Aint these women weird creatures? Last x-mas i was stuck for ideas on whet to

I think most women just like the element of surprise. When a woman says "don't get me anything" it usually means surprise me. Why we can't just say what we want, I don't know! We're a little confusing sometimes...okay, a lot! ;) If someone tells me they don't want anything for their birthday/christmas whatever, I usually buy them something small. Some people truly mean don't get them anything but others really don't know what to ask for. I think for some people they don't want to ask for something too big and they don't want to make you look cheap by asking for something too small. It's easy to say you don't want anything, but perhaps surprise me is a better option.

Ok I am so going to tell you like I told hubby, we don't want to ask for it, we want you to think of something on your own from your understanding of us and get it. Just like I do him, I know him, I watch him, I study him so come the gift giving days, I am always tickled with myself for buying him those new undies, socks and old spice to add to his collection. No problem :oD

I always think gifts are keepsakes, something special I don't always want or need everyday yet memorable. but since I don't always keep a list of special things for gifts, usually I just mention that as we go window shopping. my husband then will remember and get me this as a gift. I remember what gifts he gave me every single year and occassion, even if it's only having a Chinese buffet because we're short of money. But if he asked me whether I wanted gift or not, and I said no, I wouldn't change my mind when the special day comes because then it would be too late. Yes I do have everything. We have each other, we have the house, we have a lovely pet, and as a bonus I have the shop of my dream. I do want children, but that's God's decision not ours.

Not me, I tell my husband what I want sometimes, I give him a list so if he decided to get up off his butt and do some shopping without me, he would know. He usually doesn't so I end up buying for myself. I have asked my husband what he wants for Christmas and his birthday and he simply says "my family" I could knock his teeth out for that statement so I know exactly where you are coming from.

Yes, we are a strange lot. We have been raised not to be selfish, to be super-independent and never ask for anything. She should have said 'surprise me.' Then you would have had to get her something, okay perfume. Why are you involved with a miserable woman?

My man of 11 years never has gotten me anything for Chirstmas or birthdays or anything so if he did get me anything I would probably die of shock before I even opened the gift. I lie he actually got me a windsuit when I first moved here cause he knew how much walking I would have to do to get anywhere... I don't really care about gifts, he takes care of other stuff for me. I think if I asked for a gift he would give me one but I don't bother asking. My childern will ask me what I want and I say I don't need anything. But they always make special days nice for me like breakfast in bed and doing the chores and just expressing their love and that is more than what I need.

My husband use to get me Christmas presents but doesn't much anymore. It is nice to have something to open for Christmas. I would like it. Well... after the last couple of presents he gave me I admit he does need some guidance :).

Well, my Grandmother always used to say that she didn't want anything for Christmas. We couldn't NOT buy her anything, so something useless would be thought of anyway. Now my Father says the same... he wants nothing... but we have to buy him something. So yes, I guess your wife really did mean that she wanted a present for Christmas, & you just had to use your imagination. Why do you call your wife miserable?

hahahaha cmon Kim, don't you know by now when we say something like *oh no its ok we don't need anything* that it REALLY means you better buy me something or else LMAO hahaha I do this to my husband sometimes and I know if I only had said, ok, I want so and so then I would be happy. Sometimes I want him to think about it and just go out and buy it without even asking me, you know? sometimes I would like a surprise, and even though I may not like it, its the thought that counts, that he went out and bought it because HE wanted to! Just like just the other day, he asked me what he should bring back for me from Africa! I was like "I don't know, what do they have there that I might like?" (teasing him of course) and he says, "I don't know". I said he didn't need to bring me anything and if he really wanted to, was to make sure he had something for my son. Hello we have been married for 6 years and known each other for 8, so he should know by now what I like and don't like, right? I ended up persuading him when he returns to buy a new lounge suite, so there!!!! LMAO

This one sure has me chuckling! Yes indeed we are weird creatures. If only you guys had a clue to things unspoken :D. Quite often when I am asked what I would like for my birthday or Christmas I draw a blank. Sometimes I feel funny asking for things as well,so I feel like I've been put on the spot when asked. My bf says he is not good at picking out gifts and would much prefer I pick something out and he will buy it for me. That is sweet but,he has no idea how much it would mean to me if he just thought about me and chose something he feels from knowing and talking to me that I would like. His thoughts and personal touch in choosing a gift on his own would be very much appreciated. I treasure any and all gifts he gives me. I too would respond as your partner did that his time and love are all the gifts I need because those truly are the most precious. On the other hand him going a step further would be very nice if he didn't I might be a little hurt or disappointed but I would never show it. There are very few people I have trouble choosing gifts for,to me it is easy when you know someone well what their likes and dislikes are. Just in every day conversations I can get ideas on what someone might like. Very often I see something and it brings a certain person to mind. I would suggest you keep your ears and eyes open with her surely through the year you can pick up ideas on things she would enjoy a certain hobby or particular interest music,movie,book etc. Perhaps a massage or some special treatment that would pamper her that she would not spend the money on for herself. Good luck on future holidays I'm sure you'll do better next time.

I never really cared about the gifts....truthfully, honestly. At xmas,we always focused on the kids and not each other. Birthdays, sometimes he got me something ...sometimes not. I just read a thread on here from a man who gave a jar of "NOTHING" as a gift. it was pretty cute. Give her that.