How do you work out a plan to settle the apartment issue?
@Tracylovesadrian (143)
China
July 19, 2007 8:39am CST
My friend and her boy friend can't afford a new apartment right now. She's living with her mom and he's living with his parents. Her father is a bit strange and is separated from her mother for a long time, not legally, but emotionally. Her boy friend's idea is very simple: after getting married, ask her mom to live back with her dad and they two alone live in the apartment. Of course he doesn't understand her mom's unwilling to live with her husband. In fact, her mom loves to live with her daughter and doesn't want to live back with her dad. Now he knows , but leaves a very important issue: can he live with his future mother-in-law under the same roof? The problem is he loves to be alone with her and pampers her, but if they three live together, he won't be able to be so intimate and he is never comfortable with the third party around, even if it's his own parent. What shall she do?
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
19 Jul 07
Ok, I just now realized that this is the same friend that I responded about on another post of yours. They have only known each other for a few months?
She should really think long and hard on this one. I don't see this a being a very happy situation.
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@Tracylovesadrian (143)
• China
20 Jul 07
yeah, the same friend. She loves the man and the man probably loves her that much. She was surprised when he talked about marriage even earlier than that. I don't know what he is thinking about.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
19 Jul 07
It would be very wrong to kick her mom out of her own home and even suggest she go and live miserably with a man that she has separated from. They both should be working and saving to get their own place. If they can't afford their own place then how could they afford the mother's place after they kick her out? Were they expecting her to pay the rent for them? Maybe I am misunderstanding you. Is it the girls apartment and her mom is living with her? Even so, it would be unfair to kick her out.
@Tracylovesadrian (143)
• China
20 Jul 07
yeah, she bought the apartment after her divorce and she is still paying on installments. I just hope that they can get along well together and then buy another apartment if they get married. But I think her mom's quite attached to her and wants to live with her daughter. This is what most traditional Chinese women do -- they don't get a divorce in an unhappy marriage, they just keep life going. I think it's quite sad.
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
1 Aug 07
First of all, it is not up to him to suggest that two separated people get back together. They are separated for a reason. If the boy and the girl both work at paying jobs, they should be able to share the expenses on their own apartment. Is there another sibling or relative that the mother can live with?
