It is MY all FAULT because I STAYED home at HOME today for YOU ....

Oh, see. I hate this. Most people are looked upon what they are worth by how much they earn and if you work from home then you are not "really" working. My husband's family said that I didn't "really" work because I stayed at home. Even though my "husband" ran a part-time business from home while at work, I was the one that answered the phone, took messages, set up appointments, picked up parts for the job. Along with that I was running a state run daycare in our home which I was earning a monthly paycheck. But since I stayed at home, I was really not working..guess who did all of the cooking, laundry and cleaning besides? This is my pet peeve! His family when we lived close to them wanted me to wash their windows, cars, walls..etc. When we had family get togethers, I was always nominated to do the dishes because I had more energy because I didn't "really" work. I didn't have a job, you know..and if you didn't believe it, then just ask them, they will mention it over and over again! You HAVE to leave the house and go to a workplace to have any value in this country sometimes, I feel. So, has it happened to me? Yes, yes, and YES! Guess what? I learned how to say NO! quite a while ago, even to my mother. Find someone else. I also had a "working" friend that became upset with me because I could not go to breakfast with her a couple of mornings and she stopped asking me. I was actually busy, but she didn't that I should have been since I don't work....lol Don't get me started..oops..too late..lol I don't think that I answered your question very well. But...lol

I'm confused. You said that you're a Stay-At-Home Bum and on the last part, you said you are considering not telling anyone you work from home. Isn't it that a bum is someone who doesn't have a job or source of income? *LOL* Anyways, the same scenario has also happened to me before, but not with an adjuster, more of a installation company. My parents wanted to get the blinds installed and I wasn't told or they forgot to instruct me. Good thing that in these modern times there's a cellphone, so I called them up and asked for instructions. Maybe the moral of the story is, don't allow people to have favors from you anymore. I mean you said you get this all the time. So stop giving favors. Tell them you're busy and you're not sure if you are in that time. Let them handle their own problems. I think I couldn't also blame the people around you because they see you 'laying around' the house the whole day so they're not sure whether or not you are busy and maybe they thought that since you don't do anything, you're better of assisting them. Well, in the long run, that what happens, you get Blamed for something you didn't know about.

Well, if there is an appraisal of something...there is no way I would want to be there. Or some type of inspection...nope, you need to be there and not me. Having something delivered? OK, I can take that one. Need something repaired? Then you best make sure that person knows what is wrong. Otherwise, I am just the person to let the other person in. That is what you need to tell these people. It may seem harsh at first...but really, do you like being blamed? Is it your stuff? Did they give you specifics? Well...you already said they didn't...so I would turn it back onto them. Maybe take a nicer approach...tell the person, I realize that you are not happy with the results or outcome. But honestly, if you wanted to ensure that there was an outcome you would be happy with, you should have been here. I would play dumb. At least you wouldn't be relied on then! ha ha Oh wait...isn't that what men do? So in other words...play it like a man would and ask like you haven't a clue and aren't offended by anything said because you don't hear the person. ha ha

Probably this has happened to me, mainly from my hubby. He seems to think that as I am a stay at home Mum, I should be available for anything. I don't blame you for being anmoyed at the situation you experienced.I think you just need to stick to your point of view & routine, & not make yourself available for any person who thinks you are there to be used!

That is totally unfair to you. You were doing a favor for someone and if they wanted you to do it a certain way, they should of left you with instructions or spoke to the person or repair man about exactly what they wanted done. It hasn't happened to me, but if it did, I probably won't be doing anyone any more favors in the future.

Not your fault though. In my opinion, it pays not to tell people you work from home. I too work from home at one stage and the problem is many people tend to remember you and will ask you for a favour. Initially, I have no problem with helping but after I discover that I was taken for granted, I never want to stay at home anymore. I will be out of the house even if I have nothing to do. However, I was lucky that I never get the blame for something that goes wrong just because I stay out for them. I make it clear to them I am only doing a favour outfront when they ask for my help :p Now instead of me staying at home and being taken for granted, I do get request whether I can do them a favour by staying at home. LOL. I was requested to stay at home to grant them the favour!

Oh how that rings sooooooo true my dear friend, yes it's happened to me and basically it's always ASSUMED that because I'm at home I'll do it! And yes it's left to me to sort it and if something hasn't been said or done or I don't have the answers for when they return the air goes black with expletives and a dark cloud comes over. Why didn't you do that, why didn't you say that, probably doesn't comfort you that you are not the only one. Shall we scream together?

I don't recall it happening to me before. I have not been in your situation since I work full time. My friends do not ask me to do things like wait at their house for something to come. So I have not had your experienc. I think that I would be hesitant to do those types of things anymore if I were you.

Okay, I am one who needs to know, why are you being appraised or inspected, or is it you? Who is mad? They can jolly well do it themselves next time. How does the e-bay seller thing work for you? Do you think you are a bum? I do not. My big deal was when I was a daycare provider and people would let their kids come over within working hours. I told them that that put my license at risk because it put me over my limit. They had to ask.Now I just get asked all summer to fill in extra hours at my part time job, because I am not really working right now. Right. I am trying to find enough income outside of the part time job to pay the bills until the next school check in September. I get really hacked though, if my husband thinks I can go run exta errands, just because I am scheduled off. I could if he would do stuff when he is off. It is hard to value someone who is apparantly at home messing around on the computer.

That is just not right especially when you said you did nothing to be blamed for. You were doing them a favor in the first place. If it were really that important to that person they should have left you instructions or did it themselves. Many do take advantage of us who do not work outside of the home. I know.

Luckily this has not happened to me. But I can see how distressing it could be. I guess that may be part of the reason we dont get very involved in our neighbors' lives. I would really be mad if I did a favor and got treated that way. I would surely make me think twice before doing something like that again. And we have often thought we were being selfish, not any more. I would think twice before I did a favor again. Good luck, my friend.

Ah! No good deed goes unpunished, texas. You should know that by now, LOL. Yes, I have been in the same situation, and I almost got into serious trouble by being a good neighbor. The woman asked me to accept a package that she was expecting. I said, ok, no problem. Boy was I shocked when the cops swooped in and told me that this was part of a theft operation. I had to prove to them that I was not the person to whom the package was addressed. They got her when she came home about an hour later. Turns out they were ordering items with fake credit cards or something. That really taught me a valuable lesson!

It is not fair... You have done enough for them already and they still blame on you? well, sometimes they just think they are right all the time. I hate that... I hate people blame and never listen. If they are good enough why dont they stay home and do it themselves, then no one they can blame right? Im sorry to hear that but you are not staying home for nothing, you were waiting for inspector and it is your job too. they should not say anything to you

no that has never happened to me. if happened as many times as it has to you i would learn to say NO really quick. You say you work from home? If so, why do you call yourself a bum? Sounds as if these people are taking advantage of your flexible schedule.

Oh my, yes. This has happened many times to me. You just have to learn to tune out the angry words being hurled at you. Glad I'm single!!!