My mom

I think that the basic thing is trying to find out what's wrong with her. She might have a problem that all of you don't know about. So it would help if you talked to her. And if the problem justifies her behaviour, i guess you will have to be patient with her, even though of course there are limits that you cannot let her go over.

Hello Laydee. Maybe there's another reason for your mom's sudden change of attitude besides menopause. Maybe she wants something to change in her life? I suggest this one because my mother is somehow going through the same thing. She easily gets upset and tends to be a little paranoid. My siblings and I are trying our best to understand her. If you can, try talking to her. Maybe all she needs is someone she can tell whatever's troubling her. Just continue holding on to your patience. Because if you lose that, then the situation might get worse. With my mom, she said she wants something out of her life besides expecting financial help from us, her children. She was so used of being the one who gives financial help but now that she's also hypertensive and her body just doesn't want to cooperate with her mind, she can only do limited things. And that totally frustrates her. And that frustration makes her the way she is right now. I do hope things will turn out fine for you and your mom.

Hello Laydee, You say your mom his grumpie all the time and for no reason, you also say she suffers from hypertention. Take your mom to her doctor, it sound like her blood pressure is up. She may need medication adjustments. I tend to have high blood pressure it is something that happens during and after menopause. She may also still be in menopause. It can take years. Mine is now still on for the past 10 years. This can cause hypertentioin and needs care. Hope things work out and don't worry even when we dearly love someone those mood swings can become very annoying. I know you love your mom and so does she. She probably dosen't like the ways she feels either, so take her for some examinations and check it out, you both will benefit.:) Take care, Jadona2006

I love my non more than anyone else. She the most beautiful, loving, caring, and I'll do everything just to make my mom proud even if I have to put my life on it. She's irreplaceable. "Love you mom!"

I can understand what you are going through, mother-in-law is always in alot of pain and I know that plays a big factor in how she has changed. The best advice I could give you is to try and free her from her everyday life and take her somewhere she use to enjoy. This may bring out the mother you once knew. Good luck!!

My mom was the same way when she first started menopause, she'd yell at me for everything and anything. She'd come home from work and just lay into me about how she had a hard day and I shouldn't start with her and all I did was ask her to hand me something. It's really hard to watch them go through it because they don't want to yell at you or make a big scene, they just can't help it. I just helped my mom out by trying to get everything done for her when she came home from work, and finally all that yelling and picking at everything passed.

it appears that your mother is aged about50 years or so. Naturally menopause is one of the reason for irritation secondly there may be inferiority complex,that she was being ignored by her kith and kin. thirdly it is natural phenomenon that when age advanaces, the mental trend will also change both in men and women. they become sinical, ever criticising,feeling that the deeds of others are unbearable to them. about 70 to 80% of aged will get such neurosis. imbalance of mind, inferiority,and also weakness. when body weaken, it will create a feeling of selfpity.there will be a feeling that all are ignoring them,,that they are loosing their superemacy, that they were not treated properly etc . the solution is to convince them that they are supreme and create a feeling that they are given top priority and importance in every aspect. the old age fobia is more dangerous than any other diseased in the world.

Menopause lasts for many, many years sometimes. I am only in my early 40's, not menopause yet but feeling a lot of symptoms and get cranky and irritable a lot, I'm afraid of "the change" and how it will affect my relationships with the people I love. There might be something else going on with your mom that she hasn't told you yet too. Be patient and loving, she's your mom and needs your support no matter what the issue.

maybe your mom has a problem she can't talk to you about.ask her or bring her to a doctor she can talk to.take care!

Could your Mom be diabetic? I am, and when my blood sugars are too high or too low, I get really cranky and would fall out with my own shadow. (Hence my name, which was picked by my wife). I used to have a little dog who developed diabetes. Before the diabetes he had a lovely temperament but when he became diabetic he would bite anyone at any time. Eventually, I had to have him put down. I'm not suggesting that you have your Mom put down but try to find out if she is thirsty all the time and if she is making water more often than she used to. Both of these are symptoms of diabetes and if she has these symptoms she should see her Doctor and have her blood/glucose levels checked.

She is my best friend, to share and decide. Thats my best mom and she is unbeatable!I love her so much