No Note on the Counter.

You can be mad all you want, and it will get you nowhere. They will be astounded that you reacted so strongly, flattered that you might be worried, they will be sorry, they will try to do better, they will promise. I bet they got somewhere, and completely lost track of the time. On the other hand your fists will be clenched,your jaw will be clenched, your muscles will be tight, you will have shallow breathing and high blood pressure. It is not worth it. Go do something lovely for yourself, relax and enjoy a break in your routine. You cannot choose what happens, you can choose how you respond.

If no one is home and I'm expecting someone to be there. I do glance around for a note. If I don't find one, I call my husbands cell number to find out what's going on. I don't think it's wrong to be mad. I agree with your thought that it should be common courtesy to leave one.

I think it would really depend on the circumstances. These days most people have mobile phones so it's really just a matter of phoning or sending a text message. There is usually a good explanation why a note was not left, perhaps they went out to do something and then were delayed or didn't realise what time it was (it does happen sometimes), or perhaps a neighbour required assistance urgently and there was no time to leave a note. Does your landline phone have a facility to record when the last incoming call was? if so you should have checked that in case they left in response to a telephone call. Most notes we leave nowadays is to say if the dog has been fed.

Ohhhhh yes, that really irks me when my family does that to me. It is 'understood' that if we aren't going to be home at normal times, we leave a note and/or call on the telephone to alert the family. This especially bothers me when it involves the teen children! I think that you certainly have a right to be angry, as it is worrisome for you. To make you worry is not right!

I always leave a note, but no one ever leaves one for me, Im just left sitting at home wondering. Like you said common coutesy...Not in my household...I dont even bother now...lol.

I agree, it is only common courtesy to leave a note to let someone know where you are if you aren't where you are supposed to be. I always let my kids know where I am, and I have taught them to do the same, still occasionally forget to let me know. I get irritated by it, but at least it doesn't happen often.

no, i don't think that you are wrong at all... i will be mad as well if i am in your position as they make me worry and wondering where they are... if they carry a cellphone, may be you can call them to find out where they are...

I don't think you are wrong to be mad. I would be too. In my house we always leave each other a note if we go somewhere unexpected. My boyfriend sometimes leaves me messages on the computer using notepad and then he puts it on the desktop. As long as there is not a power failure, I will get the message right away because the computer is the first place I go.lol.

My husband does that to me all the time. And yes you should be ticked off. Its not right for them to do that. Because I would certainly take a couple of seconds and write him a note. Sometimes they can be so selfish!

I don't blame you. I would get a little upset to espically if you were expecting them to be at home.

Well, in our house, we expect either a quick note on the refrigerator or a flashing light on the answering machine. We all do that as a common courtesy to each other so no one will worry IF we are going to be more than 30 minutes late. But, we also don't expect or leave a detailed explanation either. "Stuck at work, see you when I get home." "Went to a movie." "Gone shopping." These are all sufficient to let each other know we are out and we will be back when we get back.

I expect a note on the table when I come home and noone is there- If there isn't a note- my sig. other is usually home within 10-15 minutes- It is common courtesy to leave one- It's not like we are controlling-- just worried- I usually get a chicken scratch- out on 4-wheeler- be home later XoXo-- me! lol

Well,If this this the situation i would expect to have any notes left at the counter .The notes does not has to be very detail ,at least a short or quick notes about what is going on or where they were.I think every one should know this a common courtesy for those who leave at the same house regardless is family member or room mate.

yup i always look for a note. i would be a lil ticked off too. thats your hubby he should beable to leave you a note to tell you something instead of dissapearing with no tracks on you. i get frustraited and worried when i dont have a note left for me. is your roomie male or female?

No I don't think you are wrong that was always one agreement me and the Kids had if we can't phone leave a note to say where you are so that no one needs to worry

You have every right to be ticked off. I think it is very unthoughtful and selfish to cause you to wonder or even worry where they are or if something had happened to them. I'd give them hell when they got back.

I don't look for a note. I expect a text message. If I don't get one, I start sending text messages myself. I don't blame you for being mnad at all. Not only is it common courtesy let you know where they are, it will stop you worrying aboput a car accident, etc. I hope they bring you home a great dinner.

I dont' think it is wrong of you to be mad. It wouldn't have taken long to leave a little not letting you know they were gone. My dad's always home when i get home cause he's too ill but he would leave a note if he were healthy and able to go places

I usually leave notes regarding what food is available, and when I might be home. I always look for a note, but rarely find one. I have a cell phone, and my hubby does too, but it's still nice to see the note.

Oh man.. one time a few years back when I lived with my parents, I came home from work and the house was empty. I was confused because my dad's car was outside. My mom's wasn't but she was at work, so where was my dad? Not to mention that as I'm walking through the kitchen I see blood...and I'm like Wha????? The dining room....big gobs of blood on the carpet. So now I'm freaking out. No Dad, No Note ... No messages...No calls. What happened!? About 3 hours later my mom and dad came home. Turned out my dad had cut himself on something and my neighbor saw all the blood when my dad went to throw the glass away outside and drove him to the hospital. So my mom left work and met him there and etc. But I was like Seriously... You could have CALLED!!!! I think it's perfectly ok to be mad that no note was left... you never know what could have happened!