Would you Date an Ex Convict?

I dated a guy that did 2 years time. He told me upfront about it and it wasn't for anything that harmed anyone. Just in the wrong place at the wrong time, (well and doing the wrong thing).... It ended up not working out for us, but I don't think it had much to do with the fact that he had done time. Actually, my now fiance used to frequent jail but that was at a time where he life was for fun and craziness. Most of us have been there and I think it's made him a better man. He's much more down to earth than most guys I've dated. Great topic!

It depends on the crime if it was murder rape or identity theft no way

nope. i don't think i need anyone elses problems. And why are they doing time? obviously they are needing rehabilitation and belong in prison. why would anyone want to get into that kind of situation? its hard enough dating someone or having a relationship/marriage to a regular normal person-too much of a hassle.

Well I guess it would depend. I am a firm believer in "never say never". So if I met someone, and they were honest about their pastfrom the start, I would be happy to give them a second chance, especially if they showed true remorse for what they had done. AFter all - they would have served their sentence and done their time - so should be allowed to move on with their lives. Having said that - for all my good intentions, I know myself well enough to know that if the crime had been cruelty to children or animals, then I know in my heart I could never forgive them or trust them, so the relationship would never get off the ground. There is no way in thre world I could let a man touch me if I knew his hands had touched a innocent animal or child with intent to hurt, and got some pleasure out of it. I would be too revolted - but other than that - I probably would.

If I we're in the said situation, probably yeah I would still continue to date the guy despite from his past because I believe that through those people around him who are more willing to give him that chances and to build him up with courage so he could stand back his ground where he've left behind from back then. I would just be there for him no matter what until I can see changes in him and for me that would be my ever greatest achievement in my life that I was able to help one soul to do good things and better in his life and more onwards.

It would depend on what was the cause and all that. As long as there's no time of going back to jail or causing anymore problems, then it could work. Otherwise, I would probably not be able to continue the relationship. Hopefully know not to cause that type of problem again. If it's like a murder or something, I probably would not because that would be too much for me to handle.

Since you said that he is perfect, I can tell that you were saying we've been dating quite a long time now and then he told me that he was an ex convit before, well with the story I would probably will understand him. But to answer the question, it depends. If he's a good man and I can see the qualities I like, I will definitely date him. I have no idea what exactly happened to him why he got jailed so therefore, it doesn't matter unless he'll hide the truth to me.

well it all depend on you , if you really think that he or she has really change i dont see a reason why you should not give him or her a chance

You have to try your luck if love can rehabilitate him it is wonderful ! but if he takes knife again it is doom what else.Be careful, and think before you leap, one cannot play with his life.

maybe i'd have my perception of him changed a bit, and maybe i'd become wary and guarded. but it really depends on whether i've already fallen for him because in this case, love can be blinded and his weaknesses can be overshadowed by my love and concern for him. if i already have loved him, maybe i'd find out why he was in jail, for what case, for how long, did he get a 'reclusion perpetua' but is on parole? etc... if he was in for 'estafa', or minor cases of misdemeanor like DUI or driving on a suspended license, that's really tolerable. but for serial killings, murder, double murder, robberies and other heinous crimes - i'd stay away, as certainly my love cannot overshadow anymore these evil doings. i'd be more in fear than in love.

it would depend on what the person did, and wheterh they're still involved in that kind of lifestyle. sometimes people get involved in things and matters get out-of-hand. if the person is a bad person, I'm out. If they just made a mistake, I will give them a chance.

yes iwould because everybody needs a second chance.what ever happen before me is none of my business really as long as he stay truthful,faithful and loving with me i am fine with it.

Ehh love isnt determined by that.

You said an ex-convict that matches me physically, and perfect? Yes, as long as he will assure me that he changed for good.

I think it would all depend on what they were in jail for, but I don;t think I could for fear it could happen again

If he was honest in the beginning of the relationship,and he did not physically harm someone. I might date him. It also will depend on when the problem happened. If it was something that happened recently, I will probably not be interested, but if it was a long time ago I might.

i think i can handle dating an ex con. Of course i will consider the offense of which he was convicted. Probably if its just petty theft, or physical injuries, or any other crimes as long as not heinous, then i might date an ex con.But if he is involved in heinous crimes like rape, murder, kidnapping, dating with him is a big NO!

I would really find such thing VERY HARD to accept. However, it all depends on how I got to know him. If I find him really different from what he has told me that it would seem to be difficult to believe that he committed such crime, then I guess I COULD accept him - to some degree. I would really find it hard to accept Rape, espionage, treason, murder and any violence related crimes. It is just so against what I believe in.

Once a Con, always a Con! I know it sounds crass, But. . . These people are Soooooo Smooth, and so Convincing Its a way of life,in many cases its all they know and its all they Want to know. They live on the other side of the law, are proud of it, and are very intelligent people. Life is too short to take a chance with a Con! If I was dating, or had Business with such a Person, and the Truth came out......I'm Gone!

Well, I would if he didn't do something very horrible. It's o.k. for me if he did insider trading or the sorts *LOL*. On the other hand, there are a lot of fish in the ocean, why stick to someone who has done something wrong? Anyways, here's a joke that might keep us a little bit off the topic: I was reviewing my client's case with him in prison when it was announced that visitors had 15minutes to leave or be locked in for the three-hour prisoner head count. I bade my client farewell and left. But somehow, I managed to get lost on my way out. Desperate for directions to the exit, I noticed some men wearing orange jumpsuits. Mistaking them fro workmen, I called out to one of them, a no-neck barrel-chested man. "Sir," I said, "I need to get out of here." He shrugged. "Lady, so do I." =)