Is Love overrated?

That is so nice! I love my husband too! But I am SAHM and pregnant and so I am not as glamorous as I once was. Also when we first married I was an independent, feminist that would never stay at home because I always wanted to work and have "MY OWN MONEY". I have worked with several women that became victims of Domestic violence after they married and I try to keep all of their decisions/actions in my head. DV seems to start off when the woman is in a place where she has to depend solely on her husband for the finances. So when we first got married I immediately had my husband place my name on the account. I do not have a second account but my family members have definitely urged me to do so. Since we have been married I have relaxed more, but I scare easily. Anytime my wonderful laid back husband gets a little mean I think, "here it goes, we are headed for divorce court!" Our love marriages in the USA end up in divorce in over half of the cases. Arranged marriages seem to fair a little better. However I know that my husband's family would not have chosen me for their son's wife, so I would have missed out on one of the best things that has ever happened to me. I am so glad that my husband loves me! Just wish that I could relax with his family more.

I have been happily married for 32years and my wife and I seldom see everything the same.Our partnership works because we each realize that there are times when one persons needs outweighs the others. I think you can be married to someone you don't love if you realize a true partnership exists and if you are willing to occasionally stay in the background and let your partner have the limelight. Don't be so concerned about money because money won't buy happiness. Family is everything in life and should be cherished.

my mom told me before i married my husband that marriage is a decision. it's a decision to love the person for what he is -- including the negative qualities which i will later find out when i am already married. on july 21st, my husband and i will celebrate our 6th year anniversary. god knows how much he and i have been through the past 6 years. now with 2 kids, we're still together and still sticking to our decision to love each other come what may. we both have our negative sides which we have come to accept of each other. and we cherish the good things about ourselves. we try to "fill in" for the others limitations and understand our personality differences. i'm not saying we have the perfect marriage, in fact, far from it. but we do take each day one day at a time and resolve problems by talking things out instead of fighting. oh but we do argue often and i'm glad we make up afterwards.

The greatest thing in life is to love and be loved. I think there is more that one type of love. The man I considered the passionate love of my life didn't want me. I survived, pulled myself together and found someone who could love me for who I am not what I could be. We are currently making a life together. We love one another, but we have found marriage to be harder than we thought. But I love my husband and I am glad I married him (most of the time, lol). I think many people who get married are in love, but they don't expect the hard times and they give up way too easily, while love is important it doesn't fix everything. You still have to learn to pay the bills, deal with the bad habits, and each others family. Things come too easily to many people these days so that when something gets hard they give up.

I think a lot of people marry and stay with people they do not love. My mom and dad happen to be 1 good example. He doesn't divorce her because he has 4 large garages full of expensive stuff, he's afraid that she will get her half, or more, if he leaves her. He has been unfaithful to her in the past. She stays with him, just because she's been there so long. I think she sees security in it. Maybe she's afraid of the unknown. There she has a roof over her head, food, etc.

Lucky for you ;p

There are maybe more of us than you think pal , I met my now hubby when I was 16 almost 50 years ago , we married when I was 18 and him 21 , we were both virgins and proud of it and have been together since , he is my best friend and my soul mate . I almost lost him last year through complications during a triple heart bypass , but thank God he pulled through , we have 3 sons and 4 grandchildren , I wouldn't change him for any one else , he still makes my heart skip a beat when I look at him xx

I am still in love with my husband and he is my best friend I doubt that I will not eve be out of love with him I mean I have stayed in this manner for over 14 years so you know I know that there are points where at times you can fall in and out of love but I have not gotten to that point yet. I feel like we are definitely meant to be together. going on 11 years strong!!

I'M not married for the moment, but I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years (in 2 weeks lol). I'm in love and I'M happy to be love. We have already been through some hard time, but I'M not the kind of gilr who will left someone for his sometimes bad character. I have to admit that he also have changed a little (for the good). True love can still exist

Hi there, I was with my wife for 14 years before we decided to call it quits. Actually, she walked out on me. I am not a big believer in divorce, and I had planned to stay together for the sake of our kids but it was not meant to be. In truth, we were living together but not "in love" for many years. Probably the best thing that ever happened to me was her leaving. :) cheers,

I don't think I could stay with my spouse if I didn't love him. We'd make each other miserable. And, we wouldn't make our child very happy either. With that being said, I don't plan on leaving him for anyone else. We understand each other's quirks and I just don't think anyone else would put up with either one of us. So, we're kind of stuck together. Fortunately, we also love each other deeply and are best friends. I can tell him anything. And, he can tell me anything. Personally, I don't see how someone could not be in love when they get married. Isn't that the entire reason to get married? I thought so at least.

Yes, I am with the one I love. We have been married 38 years and are still very much in love. I feel sorry for couples where love is not part of the relationship.

I do not marry a girl which I don't love. the true meaning of the love is to do everything you can do for the one you loved. trust, responsibility, devotion, and compassion are very important to a sound marriage. i'm so glad to see that your wife just you best friend, soulmate is wonderful. let alone the others's suspect, come up with all you love to your wife. You will be happy forever!

I don't think love is overrated it is a beautiful thing and it should be appreciated, I have been in love and let me tell you part of it sucks but part of it is just so nice.

Well, I have heard that people do get married for other reasons than love, so I think it is possible to be married to someone even if you don't love them. I love my husband with all my heart and I do imagine my life with him forever. But, he always gives me the doubts that isn't what he wants to do with me. He always is looking at other women and having thoughts about a possibilities of having relationships with other people. That alone makes me wonder if he even loves me at all. I mean, he says he does love me once in awhile, but it still makes me wonder somehow.

I wouldn't say that love is overrated. Everyone has their own interpretation of love so I can't say that it is. I just feel that some couples just fall out of love at some point in time. People change and they allow their feeling to change with them. However, I just hope that couples considering divorce would just put in their utmost effort in saving their marriage.. Of course we don't know what the couples are going through (domestic violence, gambling addictions, etc).. but then I hope that some people think alot more longer on divorce than they do when they want to get married. Personally, I am married to someone who at first I wasn't totally passionately in love with.. but have grown to love him deeply. We have our own problems but we do try to persevere. We have worked out our disagreements and happy to say that we are expecting our second child.. I do wish all married couples and also divorcees all the best with their life. Have a nice day..