Woman buys own wedding ring cuz guy won't!

I am getting married, and bought a ring to my wife. In our religion, it is very important that the guy would buy the wedding ring for his wife from his own money - and the Rabi who commences the wedding ceremony makes sure it is true. I can't understand why someone won't buy his wife a wedding ring... It is something truly basic and symbolize the connection between husband and wife.

that is ridiculous... if the man doesn't want to buy the wedding ring for her, why marry him??? there is no reason at all to marry a guy like him... her life will become more miserable later on after she marries him... sounds to me that he is really a cheapskate and insensitive guy... i would call the wedding off if i were your friend...

Please don't be angry if I give you this opinion. I am trying to help you in this situation. This is what I feel honestly. A guy like this will give your friend a heartache after five years of marriage or even less. The first hint is there already, he doesn't even want to buy a wedding ring. A wedding ring! A wedding is supposed to be special and a once in a lifetime event, but her fiance doesn't look at it special at all. Not buying a ring is not the matter, the matter is he is not being sensitive. If he's not sensitive in this issue, I doubt whether he's really in love with your friend or not. I don't mean to hurt her feelings, but please tell her to think about this man thoroughly, about what he has done to her that made her happy all this while. Is the marriage worthwhile or is she getting married because she had to? Think wisely, for her future is in her hands, and not his. This is for her lifetime happiness. I wish your friend the best of luck.

I think he is very manipulative or does not feel for this woman. He knows tradition and if he felt real love he would buy her a ring because money would not be an object. It seems he is testing her or taking advantage of her nature. He should be ashamed of himself if she bought the ring - but he isn't...what does that say about him? I knew a couple in this same situation. She does not have a wedding ring and the relationship is not good -not because of the ring...but that was just an indicator of a mean and controlling quality in the man.

I'm sorry to say this but I don't see a future here. They're not even married yet and she's already crying on your shoulders. Not a good sign. I would run fast and hard the other way.

The guy is already showing signs of insensitivity and self-centeredness, if not selfish. Discuss this matter with your friend, if she would still jump into marriage with a guy who seem not to share whatever he has...would she still push thru marrying the guy? If I were the bride-to-be, I would have second thoughts, and discuss it with somebody who knows the situation. If I were the one, I wouldn't want to be trapped in a relationship which is one-sided and selfish. It would be foolish to go on with the plan even if you know what's coming, or what kind of life you will have with this kind of man...

That's sad, really.... If this guy, supposedly wanting to spend the rest of his life with your friend, won't even honor her with even the smallest of engagement rings or wedding band, then if I were her I'd sell all the rings and hit the road. He's not worth it. Think about how many MORE problems she's going to have in life by sharing it (or trying to share it) with someone like that. And it's not like he's not financially able to buy her even! That's the worst part of it! He just doesn't want to! That would really tell me something about the man I was going to marry......I wouldn't do it, no way.

Let's put traditions on the back burner for a second and think about this. If he loves her and wants to marry her, then he should buy the ring. If he's not pushing the marriage, she should back off. It's not right for a woman to buy her own wedding ring. I should know, I did it. I took the money my mom sent me for Christmas and went to the pawn shop and bought the ring I wanted. The marriage failed. She should tell him how it is. If he wants to marry her, he would go pick out the most beautiful rings for the wedding. It sounds like he doesn't want it as much as she does. She shouldn't feel stupid, but she should feel unvalued. I think she wants it more than he does, and if she pushes she will be sorry. Men don't pick out rings unless they are sure they want to. If she makes all the preparations for the wedding, she will not be very happy in the marriage.

I guess it would depend on the situation. My husband and I lived together long before we got married and we went together and bought our rings, together. All of our money is together, so really WE bought OUR rings. I will say this, if he had told me I had to buy my own ring if I wanted one that bad, he'd have found himself not marrying me. Sounds like this guy needs a wake up call, and she needs to be with someone who is going to treat her right.

I think that they should have bought the rings together. When my husband and I got married, we went and picked out the wedding rings and paid for them 1/2 and 1/2. Once she gets married, are they sharing their incomes? If so,it really doens't matter who paid for the rings to begin with.

well, i'm an old fashioned kind of guy and i would certainly buy my wife her wedding ring. in fact, i did. both of them. lol. the important thing for this couple, and others, is their love for each other and their relationship foundation. a ring really is only a symbol, what lies inside one another is what holds a marriage together.

Well what I think is that she should take the rings back because this guy is obviously a stupid turd and she should marry someone that treats her better.

Well my husband gave me the money to go get our rings because he had no idea what to get us and plus he was too busy with work. But if he didn't want her to get a ring for her because he just didn't want to, then that's really bogus and she should wait to mary him to see if he cleans up his act.

If he really loved her he wouldnt care about the costs - the money etc. And marriage isnt all about the ring, its about the thought, the love. If she doesnt feel valued then she should talk about it to him - he should understand if he cares, and if he is still an selfish arrogant thorn (Use the other word for thorn ;).) then get rid of him, hes obviously not right. If my boyfriend proposed to me i wouldnt even care if he did it with a paper ring as long as i knew (which i would know) theres thought and love behind it. I love him so much :)

lol her boyfriend sounds like mine, but he wants me to save "our" money to buy the rings, it does at times make me annoyed that he wont do the traditional thing and just go out and buy the ring. a girl hubby from work did that for her and i thought that was so sweet.

all i can say is RUN AWAY - RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN FROM THIS GUY...he sounds like a HUGE cheapskate and will prolly not change his ways...get out now before she gets hurt even worse...like he will make her pay for half of the honeymoon!!

I think he should be the one to buy the ring. The woman can buy it if she wants too but if he had money and if he really wanted to marry her he should give her the ring. At least he could have paid his own ring!! I think he doesn't give her the importance she needs, marriage means sharing and he did not even want to give her a ring! She has to think a lot if she wants to marry someone who almost obliges her to buy their ring!

exactly!

I think that doesn't make any sense that his guy won't buy him any wedding ring coz its not right coz it's once in a life time.If a guy want to marry a girl he has to propose with a ring right. Even not he still has to buy it for the wedding, unless the guy doesn't have good financial so the girl has to buy it own her own. So does the guy has any financial problems made him refuse to buy the wedding ring?

Does he really want to marry her? If he can afford the ring, then why doesn't he want to buy it? He should do it to make her happy. When they get married they will have problems with him not wanting to compromise.