Is there any need to compare with your friends or not ?

that's a very good question and universal observation. we'd like to think that there's actually no need for it, but then every one seems to be doing it, supposedly not out of need, but because of this constant personal struggle to achieve something at success, material gains or happiness. there's just this human nature to compare ourselves with the other people surrounding us mainly because we're social beings, humanly bound to compete as a means of survival for the fittest. it's just a basic insticnt or a drive evolving with human activities, be it on test-taking, or income generating, or discoveries and technology, they're all commodities for success, for getting the edge, for excellence, or survival. for some it's a need - like a need (or USA's need)for superpower; for some it's a drive - to achieve something you've been dreaming of for so long - maybe a liposuction, which u don't actually need, but will just give you the edge and security. for most of us who can't compete, it's just another day at the park, and we pretend not to be affected by this dynamics called the circle of life. actually if used positively, it gives us healthy drive to strive for the better, be more productive, to be more successful. it's just takes a lot of courage to do it because it demands so much effort and responsibility on your part. and then sometimes luck can be so against us. and so when this happens and you find out that your friends are luckier than you it will take more courage to genuinely congratulate him for his good fortune, coz you're not so much eaten by jealousy and disgust for your ill-fate. the best thing is to be open and accepting of who and what you are. accept your limitations, and if you can overcome them, so much the better for you to work around it and be the best that you can be.

that's also puzzled me , just let it be ,that's my way .

We are gifted with different talents so, we should not compare with one another. We should try to appraciate our friends when they success in anything that they play or they are in. That's what friends are for, jealousy between friends should not be there. After all we are all different and we should try to enjoy that, but not try to be what we are not.

yeah, I agree with you...its better that way

I think on one side comparisons are good if they are done in a healthy manner so that both persons can progress and if they are done with feeling of jealousy than it's not true friendship as we are not happy for our friend if she/he is progreesing in any of the fields............. We should be happy with growth of our friends then only friendship can grow......