How do you deal with unwanted visitors?

tell them that you have to get ready for an appointment in two hours time. do not offer them anything that would make them stay longer.keep on going to the phone as if you are trying to call someone or if you have a cellphone with you ,keep it handy by dialing your own landline and let it ring then answer your landline as if you are talking to someone and excuse yourself and try to talk longer as if it was very important .if these guys can't sem to get the sign that you are busy then i guess you have to ask them to leave and tell them that you really have some thing to do.

I love having company, but only on my own terms. When I was coming up, I was taught never to invite myself to something; a lady always has an invitation, preferably written, lol. It spares everyone from a potentially embarrassing situation. When I do receive unwanted visitors, I explain kindly, but firmly, that I am presently unable to welcome them. Sometimes I extend an invitation for a later date, especially for those I actually like. There are some visitors I never want to see, and to those I just explain that I wasn't expecting company and so was unprepared for their visit. If you stay on the porch while explaining this and keep the door partially closed behind you, they usually get the idea without your having to be rude. A true friend will understand and should know enough to call beforehand, even if it's to say they're already on their way, just so you have a chance to straighten up beforehand. Blessed Be

If i don't want them, I just don't let them in, so they can never become unwanted...... Every "staying" visitor in my place is "wanted" ! or accepted..... or whatever you call it! BTW, I noticed the 22 ! Happy birthday..... See you !

That would not happen to me me as all my friends know that no-one is welcome if I am not expecting them. All I ask is a phone call to check that it is OK with me otherwise it is likely that I not "be at home". Of course this is not the case in an emergency situation.

I don't know if there is a nicer way to tell them other than telling them in a nice soft voice or ignoring their knocking altogether LOL I have a neighbor that comes by all the time and because I know her knock, I ignore the door on occasion. Sometimes I am in my pjs, the house is a mess and I don't feel like having company and the way I handle it is not answering the door. If she hears the tv, so be it. I have told my son never to answer the door, so if he hears her knock or anyone else, he runs and tells me. I peep through the peephole and then walk away. Sometimes I have answered the door and she wants to come in for a visit, and I have told her that either we are on our way out, or the house is a mess, I would prefer if she didn't. She doesn't like that but hey, it's my home LOL.

I have had this problem before I was nice in the beginning but alas, some people just don't get the hint. So I am pretty much rude about it. So I am going to offer up two types of responses Nice and Rude. Nice 1. Tell the person you are really busy and don't have time to chat. 2. You are trying to finish a certain task(say laundry,cooking,etc) within the next few minutes. 3. Tell them you are getting ready for dinner,lunch,breakfast 4. Tell them you are getting ready to leave. Rude 1. I really don't have time to sit and talk, I will call you when I get the free time and we can talk. 2. Leave a note on the door saying, Unless you are bleeding don't come knocking.

I had started a similar discussion about this but not exactly.I have a neighbor who started to get on my nerves she would just come knocking on the door and then if she see my kids she knows im in the house.Sometimes she can be very worsome.I mean sometimes i do not want to be bothered by her.I can be relaxing and dont want any company.I normally pretend that i want her there but im tired of doing that.SO I want to tell her in a nice way to give me a break.I guess i have to tell her straight up that sometimes i dont want company in a really nice way.

They do bother me but I just put on a brave face and treat them with a lot of dignity. I get to enjoy their company in the end if they try to be nice and apologize about showing up uninvited.

Wel I tell them as polite as I can that it is not convenient an that they should have phoned me first I always check first before I go to see anyone

Yes, that can be really nasty. The best solution to avoid these nasty few days visitors is to ask them about how long will they stay - in this way you know the last day, that you can mention often :) while speaking to them. If they come too often you can make their days nasty too. Uncomfortable bed, pillow, small place for their clothes, making noise when they want to have rest. I have never had unwanted few days visitor.... The dinner guests is another question. But I have not had unwanted dinner guests either... In fact I can not understand how can it happens to you... I think it can be your fault in your personality if you have often these kinds of visitors.

Hmmm lets be fair about it. You can't just tell them to get the f**k out of your house...it just rude. But you can make them realize that your are not in the state of having visitors. If you'll yawn at every minute, if you'll but on a tired face, pretend you have a bad head ake(this one works all the time), they'll have to be to ignorant not to leave you alone. And by the way...everybody knows that when you have a head ake you must be alone...so this could be the answer(for me it actually is). The aproach depends on every person(their character). If you're an outgoing person you'll rapidly get past the ideea of not whanting them around, and have a great time with them(this also works sometime;P for me because i'm an outgoing person to, but there are some people that i don't whant them around and pretend i have a head ake:P). Now it's just up to you what you are going to do. Hope this helps. (ps: please excuse my poor english, i'm romanian:))

Well, IM still a teenager, but what I hated the most was RIGHT when my family was about to leave to go somewhere, or my parents were about to drive me somewhere, my aunt or someone would show up for a visit. To be polite, my parents would talk to them and ask them if they wanted coffee. But the visits didnt last past a half an hour though. It was just annoyingly in convenient.

I'm living in a boarding house where I have rented the whole room - the biggest room in the whole entire house. Two weeks later, I made new friends and goes along with them. But as time passes by, I don't like the feeling anymore that they frequently visit my room. I want privacy now! But I'm too weak to tell them I just want them to realized how I feel if they stacked up together in my room. It's hard to please everybody.

I am very protective of my privacy and space. I have certain friends that could drop by anytime and it matters not what i am doing...I am always always so glad to see them. Others, I have to be in the mood for. I am very clear to those people. I let them know that I am very busy and it is important that they call before coming by. It is! And then there are those that I am never in the mood to visit with...they are not my friends. I don't like or dislike them...just don't have the time to devote to them. I don't know. I have bounderies and I am pretty clear about them. I just tell people that I have alot going on and I don't have alot of time to sit around and chat. I really don't have a big problem in this area. Just be straight up and honest. Im pretty sure the ones that might be offended are the ones you least wanted to spend time with anyway. All the others will understand.

Fortunately, I have not had this problem with unwanted visitors but if I did, I would probably give them some kind of hint that I am busy and that they need to go. You could always pretend that you had an emergency that came up and that they had to go. You can tell them that you do not feel like having company right now so you can ask them politely if they could leave.

Well, my mother and father are people who like to have guests, they treat all their relatives and friends as permanently wellcomed. I am on the opposite side.I hate somebody else to stay arround more then some hours. So i try to reduce the comunications with theese guests as much as it`s possible. They are my parents`s guests, i am polite, but i keep my privacy and dont think that i am obligated to be funny and to share their company.

I get so few here for we dont have many friends and none drop by. But in Tenn. we had drop ins all the time we just made room for them at dinner time or what ever always had plenty of food and most were welcome. now years ago this feller would bring hubby home from work and hubby would open his mouth and say stay and eat! and all the time pulling off his jacket he would say he really shouldnt but he did every time then he would talk and talk and talk and hubby would go to bed and leave me up there talking to him I would finally tell him he had to leave as hubby had gone to bed and I needed to clean up and get to bed too. I was very uncomfortable with that . I finally told hubby he either had to stay up or not have that feller bring him home!

I communicate! Usually that does not happen and if it would I think that with kind communication would be well accepted. Escpecially if make alternative arrangement for later when the quality would make up for the drop ins. Life is always happening and when we allow for these kinds of things and communicate our appreciation yet no time for such it can work itself out. You are not rude when the people have not called previously.

Well I don't have enough space to have visitors overnight for a few days so I don't have that problem! If I have an uninvited guest come to my house when I am not in the mood for a visit I would never be rude - I would hate to hurt someones feelings so I would be as gracious as I could! If they came when we had something we had to do or somewhere we had to go I would apologise and explain the situation and perhaps suggest they called next time so they didn't have a wasted trip! xx

I dont like to be rude to anyone, even though I dont like them. So, I will just pretend to be sweet to them, when I have a unwanted visitor. But most of the times, Im lucky that I dont get such unwanted visitors. Most of my friends and family confirms our availability and comfort before visiting us.