are u gonna tell your bestfriend if you saw his/her bf/gf with another girl/man?

@jen_n514 (218)
Philippines
July 7, 2007 8:28am CST
oh well..honestly i really dont know what to do if i am in that situation. first i want to be honest to my bestfriend but at the same time i dont want to cause her pain..u know what i mean? its really hard but i hope i wont be in that situation ever!:D in your opinion or personal experiences what do you think the right thing to do?
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@sunkissed (4330)
• United States
8 Jul 07
Yes, I would tell my friend if I saw her man with another woman. I would call her right away, so she could find out what was going on. I have done this in the past. I would want my friends to do the same for me. It is always the unnowing that really hurts the worst, I have found this out from experience. i had an old boyfriend that was cheating on me, I could tell that he was, but could not prove it, I sure wish, someeone had called with with this kind of information, I would not have stayed with him so long. I believe you should always be honest with a best friend, even if the truth hurts.
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@jen_n514 (218)
• Philippines
9 Jul 07
i guess you're right...need to be honest to your bestfriend even you know it would hurt her...that is the true essence of FRIENDSHIP...right?:D
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@icedventi (155)
• United States
7 Jul 07
Of course I would tell me friend! I'd want me friend to tell me if she saw my husband with someone else so I have to return the favor. It would be really hard but I couldn't watch her waste time one someone who obviously didn't love her. She deserves so much better than that.
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@jen_n514 (218)
• Philippines
7 Jul 07
i wish we'll all have TRUE friends who are really true to us no matter what...thanks for the response...have a great day ahead of u...
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• United States
14 Sep 07
Yes I would tell my best friend if her old man was with another woman! I think that would be the right thing to do even if it does hurt her...It would be better than the other person bringing some kind of STD to her and something bad happening that way...And if he has to be with someone else he not good enough for my friend!
@tantal25 (838)
• United States
8 Jul 07
you know, if that would happen to me, i will be honest to my bestfriend. i will tell her that i saw his boyfriend with another girl because if i did not tell her just not to hurt her feelings, once she discovered that she was been cheated by her boyfriend, it will be more painful to her part because it took her days or months before he knew he was cheating to think you already knew that her boyfriend is cheating. what more if you told her you knew about that all along but never told her the truth?
@jen_n514 (218)
• Philippines
8 Jul 07
yah i guess you're right...it would be doubly hard for your bestfriend to know that you knew it all along...
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@maia0129 (91)
• Philippines
14 Sep 07
Of course, I would really tell my bestfriend if I see his bf with another woman...I think it's the right thing every bestfriend must do. Although, I don't want her to get hurt but I think that's the reality that she should face than hearing the same news from other people. And if I won't tell her and she would know that I was aware of the situation then for sure she will also feel bad about me not telling her the thing. In that case, there would be a possibility that I would lose my bestfriend...
@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
7 Jul 07
I would tell my friend. Yes it would hurt her but it would be better to find out sooner rather than later. It would get out that he is a cheater and if she finds out you knew and didn't tell her she would be man at you too. It's better be honest with your friend.
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@jen_n514 (218)
• Philippines
7 Jul 07
you're a true friend INDEED!:D
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