People Who Just Drop Out of Your Life

I know what you mean. I had a friend who I was friend with for like 5 years. She moved to another state. She said she would call me. Well she has called like 2 times. She was just back in town and was suppose to come visit me on two different occasions. She never showed up. It really hurt my feelings. I guess I was close to her, but she was not close to me. I don't know why people do this, I guess they find others and move on. I am not like this, if I am your friend, I am your friend.

I sometimes might be guilty a bit for not keeping in contact with someone myself...when I was going through all the "garbage" my mother created in my life, I just plain didn't have time to contact certain people in my life...Now only recently I did write a letter to my cousin in Mexico--haven't heard from her...also a dear friend of mine who was like a little brother to me...same thing..and haven't heard...the worse is my Aunt Carol--my father's sister out in CA...I made sure I had sent her a nice birthday card...I had one time called and left a message...I've emailed her...nothing, nada...like I'm beginning to wonder..gee, did I do something wrong? I don't think so...Well...I just keep trying to track these people down...Maybe even though you and I may have been close to these "missing in action" people...maybe it's some kind of sign to let go??? People can be sure weird...no?? LOL

Well this has happened to me with 3 People that I was close to but not in the Sense that they went away but in the sense that they passed away and I knew I would never see them again

I have a couple of close friends who I don't keep in touch with anymore. It's mostly because I have moved on, married and moved away so I guess I lost touch. They are pretty much in the same place and doing the same thing and seem to enjoying their lives where they are. I have reunited with a cousin recently after a big fallout. That was hard to get over but I am happy we were able to patch things up. We seem to be a lot closer now than before the fallout.

Yeah, I have to agree that it can be upsetting when close friends simply vanish. It's happened to me on a few occasions. I guess we just have to accept that sometimes circumstances do change for whatever reasons and that we'll just have to move on. This happened because they have moved overseas and some also got married. I guess they sort of vanished because they now have their own lives and need to keep their spouses company, not much time for old friends unfortunately. Meanwhile, I'm so glad to have met new friends along the way, they have been a constant source of comfort to me even though I've lost touch with some old ones, the presecence of the new ones make it easier to manage.

Once I had a good friend, I think we can keep in touch with each other forever, but now we lose connection. When I went to a univeristy, she was still live in our hometown, then we often give calls or send e-mail, but after few years, we don't connect each other. Frankly, now I feel very sad to lose such a good friend. Do you think a friendship can last forever if you can't live together?

Relationships just like friendships are a two way thing and you can only bridge the gap so far, if they are not prepared to compromise and meet you half way then you have to ask yourself why. It is certainly not your problem, they may have moved on or have a lot on their plate and just need a gentle reminding. I always contact the person TWICE after the second time if they still haven't responded then the ball is in their court it's their decision, if they don't want to get in touch, their loss! Don't take it personally my good friend

i had a few friends that i had in my life forever..one day just dropped out..no signs or words to tell me.. yrs later they got in touch with me trying to reconnect..i was happy to know they where ok..and some had reasons and some others just said they dont know. but one thing they didnt think that how bad it hurt.. we tried to get our friendships back but its hard as u never know when they will just drop out again. so it hasnt been the same..

I have had that happen to me a couple of times. I had a friend I went to high school. She lived in Florida and over the years the relationship start slipping and now it's non existent. I called a couple of times, but never got any call backs after several months of doing this I just gave up.

Yes it is hurtful when people or your old friends decide they don't want to have anything to do with you. It is hurtful I have had it done to me before I never understood why either.

Try to contact them and find out what the problem is. They could just have had a huge thing happen in their lives and they need some time to adjust.