it's not fair...*sob..*

Hi diannebcrs~! I know how hard it is to be in a situation like yours. I've been there before. I don't mean to sound harsh or anything, but sometimes we have to look back to where and when it all started. It's easy to think that your friends are not being fair, but before you go there, maybe you should ask yourself, "What is it about me?".. Besides, from your story, you seem like a wonderful friend to have. So I can't understand why those 'friends' of yours are treating you that way. They wouldn't snub you for no apparent reason right? I suggest you confront them about it, and ask for some honest feedback. The truth might hurt, but then it's better than being in the dark like you are now. All the best girl~! :D

yeah, i know that feeling. i've experienced it, and it really sucks. i have a close friend in college, and we're still classmates until now. whenever she's absent, and there's a group work needed to be accomplished, i usually tell my other classmates to take her as one of our group mates, or to add her toour group, so she won't be left behind. but when i was absent, and the class has to form a group, she didn't even bother to tell myother classmates or her groupmates to include me. she didn't even call me to tell me that i have to find a group to accept me. so i was left on the air. i was really sad bout it, thinking that i've given her many favors in the past.

Well same thing has happened to me back when I was in college. There were 4 of us in that group of friends, but it started as 2 on 2. My friend an I then another 2 friends then we kinda merged together, of course it was still evident during the earlier times that there was still 2 groups in our grou of 4. But of course we got along and bonded eventually. My friend then and I were the let us say studious and responsible student type, and the other two were into having fun and skipping classes. My friend and I always ends up doing the group assignments and projects while the two of them don't even show up for project meetings. Then just when we had enough of their being irresponsible, we did not do the math project for our group just as they would have expected us to. And so, they took action and did it themselves, we were happy to see that finally they took initiative to share the work as we still work on other group projects. But when the project was due, that day I happen to look at the folder that we were to submit for the group work, there were only two names, they didn't put our names in! Can you believe that? But no such luck for them, my friend and I still managed to get I think a grade of 1.5 without that project. Even higher than what they got because the group work was only a part of the overall grade. I never told them we knew about it, I don't even know if they ever felt guilty for what they did. But until now, one of them I still have constant communication with and I consider her a friend. I took that lightly and thought that there are more important matters that would affect our friendship. But it is not fair what they did.

To me it sounds like those people are not your friends, but mere acquaintances. I always wonder, particularly in the English language, how easy people refer to 'friends', as if they would abound. In my experience there aren't that many, I had maybe one or two in my life. But ever since I don't refer to people as my friends that easily, life has become a lot easier.

I totally understand your plight! It feels really bad when you long to be part of a clique and stick together for breaks, projects and classes but they just seem to leave you out. I had to always force myself to be part of the clique in order not to be left out. Once, I was ostracized by my class just because I got good grades and they think I am snobbish ( I don't appear very amiable around people I am not familiar with), so they decided not to tell me about the dress code for Sports' Day, so guess what, I was there in my uniform instead of t-shirts and shorts. Damn. It hurts. Luckily, i went on to the top class the following year and made really good friends. Having a few good friends is better than having lots of "normal" friends! Go girl, you deserve better friends!! Regards, Adrienne http://www.e-marketinghub.com http://www.e-marketing-systems.com

i think to the friend so long as sincere paid good. did not have to go haggles over too many!

Aww sweety..im soo very sorry to hear about your problems with your friends..or so called friends i should say..when i was in high school i had the same problems with whom i thought were my friends..and quite frankly it s sad but true my mom was right..they were only friends with my at there convienience..and as a matter of speaking..right now I have run into the same problems with a close friend..well so i thought..but..my sugestion to you is the same as mine lol..YOu need to confront your friends and find out now whats going on...or this is gonna bug you more and more each day untill u do find out what there problem is...and if they keep it up i say just move on and make new friends..i wish u lots of luck hun..take care!

It's not fair. A true friend, like you, would tell you when things at school are coming up, include you in their plans, and never make you feel lefted out. It sounds like you need to get some true friends and leave those fake friends alone.Believe me there are true friends out there who will treat you with the respect you deserve.Take Care.

You are learning! Life is not fair. If it were, I'd be living on an island sippng on drinks without a care in the world! don't expect fair ...better yet...don't expect anything from anybody...you will never be disappointed and that is a good thing!