How far are you willing to go?

There are two things I could not forgive. Cheating and abuse especially physical. A man would never get another opportunity to do either to me more than once.

Cheating will do it,plain and simple.Just about anything else i can deal with.

i guess the worst thing a guy could do when in a relationship is to cheat... other problems like small mistakes can be forgiven but not cheating... its just that sometimes we try to forgive the man we love we he cheats... and i guess forgiving him ones is just ok... but what if he did it again? then that would be the time to say that the guy is not really in love with you... cheaters are cheaters... no matter what...

I have been married for 12 years. I always siad that I could never tolerate cheating and that if it were discovered, I would end the marriage. Well, guess what? My bubble has been burst. I did discover that he was cheating ... and I did not make a sudden decision. We talked in depth about how, why, what was involved and the more I learned, the more I learned that the other woman was manipulating me as much as she was him. There were some very orchestrated occurences. He wanted out so badly but didn't want to hurt either of us. In the end, he helped her move to another state so he could be done with it, stay with me, and have me not find out. Things had been good for the 6 months since she went away (yes, she was a friend), but then I found the letters and texts. I gave him the oportunity to go with her without fearing a messy divorce or child support he can't afford. I was not going to block him from being happy. He swore he wanted to stay with me and agreed to many conditions to prove himself, which he's stuck to since then. So, I think it depends on a lot of things and your personal strength. Trust can be rebuilt and lives can change.