Why do friends get mad when you don't agree with them all the time?
By magnet
@magnet (2087)
United States
July 22, 2007 10:36pm CST
Are you the type of person that gets upset when your friends don't agree with you. Sometimes friends will ask me a opinion about something and then if I don't agree they get upset and all sensitive. Then I would say well if you don't want to hear the truth don't ask. One of my friends from school called me to tell me about an argument that she had with her boyfriend. She then asked me what my opinion was. I told her I don't know if she want me to tell her how I really feel about the situation because she might get upset. She said go ahead tell me what you think. I told her that I think that she overreacted and should appologize to the man. I think that she was wrong to do what she did to him in front of all of his friends at the social event. She got upset with me and told me that I should take her side. Eventually she apologized for snapping at me but she is one of those friends that gets upset if someone disagrees with her. If I don't want to hear the truth I don't ask.
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11 responses
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
24 Jul 07
I think its a natural reaction to get upset when our best friends don't agree with us, especially if we think we are absolutely right. Its really hard to accept the truth and realise OMG i was a complete idiot and to admit that is embarrasing, so our reaction is to get upset at our best friends for telling the truth.
I know, weird but its good you told her the truth. She reacted but i think in the end realised that what she did was wrong and will eventually correct it. Sometimes we don't see what we are doing is wrong until someone close enough has the guts to tell us.
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@koikoikoi (1246)
• United States
23 Jul 07
No because I'm better than that. Although I have encountered it. I personally think that any one who gets mad is stupid. Just because you are friends with someone it doesn't mean that they'll agree with everything. Not even married couples agree with everything and some don't get mad like a friend does with another friend. I don't get mad though because we're all different.
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@derek_a (10873)
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23 Jul 07
If somebody is getting mad because you don't agree with them, it is because they may want to manipulate you and you won't play their "game".
Then, if they are wrong about something, they may try to put it right by getting angry and covering up their mistake. I think peace of mind comes when you quit trying to be right all the time. We all make mistakes that are usually influenced by how we are feeling, even the mistake of getting mad at somebody because we don't want to know the truth about something. My motto is to forgive and move on. :-)
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@sid556 (30959)
• United States
24 Jul 07
you are exactly right...if they don't want the truth then they shouldn't ask. The truth is harsh sometimes and if it is not what we hope to hear, it may cause you to react. Upon reflection most people come around and thank those that gave them good advice. continue on being truthful...it'll pay off in the end.
@swirlz (3136)
• Philippines
23 Jul 07
i'm not that type of person. and my friends aren't like that too, fortunately. sometimes when my friends and i don't see eye to eye, i feel ashamed and feel as if it is me who is wrong. and we don't really get to the point where we argue. most of the time we just state our opinions and accept them, sometimes trying to convince the other of our side. hehe but if it gets awkward, we change topic. hehe
goodluck with your friend,though. i admire you for telling the truth and not being scared as to what your friends think about your opinions.
@magnet (2087)
• United States
23 Jul 07
I don't like to argue with my friends. I just state my opinion if they ask and leave it at that. I don't go on and on about it.I told my friends if I ask their opinion to go ahead and tell me the truth. Sometimes I think that they are not always telling me the truth because there's no way anyone can agree with me all of the time.
@Lydia1901 (16351)
• United States
26 Jul 07
I don't know, maybe it has something to do with being friends and you're suppose to help them out and agree with what they say most of the times.
@ladysurvivor (4746)
• Malaysia
23 Jul 07
Some people are just like that. I am like that too at times. In desperate moments, all we want to hear from another person is that she/he agrees with us. It's not the matter of hearing the truth or not. It's just the feeling of wanting to know that someone else cares for us and still sides with us. It's normal for some of us to behave like that. I hope you understand this.
@magnet (2087)
• United States
23 Jul 07
I think that I would feel like I'm being fake with my friend if I can't be real. I think that I should be able to disagree because I am my own person and have opinions.Just like I can't always agree with my husband. What kind of relationship would it be if I always had to agree with him? If I disagree it does not mean that I don't care just because I'm not taking sides. I thought that a real friend should be able to be open and honest with each other.
@bennymathew (124)
• India
23 Jul 07
i think most of the people / in fact every one wants to be correct and want to be noticed etc . most of the friends are made when one person agrees with another person and just cannot take the opposite of what has been said . for example , if there are two who say that they like , suppose say "x" . they 70 % of the time become friends indirectly because of similar likeness to the one that is front of them . but this could differ from people to people . so when some thing is been said or discussed , and if his / her friend goes against / ( or even could tell the truth ) her . she would expect her friend to agree to her . this is what i feel .
