Gentle MUM Strict DAD

For our family I am the boss. I do all the regular displine. But when it is a real biggy, I do have their dad and I discuss it together. Then they seem to realize how serious it is. But for the most part he gets the fun I get the chores. I don't really mind though, my mommy day gifts are bigger than his... As long as they know you love them they will understand.

We really try hard not to do that in our family. I know I'm the stricter one but we want our child to see that Mom and Dad are a unit and they cannot play one against the other. So, what my husband and I did are to discuss the rules, boundaries, do and don'ts so we both agree on something that we're comfortable with and apply them accordingly. I don't think discipline should only fall on one parent. I think that is the job of both parents. But it can be something you're both comfortable with. For example, if you both agree that you're not going to spank the child. Then, what will the appropriate punishment be if the child misbehaves? Maybe you can use a time-out chair. That would be the gentler approach but that does not mean it's a more lenient approach. You can still be strict and fair and your child will learn that there are consequences to his/her actions and your child will appreciate that in later years.