mom
Be patient ! You losing your cool....I just cannot understand it...sounds little bit unbelievable to me...
Have a Nice Day!Wishes and smiles :)
Deepak
:) :)
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
30 Jun 07
sorry, deepak. i know what had happened that day. i did say sorry to my mother and she is a darling. i kind of get hyper off and on these days..need to control.
thanx for your kind words.
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
2 Jul 07
i am okay now. thanx for your concern, deepak.
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@cmsk2005 (1770)
• United States
27 Jun 07
yes sometime whan I cant keep control of my temper and something happens to me what i just cant tolerate specially like if somebody lie and try to prove that its not a lie, i get really angry and just burst out. I am very short temper so I bang on others for so many reasons.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
27 Jun 07
hi cmsk,
i kind of bang on my close ones only, may be, with no fault of theirs, sometimes. i feel sorry later on.
thanx for sharing.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
28 Jun 07
hi friend, this is so true sometimes, it appears that ppl are so provocative that you just cannot keep your cool. i try to ignore in those times with little help though.
@minijumbuk (514)
• Australia
27 Jun 07
Well sometimes i do that too... very VERY rarely though.
one time there was this bus driver his attitude was just really bad, its as if he hated the whole bus or something. so when we got off the bus, he was like "get your luggage" or something along those likes, then i yelled in his face really angrily with temper "what did you say! i cant hear you" with a bit of sarcasm because he was really loud. then he got angry as well and said "i said go get your luggage ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE BUS!"... so then i just went and get luggage, and later i reported him to the company for bad behaviour
@minijumbuk (514)
• Australia
27 Jun 07
You should never to that to your mother! no matter what she does to you, you have no right to disrespect her. Anyhow, it was probably just an accident that she hung up on you, but you did it on purpose right there. can you imagine how hurt she could've been?
@jelani2322 (89)
• United States
28 Jun 07
although you should never do that to your mother parents can be pains in the azz and after a long day of work nagging is the last thing you would like to hear i support just apologize later
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
28 Jun 07
hi mini, you are right, this shouldn't been done no matter what. i felt hurt afterards and did apologised. my mom cares a lot about me and i know its being rude and disrespect.
thanx for telling me.
@minijumbuk (514)
• Australia
28 Jun 07
i guess you are right.
after a long day of work, they sometimes can get pretty annoying =.=
asking every detail about your day.
But you gotta know that they only do that because they care about you.
It is very important to apologize to you parents if you yelled at them, to let them know that you are sorry and didn't mean it.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
29 Jun 07
Oh dear lol no I have never done that before my Kids have done it to me lol but then they ring back and say sorry but I don't get mad at them as I know once they have calmed down they will ring me back and apologize
Everyone has their own way of getting the Anger out
@texasclassygal (5305)
• United States
27 Jun 07
Oh, I hate that, my Mother was a huge phone hanger up, never said good-bye, nothing, just would hang the phone up, even worse when she got angry at you, she would just hang the phone up, when I get angry and I am on the phone, I will always say good-bye, even if I am angry at the person, I will say good-bye and hang up, but never without telling the other person that I am ending the conversation and hanging up. I think it is rude to just hang up on someone.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
27 Jun 07
sweetie, my mom is not a hager kind, she is cool otherwise. but today what happened i don't know, she just hung up!! it felt very bad and i did the same.
@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
30 Jun 07
Hello mimpi. I have never ever bang my phone on anyone else. I sure don't like to have anyone doing it to me either. If I am upset, I'm very quiet. I usually ignore the person on the other line and uttered a polite goodbye.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
2 Jul 07
that's very sweet of you. previously, i was like that but soon realisedthat my silence is being taken as my weakness and this i hate. however, i should be be more calm and controlled, i agree.
@Raymo23 (463)
• Uganda
20 Nov 07
I have banged the phone on various occasions, and hanged up on people. I am easily irritable, and so when I am annoyed on phone, then BANG.
Hope you apologized to your mother. Mothers are so special, that whatever they do, we ought to understand, especially if she has nothing against you.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
21 Nov 07
Yes, Raymo, I did apologis to my mom when this happened, which is a few months back.
Thanks for your response.
smiles...
@dbhattji (2506)
• India
29 Jun 07
I am short tempered but I control my temper and let the others finish the conversation. I may be a little abrupt sometimes, saying ok - bye - but banging the phone is something I have not done except for crank calls.
@Deathknight_31 (500)
• Pakistan
28 Jun 07
well dunno but i also feel like banging phones on others when i get mad and cant tolerate others, when they are arguing about something and going on and on about that discussion and cant get to a decision so i just feel like shutting the phone but i avoid doing it, and if someone does that kind of thing to me i would prefer not to call them back and to leave them alone and think about what they had done.
@hopejordan (3561)
• Australia
16 Nov 07
hi there mimpi1911
yes i have done that a few times on someone and even prank callers that ring up but i never do it again but some one made me upset and i really slammed the phone down
thanks for this discussion
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
28 Jun 07
my mum is a banger as well... she just put down my phone whenever she feels not happy talking to me while i haven't finish talking yet and without saying a goodbye as well... i can't do that... i never have the heart to do the same thing to her as much as i want to... no matter what, she is my mum and i have to respect her... i will feel upset when she does that to me but i will get over that eventually...
@euniceeleanor (5966)
• Singapore
28 Jun 07
LOL i wish i could do that! but i'm using my mobile most of the time, that i couldn't let the other party know that I'm so angry by slamming down the phone hard. But I usually I only do that when the other party really gets on my nerve!
@TerryZ (22076)
• United States
28 Jun 07
No I dont band the phone up on people. I think its rude and shouldnt be done. Especially on your elders. But hey thats just my opinion.LOL
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
28 Jun 07
hey that's not just any opinion, that's a great gesture for sure. i am trying to control my temper.
thanx for sharing.
@anonymili (3138)
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28 Jun 07
The only person I ever hang up on is my husband and mostly it's because he's answered the phone whilst driving. I always tell him "if I call you and you're driving, don't answer, just call me back when you're parked up. If you don't answer within 15-20 seconds I'll assume you're driving!" He's so silly and still answers when he's driving, I've told him if I call him and he's driving I will hang up. At least 3 times a week when I call him and ask "are you driving hun?" he says he is so I hang up. Then he gets upset that I huny up on him. I can't win, if I don't phone him all day he gets upset thinking I'm neglecting him and if I do phone him and he's driving as he does a lot of that for his job I don't want to be the cause of him having an accident and/or getting fined and points on his licence but like most over-confident men he doesn't think he'll ever get caught GRRRRRRRRR!
I've never bang the phone on my parents, my mum is too chilled out and although my dad can be annoying our phone conversations never last more than a minute or so cos I live very close to them and see them very often:)
@FluffyDude (2)
• Canada
27 Jun 07
I try not to, because: First- I might break my phone Second- It's not nice, to ANYONE (excluding stalkers) I have occasionally banged the phone on my friends because I was REALLY mad at them.