What Kind Of Fool Am I?

First off, I will not say you are a coward. I have much respect for you for even talking about you feel. I too have felt walked all over, my own parents have made me feel this way. I will NEVER tell you to 'harden up.' I suffer from bipolar, PTSD, and chronic depression, and I have many people tell me to "get over it," "grow up," " get over it." Many people have even told me I am a terrible person and that I shouldn't be the way I am. Well, how would they feel if they had been through the same situations? They don't know and will never know. I hate it when someone tells me how to be and thinks they 'know it all.' Only those whom have been through your situation, or situations similar to yours can understand, and only their advice can help. MY advice is to see a therapist, my therapist has really helped me through my hard times and has taught me to help cope and deal with my problems. I wish you luck in your life, and hopefully things will get better. I always feel bad when someone is dealing with hard times, because I know exactly how they feel. Do not feel ashamed of yourself and the fact that you may need professional help. Hell, I get professional help every month, and have for a year. And I will say again, professional help really works wonders. Gooo luck.

My Darling Wolfie you have NOTHING to apologise for - you are a wonderful person who loves and cares about others- the first one there to lend encouragement and support to a friend in need - do not dare apologise again, do you hear me? I know I only talk of the physical abuse I went through but emotional/mental abuse went alongside it! How to prove it - I am not sure but I know by the way you talk that it has happened to you! You need not prove it to anyone sweets cos you are not going to do anything stupid - you know you aren't! I am not going to tell you what to do but you already know what I think Sweets! You, my brother are one of the bravest most loving, caring, warm, supportive and encouraging people I have ever met and you are the only person who will not believe it! I wish I could say the words that would finally make you realise what a wonderful person you are but all I can say is I understand and I am here for you - just like a sister should be! Love you xxxxx

You my friend are not a fool far from it , you have been a friend of mine for some years and you have always been there for me , You are a lot stronger than you think , I honestly think you are doing the right thing getting away from things , this guy is literally taking the p**h pal , You are stronger than you realize pal, you give everyone such good advice and now you ate taking it yourself , If you were the worthless person you thought you were you wouldn't have so many lovely friends who care about you , I am really fond of you pal and I would love some day to meet you , take care my special friend and take control , you have already started too , we ( your pals here) are all 100% behind you , xxxxx

What I see from you is that you keep on blaming yourself from what you became. It is okay from time to time you should be aware of your mistakes from life but then it is not enough identifying your weaknesses and blame it why you've become like that. I think your making excuses for yourself not to make the move. The only thing that really could change of what you've become is YOU. The therpaist are all there only to support you and guide you but the real change is supposed to come from you. Now that you've identified your weaknesses start thinking how you can overcome them no matter what depression you're in if you stop thinking those things for a while and start thinking positive about yourself. Visualized those that you want in life and believe in it no matter there are resistance in yourself bring all doubts aside that you cannot do it just believe in what you want in life. Make that a daily habit and I hope this will help you from overcoming your weaknesses. Stop thinking becoming Negative it's all in our minds that limits us from growing further.

Pick up your courage and walk! I had to do that once? It was hard but I did it. You can do it too! You can, you know that you have to, to get healthy in your mind, body and soul? You do know this right? The hardest steps are the hardest to take but once you do you will gain more strength? Determine to yourself that you want to be able to stand on your own to feet and feel okay about yourself and let that be your motivation! Don't run into another relationship, get strong in yourself first. I have been there I did it and you can too!

Don't be sorry, Be Happy! Life is always Fun when you make it So! Seems like you already have the answer your looking! You just want someone to tell you what you already know. Sure get some counceling! Buy some self help Books at your local Book Store. Read up on your problem! You know what you need and want, so go after it! Life is only what you make it! Nothing happens by chance. You are continually creating your life as you go along.Take charge and Watch it happen! Do it Now! Get going and Good Luck!

What's done is done and the past is only the past. No matter what your age maturity is blind. At least you have figured it out and you now need to move on from acceptance to doing something about it. You are not a fool unless you allow it to continue. Confidence and Self Esteem is very hard to build with someone over you who puts you down. If you will ever be able to build up yours you must gather the strangth to move on and put the negative out of your mind. I wish you all the luck in the world.

So often it's easier to just go with the flow and allow others to take charge. It does take some courage, but it feels immensely satisfying to take control of your own life and destiny. The only thing that you're risking by going it alone is that if things f**k up, you'll have nobody to blame but yourself. It's still better to learn from your own mistakes though, and it seems that you've done a pretty good job in evaluating where you;ve gone wrong in the past. You don;t need to do anything dracstic, but taking steps toward independence will work wonders for your confidence - I assure you.

You have been such a good friend. I cant count how many times you have posted and made me fell better. I know many times your the first one to be there when someone needs a friend and and an ear. I think your brave and wise. I have been reading your posts for a very long time now. YOU HAVE A BIG HEART AND HAVE A GREAT PERSONALITY... perhaps your roommate is the one who has the major short comings...and please dont project that onto yourself............

I know how you feel before I started dating my husband - i had a boyfriend who always told me I was ugly and fat (i weighed 105 lbs) and that no one would want me- he used to follow me around and spy on me- he tried to strangle me with my own scarf and tried to run me over with his car when I tried to break up with him- eventually I got up enough strengh after he hit me- to say enough- stay away from me - its over - I don't want to see you anymore and if you come near me I will call the police. A few months later a started dating my husband and my ex would threaten my husband from time to time but he never followed through (thank god - cause he was the type that would). Its very hard to overcome the emotional damage people inflict on you. Just like in Pretty Woman she says after a while you start to believe the bad things, it's hard not to- but you will over come- and you have your plan in motion...you are the better person!!!!!

Wolfie, you have nothing to be ashamed of and nothing to blame yourself for. I would never tell you to harden up, you have the inner courage to understand your own situation, something so many people do not have. You are not worthless, you have not encouraged the bullying, you are a very special person and deserve to have your say. You have hinted that you are ready to take the step away, and I believe that you will. As someone with very low self-esteem and little self confidence myself, I can tell you that it takes that inner courage to act and I know that you can too. All your friends are here for you hun

Well first off, you're not a fool, you're just someone that is trying to live a life that you want to live, you're trying to be successful in the things you do, you are trying to have a home and people around you that care. If those things are not going the way you want then that is more than likely down to circumstances rather than you personally. First off, you need, I can't emphasise that enough, you need to stop blaming things on yourself, at the end of the day that is the most destructive thing you can do, and all it does is perpetuate a circle and spiral of negativity which will do nothing to help you. Secondly, if you are truly unhappy with the person you are living with, it's not necessarily a case of simply moving out, maybe you just both need to respect that each of you is an individual and you need your own space as much as he does, at times. And to that end, you need to get into a hobby something that gets you out of the house and into the open, into the world around you, but at your own pace. Start looking around at nature, go for walks, buy a camera do something like that, it's active, you're surrounding yourself with natural beauty and you are having some time out for you. Finally, don't think that counselling is the answer to everything. I've had it, and more than anything else, it was mostly what I had expected, it's timed, it's not personal, even with the best counsellor in the world. BUT, it is useful because it helps you discuss things with someone objective and detached. Don't go in thinking that counselling will cure or have easy answers, it won't. Do go in thinking it is just ANOTHER way of trying to face things and deal with things, but ultimately how successful all of these things are is down to YOU, only you can take the steps you need to take, but only YOU knows how fast you can feel comfortable doing that. DONT BEAT YOURSELF UP, and stop the blame game. One step at a time, a diary and some hobbies things really will start to get better, slowly, but definitely.

Oh Wolfie..You are important! You are special! Do look at the kindness you have given others as a weekness. Sweets you are a kind person that has unscruplous people take advantage of you. Honey just decide today to change your life. You will not do it overnight. You take a small step each day. Celebrate your small steps forward. Everytime you go forward let us know so we can celebrate with you. Focus on the plus in your life and down play the negative. It has happened yes but get past it in a hurry and up play the good things in your life. Weather it's a pet or a friend or a good day on mylot or the sun is shining on your shoulder. See the little good things as big things and at the same time push past the bad times more quickly. You can get out of the spot you are in but it will take time and strength and you telling yourself daily that you are worth it and capable of it. Good Luck Sweets..If you need me I'm at raydenee@yahoo.com. Email me anytime.I'd like to be one of the possitive things in you life. You deserve good things! hugs

The only thing I would say is dont loose confidence.Do what you feel is right confidently. The more you get scared and run away from truth and reality, the more they chase you... and you will be forced to be a looser. So Buck up!

Well Sweetie you have made your Decision now but do not beat yourself up to much I stayed Married to a Man for 21 years who in the first year was hitting me and then for 20 years put me through mental abuse and I mean a lot of Mental abuse It was my Illness that made me decide no more and when he went out with his Friends on my 40th Birthday so you see Sweetie I stuck it for 21 Years before I got the Courage to end it

Why u are so much depressed wolfie? I am really surprised to see u like this. I have seen and read ur good discussion always painting a different you in mind fromthis one and i added u to my friend.....i am sure u have some bad time now which u will overcome soon...enjoy here as long as we are ur friend please... get the thing positively....U are a good friend in mylot..believe me...

I feel you must forget the past and look into the future. Life is keep moving. i hope that you look for the brighter side of life. Help others and it will help you to be confident of yourself and that you feel that you are a useful person. So, live happy.

So you have got an impression of yourself! Uh! Well Keep it up!