When you get angry, do you tend to take it out on others?

"Another instance, I am sick of people telling me, "love your mother,she's the one who raised you." Well, if you actually knew how she raised me, then you wouldn't say that. Just because one person has had a loving, non-neglectful, non-abuse mother, doesn't mean everyone is so fortunate! " OH HELL YA! can I ever relate to that! and like you I get sick of ppl saying things like that to me too...and whats even more annoying IMO is after I tell them that my mother and her exhusband were nothing but abusive and vile to me THEN they have the nerve to tell me i need to FORGIVE THEM!! ppl like that, though they are fortunate and lucky enough to have come from a loving, stable background, need a swift slap in the mouth IMO.

Hi,Jennifer21! Yes,I did.I think that I was immature at that periods.I was incapable to control myself,I didn't know why.When I got angry,I would "remove" my anger to someone who had the closet relationship to me,such as my parents or my friends.I did know that they were innocent,but I couldn't control my insane temper. But now I believe that I am mature enough,I can control my emotion especially my anger.Taking my anger out on others is not good.

Some people react in different ways. I rate you positively on all of your discussions. I enjoy reading them and responding to them. You react the way you do, I react the way I do.

everytime i feel angry i just go scarface and newport smoke my life away,,,,i hope you get it!!!!,,,,lol!!!

I mostly keep my mouth shut when i am angry with someone and would only speak when i am cool ..So mostly i dont take out anger outside but if i am at home then i do shout sometimes and then later i regret..

yeah it happenes evry time with every one. i do get angry and i show it on others by doing so we will get relaxed and feel that our anger gets diminished by doing so that makes us happy

i am a patient person. meaning, i don't get angry that quick. but by the time i get angry, i am really angry. but i don't take my anger on others. i just lock myself up in a room and cry there. for me, crying lessens out the pain i have inside. i used to take my anger out on my brothers even if they aren't my reasons for my angry feeling. i realized that it's unfair of me to do that to them. i hate hurting other people and so, i stopped putting my anger to others. it's kinda difficult sometimes to just cry it all out. but it works fine for me. and now, i have my understanding boyfriend to tell if i am hurting. him listening helps a lot... anne

i am an emotional person as well and i get worked out quite easily... fortunately, my hubby is very patient with me and i always take my anger on him... he will listen to the point that he can't take it anymore and he will ask me to stop... well, this is the thing that i have to work out as well... thanks for reminding me...

I don't tend to get angry on mylot, just frustrated when I can't find decent conversations. What also annoys me is when people say they are right and everyone else's views are wrong. I do tend to get a bit heated when I see someone call someone stupid etc for what they think.

right now i am really angry with mylot cos they didn't update my earnings for two days, and then i receive only 10 cents for more than 30 posts!! usually i don't , actualy i ' never' take out my anger on others. i am quite calm, and am really proud of that! i relax my mind whenever i get angry and try to sort everything up in my mind when i am alone.

Not so much now, life has beaten most of that out of me. At your age, I certainly did. Problem with that? It poisons the atmosphere around you, and teaches those closest to you to fear your mood swings. I would have been much better off if I had learned to belly breathe and pick my battles wisely about 15 years before life forced me to. Managing piss-off is like saving money - everybody tells you to start when you're young, you'll be better off, but it's so dang hard! It really is better to start sooner, and skip the ulcers, divorce, lost friendships, lost jobs, or whatever. You can add "rant" to your interests, there's a few people who take advantage of the free space to vent with impunity!

Geez, I'm going to check back on all my discussions and hope I haven't started too many with 'have you...'! I agree so much with what you say about 'love your mother'. Mine is a good mother, but my wife's mother is a really toxic cow, and she only ever does and says stuff to make herself look good! At least we don't put up with that crap anymore. I too am one of those that takes my anger out on others, though I don't get so angry any more( must be mellowing, lol!). I'm never proud of that fact, and think maybe I have gotten a lot better since my son was born. Maybe even better since we cut all ties with the in-laws. So much less to get peed off about!!!

by the way i gave you a PLUS rating as everyone has issues and needs to rant. it's human. i think you're okay, no worries okay??

When I get mad (which only happens once in a blue moon) I usually would step outside and walk. I walk until I am done letting steam off. Afterwards, I would sit down with a good cup of coffee, a bar of good quality chocolate or chocolate cake and EAT....then I'll walk away. By the time I get back I have calmed enough to either forget (and forgive) or talk about the problem with the person involved.

Mylot has been making me angry today as well, since I can't seem to find anything decent to respond to. There are the "have you's" you mentioned, and two of the discussions I responded to somewhat seriously turned out to be stolen ones. Grrr. As for the love your mother thing, that's a personal favorite of mine as well. In fact, being told to love any family member of mine is pretty much the easier way to make me want to punch a person in the face, because people just assume they know your history when they don't, or assume that everyone actually has a family. So I'm with you on both your rants here. =P As for taking my anger out on others, I try not to do so. I have a punching bag, and that helps. It was originally my husband's idea to buy the punching bag that we own, but now I can't imagine what I would do without it! I suppose occasionally I do take my anger out on my husband if we've spent a little too much time together lately and there's a lot of stress, but I try not to.

yea actually i kinda do. why do we do that? and it's always on those closest to you...well and maybe the person in the check-out line, HAHA! but when more on a personal level, my hubby hears me whine more than anyone. even if i'm NOT mad at HIM! i holler more about everything when i am WAY stressed. it's bad. and girl, you ARE venting. i read your other post on your mom. and i'm so sorry you are dealing with that right now. it's not fair, and we don't know you personally nor do we know your past or what goes on behind closed doors. i am not a judgemental person therefore, when someone complains about their mom, such as how you did today...then it's you venting...and all a person like me would say is...i'm sorry, and let it out! cuz you'll feel better "letting it out". hang in there sweetie. we're here!!

I think that happens to all of us sometimes. I have seen the Have You's too. Before that it was "would you" and before that is was "what if". I don;t tend to be interested enough to read posts that have the same title on like 50 in a row.