Marriage or Live-in?

I'd say that living with your partner before marriage is a spectacular idea. There are a lot of things you won't know about someone until you live with them and what better way to do this than move in with each other before marriage? Maybe I'm saying this because I live with my boyfriend who I have been dating for nearly 5 years. I found out things I had no clue about and I now know for sure I want to marry him. No doubts in my mind at all. I do think you should at least date someone a year before moving in with them because things can get complicated quickly and easily.

I agree with you. I think that it is very important that you know somebody completely before marriage. There is so much about people that you don't find out until you live together. I also think that in the UK these days it is more acceptable to live with a partner before getting married. I don't actually know if I want to get married though. I don't believe that it is fair that some people can get married and others can't. For that reason I don't think that I would want to get married until gay people are also afforded the same rights as straight people.

paulo, never rush any marriage, you will wish you never should have married! Know some one 85% before you say you do! As for the 15% unknown traits,learn them when you are living together!

I definately think living together first is a great idea...I dont think some ppl realize how much you REALLY learn about someone once you live with them ya know....so moving in together will show each person a whole different side to their partner and from there they can figure out if they can actually work with and deal with that side for the rest of their lives ya know...

I agree with you, I think it's important to live together for a while before getting married. When you just meet eachother from time to time you don't notice the little habits that appear when you finally start to live together after the wedding. By living together you have time to adjust, and accept or change things that might escalate into a really big problem later, just because you didn't know about them before tying the knot. Also, if those problems are bigger than you thought, as sad as a breakup is it's easier to do it before you're married.

Although our Parents generation might frown on it,I believe that living together for a while would be a good idea (kinda like a long engagement), so you get to know your partner very well, and decide if you can tolerate the niches and imperfections that makes that person. Like the other member said, its a lot easier to breakup (if you can no longer stand your partner) when it isnt official yet.

I would definitely get to live with a person first, get to know them and if things turn to marriage someday, then it will hopefully be worth it.

true! true! the sanctity of marriage can never be denied but at the rate of divorce and annulments are going it is more practical to live together first. as long as both couples have learned to live with each other's ways (being a slob, snoring during sleep, seeing you without make-up on, money matters, bills and other decision making issues) then that's the time they're ready to tie the knot.

Why marry if you're still doubtful of your future partner. Knowing each other better and deeper will somehow result to a good relationship. If living in is the only way to know one another better then try it and there must be a mutual agreement on both. For all I know there's no perfect marriage, there are always be ups and downs.