What would you do if your husband/wife criticize your body?

me and my hubby don't really take this seriously. Instead we always joke around about stuff like this. We have this sign on our mirror in the bedroom : OBJECTS APPEAR LARGER AND UGLIER THAN THEY ARE...lol..

no body is perfect, i think there are too many things more important than appearance. If he thinks the appearance is heavier than your relationship, then its really a big problem

I feel like this, if he dont like the way I look, then leave. The way I am is the way I am and I will not change to make anyone else happy but myself, if he doesn't like me the way I am then he needs to leave. I can't be happy if I live my life trying to please everyone else.. I have to live my life the way I want.. if someone doesn't like you for the way you look then you dont need them in your life, their not worth it. if they really cared then they would love you no matter if your a size 4 or a size 24.. Thats how I feel about it anyway :)

What do you mean "IF" He does it all the time. Reminds me I have a big butt. I am NOT obese, but I am bigger than I need to be. I know underlying it, he is concerned for my health and doens't WANT me to become obese, because with that comes heart disease, diabetes, and other issues. However, he does have a rule - he will divorce me if I ever weigh more than him, aside from if I am pregnant.

I know it is a very sensitive subject, but my husband will certainly tell me to do something about my weight should I pick up a few kg. But he won't leave me, it will be because he is concerned about my health. Obesity starts with an extra pound here and an extra pound there and before you know it, you are in big trouble. These days we do live longer but we don't have a good quality of life. To watch your weight should not be out of vanity but rather seen as a health hazard, how cruel it may sound, in the long run it is better to be cruel than to be kind. And the older we get the more difficult it get's to keep our weight down.

I am so blessed to have such a husband who never really looked in to my physical appearance and appreciate me even I do not have that "model" like body. If there are times that he talked about my being fat,it is not to tease or for me to look good but he's more concerned of my health. and when he gets fat too..I think I'll do the same.

That would be a spouse on his/her way out. If you appreciated the body of your spouse the day you loved and married him/her with vows to love in sickness and good health, to love and be honoured by that body, what arrogance will make you criticize the body you chose yourself! If my spouse criticized my body, I would just ask her what she did with it on the night of our wedding? why now?

Just relax and keep smiling!

My hubby is quite sensitive about what he says to me. I have been overweight for many years before I met him and he met me at this size. I have tried various diets but am not good at sticking to them but he always says he loves me the way I am. My ex hubby never said anything about my size but he did tell me shortly after I met his parents that his dad said I was fat and I was quite upset about it as I had been with my ex for 7 years by that time and we had decided to get married already and his father was using my weight as a reason why we shouldn't get married LOL! How pathetic. Anyway I guess I should have got out then as that marriage went down the toilet some years later! I do feel that people should worry about their own size and problems before criticising others for their looks. People can be extremely sensitive about their weight whether they are overweight or underweight and people should realise that it is not their business to tell someone they look unattractive. x

I have a good friend, who puts up with this all the time. Very attractive, she is average, maybe a few extra pounds. He has on more than one occasion told her how she needs to lose weight. One mainly, she had just had a child, and he told her she needed to go to gym just after 3 weeks of having the child. I think it is sad, and pathetic, but what do I know? :P. What can you do? Other than watch who you marry! I think that is a main problem with people these days. They are too impatient to wait for someone who will treat them good. Is this their fault? They are told that if they are not married by the age of 20, something is wrong. It is a sick, twisted worlds way of feeling better about themselves. They are reflecting their own problems on you....................... sad.

Whenever my husband and I cuddles, I always pinpoint his bulging tummy though it is not a big one. I stressed out that it is better to have a refined & toned body but I am not forcing him to work it out. He listens and comments sometimes. Those are just part of our loving conversations. We never took it seriously.

My husband never really says anything about my body, he says I am beautiful and attractive to him. He also says it is the inner beauty that I possess that makes me sexy and attractive not the outside shell. He also knows that I have Polycystic Ovary Syndrome and Hypothyroidism, which is a double whammy on weight loss. So, I am overweight and I don't much care for being as heavy as I am, but I have accepted being big as a part of my life. I just try to eat healthy and work out when I can. Right now, I am stuck like chuck! I have a foot problem and I am not to do any heavy impact excercise. Still he says, I am beautiful and that he loves me. Eventually we all shed our youthful beauty and if you don't love the person your with for who they are on the inside, your relationship won't last very long. At least that is how I feel.

If my spouse is to say i am fat, i will take it as a constructive answer that i am really fat and i will ask for her opinion for what i can really do to reduce my fats, am i to go for weight-loss program or just do evening jogging so that i feel more fresher and to also reduce my flabs.

Actually, before we got married, I told him already that I was sensitive about this, so I've already warned him long ago NEVER to comment on my weight or body shape. That works for me! ;-D

I welcome the criticisms and if anything can be done to correct it I am interested in doing it. Why not welcome consultants without paying?

..he happens to be in worse shape than I am, so perhaps just a withering look would do! (I'm sort of kidding.. I think:) - I think it's hard for people to listen to criticism.. so I try not to criticize or point our flaws. Heaven knows, I have enough of my own to keep me plenty busy and diligent!:)

i have a wonderful husband who doesn't criticize how i look like, even though i don't have the best body in the world. but in contrast, his brother criticizes his wife when sometimes, she gets heavy, even if she has a beautiful body. i think those guys are selfish, thinking only of themselves, because they don't want to be seen with fat women.

I won't let it bother me that much but I will try to do something about it. So, that I do not have to hear about it anymore.

My feeling on this is if my spouse found fault with any part of me that is her problem. I am what I am and would never do the same to her. If it were not out of anger and not truly meant I would except it and we would be okay. Otherwise I would have to move on. You are right about so many people believing there body is everything. If they don't look a certain way they feel bad and expect to be criticized about it. How sad that is. We ALL are beautiful in our own way and body size has ‘nothing’ to do with it. But we are trained from childhood that it is important. Especially women! If another is not happy with your body or any part of you it means only one thing, they do not love you. You are but an attractive body to show off and that is a very poor relationship.

i would be so upset if my partner criticize my body! shouldn't he like me for who i am and not my appearance? if that happens then i'll ask him what does he think my ideal weight should be. if i agree to that, then he should help me achieve that weight! if he doesn't want to help, then stop saying things about my body shape when i don't even comment about his. .