Complicated Love Triangle Scene
By beauty_ph
@beauty_ph (2749)
Philippines
July 3, 2007 8:49am CST
My officemate asked if I could help her resolve this problem related to her friends.
Her friends were lovers and she got mad when the lovers were into a very complicated love triangle. I had a hard time thinking what to tell her so I decided to share this.
The guy loved girl1 before. They got separated and happened to meet girl2. After 3 years of being together with girl2 he found out that girl1 was pregnant. They communicated and he knows it was't his child but was still trying to help girl1.
The families of girl1 and the guy know well. Everybody thought its the guy's child because girl1 is telling them that he is the father.
The guy denies it to girl2 but does not care of what others think or if girl1 says so.
Now girl2 wanted to give-up the relationship since it became complicated this time. Girl1 even tries to quarrel her. But the guy told girl2 he would commit suicide if they break-up.
My friend thinks the guy was the real father since the guy is even living with girl1 because of helping her out in such situation.
What do you think? This is something complicated and if I am a friend of girl2 I would be affected too just like what happened to my officemate.
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7 responses
@squaretile (3778)
• Singapore
31 Jul 07
wow that is complicated indeed. so basically the guy feels responsible towards his Ex, now that she's pregnant whether by him or not. i think this bloke is trying to step on two boats at the same time.
i think his threatening to kill himself if girl2 leaves him is very childish. surely he can't be living with girl 1 and expect girl 2 to be ok with it! i hope they resolve this somehow. they are adults and really shouldn't be stuck like that.
@beauty_ph (2749)
• Philippines
31 Jul 07
Yes very complicated. I am glad not to be in the same situation. I know that there are alot of honest and matured guys. This guy is exceptional, he can't admit things or accept the fact on how he is involved in the situation. Thanks for responding my friend. GOd bless!
@mschiqui (1284)
• Philippines
4 Jul 07
yeah very much complicated..i guess girl2 should not stop loving and believing the guy,this is the time that she is really badly needed by the guy.The guy should settle this really,once and for all,he should talk with girl1 and her family so that he should clear things out.The guy should also then moved out from the house of the girl 1,so that he will really know what to do..The guy should have his decision,now so that no one will be hurt longer.
@beauty_ph (2749)
• Philippines
4 Jul 07
I think the guy have a good heart. Maybe he really wanted to be helping girl1. But for me it is not right for girl1 to claim the guy from girl2 by quarrelling her. I do not know what to say now. Thanks for a very kind response. GOD bless!
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@lucy02 (5015)
• United States
3 Jul 07
I agree with your friend. It doesn't make any sense for him to go back to her just when she gets pregnant otherwise. Also if she was lying and saying it was his and it wasn't, I think he would get angry and leave her. That's the only thing that makes sense to me....that the baby is his.
@beauty_ph (2749)
• Philippines
4 Jul 07
A single man I think can never stand to be a father of a child during baptism if its not true. I really have no idea about them but I think I agree with my officemate when she thinks that the guy is not telling the truth. Thanks for helping my friend. GOD bless!
@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
3 Jul 07
This sounds like a tv soap opera. Since he has been with the second girl so long, does she think he is cheating on her? Obviously the timing would say it is not his kid. but some would not trust him. Sounds like someone does not trust someone. If 2 trusts her boyfriend and he is honest, she would believe it is not his. But, there are too many jealous and untrusting people these days. I dont think there is much anyone can do.
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@beauty_ph (2749)
• Philippines
4 Jul 07
I would trust my boyfriend too and believe in him. My officemate is girl2's friend and she told me this guy was even acting as if the real father during the child's baptism. Now my officemate can't believe the guy. And girl2 wanted to set the guy free since he is living with girl1. I think girl2 is very much confused since for me the guy's actions are louder than words. Thanks for responding!
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@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
3 Jul 07
This problem is between the guy and his 2 girls. No one else is involved and so they should not interfere. You are only bringing needless worry into your life by trying to get involved. Everyone has their own problems, and should be able to work them out. Its nobodys business what goes on between these 3 people.
Live and let Live! Go about your own business and let others be!
@beauty_ph (2749)
• Philippines
4 Jul 07
I think that's what friends are for. If a friend will ask you advice, like what happened to my officemate, they can always talk and listen to each other. I think some advices can be accepted or rejected just like in mylot. Thank you for sharing what you think. GOD bless!
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@rdougl (469)
• United States
3 Jul 07
Yea this is a bad situation for your friend. I understand that the guy has feelings for girl1 and wants to help her. I would want to help girl1 also but would only do it with the permission of my girlfriend. It would be difficult though. If my goal was to keep my current girlfriend, I would not do anything to offend her. Definitely not have the chick move in. Probably I would ask if she could move in with my current girlfriend. How about them apples?
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@beauty_ph (2749)
• Philippines
4 Jul 07
My friend I can also blame girl2 in this situation for sticking with his boyfriend when she even knows he is living with her. During the baptism of the child he was there as if the father. I know my officemate was hurt because she knows her friend, girl2 was hurt too. I think girl2 should leave girl1 and the guy alone. Thanks for the response my friend. God bless!
@Zelmarq (12607)
• Cebu City, Philippines
4 Jul 07
I would also be affected, i care for my friend and I dont want to see her hurt in someway. I want the best for her, Though I know it would hurt her, but the best is to leave him be. Its easier said than done but tell her for her own sake to free herself from that mess that she is in. It takes a lot of courage and time will heal all her pain from doing so and she could start asap. Theres no use staying long in such a relationship.
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@beauty_ph (2749)
• Philippines
4 Jul 07
Thanks for a wonderful response my friend. I too was hurt because I learned that my friend-officemate was hurt because of the situation. Your help is very much appreciated. GOD bless!
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