Does having a boyfriend distract you from studies/work?

Poonam! Your female friends here would give you some useful and practical suggestions on the issue, I hope so. Yet, to get distracted or not is in your hand...it is entirely upto you...how much time do you devote to your boy friend or lover....there is no harm...in befriending a boy..but you will have to decide...youself...whether your studies are more important than entering into any relationship...with your boy friend? Choice rests with you....having a boy friend is more important to you at this juncture or your studies and career. Best Of Luck to you in your endeavour! Deepak

Maybe you just don't know how to say no to your BF that's why your having a problem with your BF distracting you from work and studies. True havomg a BF means more distraction but if you want to stop it you can say no.Having a boyfriend is almost like having your BFF. If you need to study or work just say sorry I need to work / study he'll understand if he loves you. *You make your own distraction if you allow having the distraction. You can't blame others because your distracted because you are the one who allow it to happen.*

Hi Worthy, I'm sure your studies are very important to you but I would think at times you might want to escape all that. I would think having a b/f would be a welcome distraction at times. You know the old saying "all work and no play" really comes to mind here. It seems theres a time for studying and a time for your boyfriend. Keeping them seperate is the hard part. All my best to you, Terry

Not really. Infact not at all. Primarily because I'm a guy, a straight guy so there is no chance for me to have a bf, hehehehehehe. On a more serious note, I think it does happen when you're young, i.e. between 18-21. But as you go past the quarterlife crisis age your boyfriend or girlfriend becomes more of a solace to you than an obsession and hence it becomes easier. I would say if the obsession is taking over you too much, one way to overcome it is, take a break of few days i.e. don't meet or talk with him for a period of 4-5 days. During that period you don't get anything to be occupied with and hence you start delving into your work and the obsession subsides.

When I was young and in school, I could never concentrate. It didn't matter if I had a boyfriend or not. When I had one, I would only think of him, and if I didn't have one, I'd think of what kind of boyfriend I'd like to have.

Well, I don't lose my concentration unless a fight happens between me and my boyfriends. I would lose all my energy and concentration if something bad happens between us. But I would try to stay focus anyway just because I have to. I still haven't developed something nice to fight away the concentration problem when bad things arrive. But I try to indulge myself in work and keep asking myself not to think about certain things until I finish up the tasks. It works fine so far. But it's good to be in love and day dream a little from time to time *smiles*, good luck!

It happens sometimes but you just must have more self-discipline. Your work/studies are important for you too and you must remind it more often then usually. Good luck.

You see friend, its not an easy thing to be in love with someone. I mean, its a kind of feelings you can not just ignore. Just try and control yourself a bit and maybe it will work. Thanks

hahah... yeah... me too. I have experienced that kind too. I get distracted but I still do my best to concentrate, what I need to do is make him as my inspiration, but still it's hard... _

I have to say "yes". You would want to be together as often as possible. You would want to make time for each other even if you have homework or projects to finish or tests to study for. But I wouldn't say that students shouldn't carry on relationships with each other. Having a boyfriend can be constructive. If you really want to avoid being distracted then the two of you should agree to put your studies first so that when say one of you can't go out on a date because he / she has an exam the following day, then the other one should understand. It can be difficult juggling the two but it can also turn out to be a happy relationship especially when both parties are understanding and patient. I have to caution you though that breaking up while studying IS CERTAINLY a distraction. If it hurts a lot, you really have to pull yourself together and exert a lot of effort to focus your attention on your studies.

Yeah im actually in the same situation as you. I have to be fully focussed in my stuies koz its very tough but i dont how to tell my gf that we shall break up now. I think im wasting too much time with all these realtionships. I just want to detached myself from these so that i could give most of my time to my priority that is succeeding in my studies.

hi! it depends on how you handle your relationship. if you are a person who knows how to separate love matters with your work or studies, then it will not distract you. there are some people that eventhough they have a problem, they will not show it to others.

in my college life.. I would say both distracted and not distracted =) its help me a lot when times i have a boyfriend it help me inspire more in my studies.. hehe But sometimes i do get distracted a little bit when times we have an argument.. we can't deny that we are distracted occasionally. But the real thing for me it's how you control yourself whether you allowing yourself to be distracted or not. =) its depend on you. =)

during my highschool days, to have a boyfriend help me a lot in my studies, he makes me inspired in evey aspects of my life. he changed me a lot especialy in study habit and making our homeworks done at home. all my friends were the same as you, they loss their concerntrations in studies, they only want to see their boyfriends and talk to them all the time which is studies are totally destructed. the advice that i gave to them was...if you really love to your boyfriend, showed him that you're capable and have ability to achieve your goal. just think that you make it for your future and everything will gonna be fine. have a nice day!

hi there! ;0 i'll keep my answer short and simple: no, it doesnt. :) i have a boyfriend, and for all those times that we were together, my grades are SO a-ok. :)

Hello worthy!!! It's been a while now that i haven't responded to your posts. I missed you friend. I was looking at friends discussions and here i am. Well, your still young and i know a lot who were distracted in studies when having a boyfriend. But for me, it really depends on both of you. You must have your priorities and must talk it out if problems occur in your relationship. To some, to be with that person is their priority, so when they get hurt everything is distructed specially studies. Choose someone who has the same priorities as you, find one who will encourage you to pursue your dreams...love is a beautiful thing, go follow your heart but never ignore your brain... You're still young and got much more to learn...Miss you.. God bless and tc

I will not, and we will study together, I can't understand about the content, he can teach me. Most couples out like dating, and we always stay library together .

When I was in college it did not. It is call organization. I set a time out for my studies and for my boyfriend. He understood but when it did colide we worked it out like this. He helped me study we had fun doing it because he could not pronounce some of the terms and it inspired him to go back to school. So if you want both you are going to have to organize your schedule for both to have time and keep that schedule and differ from it.

It depends on you. If you are going to feel it seriously in the way it can distract your study that is the time. But if you're going to take it easy, it won't at all.

i should say my boyfriend does not distracts me from study but from playing. i spend the same time and energy studying and less time doing nothing. i just have less time to be alone my spare time is devoted to him. i must be the one that can not be easily influence by annoyances. i can manage concentrating on study even if we just have a fight. but he does help me a lot, especially in self-confidence and perspective. he can give me good suggestions or we can do things quite well toghether. what i suggest you is to be rational.love make your life brighter but it's realy not the only thing in your life. you should break your heart into two part----one for loving him thoughrouly,the other for studying and never mess them up.