as a parent do you find it harder to be friends with those who are childless??

Yes! I'm a 25yo mother of twoa nd some of my friends don't have children, and some of them do. I was close to a friend that doesn't have any kids, but haven't spoken to her in like two months..we were talking like every day. I find myself getting closer to other friends that have kids. I think it's because we share more of the same interests now, like the family life,a nd we can relate to each other more. My childless friend that I was close to and I aren't interested in the same things anymore. She always wants me to go out with her on the weekends and I really have no desire to. I would rather go to chuck e cheese and have a movie night with the kids. I guess I'm boring to her now!

I do have that problem. I have had the problem on both ends of this issue. I did not become a mom until I was 38 years old. I went through a time when I felt everyone was having kids and feeling like they couldn't relate to me anymore. I surrounded myself with friends who's kids were either older or didn't have kids at all and now I have a 3 yr old. It is like I am going through the same issue all over only on the other end.

I have the opposite problem. Now that my kids are adults, and grown and gone, my friends with kids don't come around so much. Of course, I have always been close to their kids, to, so now I am closer to them than to the parents. Strange, isn't it?

Yes I do too seem to find it harder to hang out with friends that don't have kids. Because either I seem to only really talk about my daughter (I dont have much else fun or exciting to talk about) Or they want to do things at times of the day or night that just arn't possible for me. I do have a few friends that are childless that are good about inviting me to do things that my daughter can be included in, and then also lets me know about events that are not for kids too with enough time to find someone to watch her if I am interested. So thats great! But I have found myself to have the same feelings of people being annoyed too. So I just try to keep in contact with them over the phone or thru email so we dont just stop talking but not as much actual going out and doing things together

I agree completely. I am a new mother of a 1 and a half year old little girl, and I find I can't even visit my friends' without kids because they haven't gone through the whole child proofing thing. My daughter is in to absolutely everything! With me spending so much time chasing her around trying to keep her from touching all the "pretty" but expensive things, I have no time at all to actually visit with my friend. It's very, very difficult!

I'm married for almost 6 years and I'm blessed with 2 kids, a girl and a boy. As a parent for me its not harder to make friends to those who are childless. I had an officemate who was married for almost 3 years and they don't have a child yet because the girl has a retroverted uterus so they had difficulties in conceiving a baby. One time we have a talked and I asked her what was the problem and that was she said. So I told her stories from other people and based on my experienced on what to do in order for them to successfully conceived. I also referred her to my OBGyn and she followed what I said. They visited my doctor and they were given advised and medicines until finally she got pregnant. Therefore I can conclude that its not hard to make friends with them its even interesting since they will love listening to you while you are sharing your experiences what you have undergone during pregnancy until the time you will deliver the baby.

Yes, I feel like that. Well, I never had many friends in the first place but now, I'm a 26 year old mum of two while the few friends I did have are still clubbing every weekend and going out on the pull - all the kinds of things I haven't done since I was a teenager! Now I get on better with older mums than I do with any other group of people. I think a big part of the reason is because they are usually full-time mums like myself, I don't even really get on that well with other mums my age because so many of them spend more time at work than with their kids so I stillhave nothing in common with them! I don't know about my friends getting annoyed with me but a lot of them stopped asking me to do things after I had to say no a few times. The problem I have now is that the friends I used to have don't appear to understand that, while I do have children and they come first, I still do want to do things and that I can't always do things because of the kids. But with my older friends, they don't want to do the things I want to do, they already have their friends their own age and they do old people things (sorry, I don't mean that in a rude way!). I'm still a 26 year old wanting to do some of the things a 26 year old should want to do but I grew out of a lot of the things that my younger friends still want to do.

No I don't find it harder, i have both friends with and without children and would say I socialise with them both equally... I do however see your point, couples without children tend to have no bounderies as we may need to drop everything and Leave to attend our children......

I have a few friends who are childless couples. Quite often I try to have good interaction between their household and that of mine. They are of very loving disposition to my children . At least outwardly they seem not worried about without having kids for themselves.

I have no trouble being friends with people without children. Although i do find i dont have as much to relate to people with no children as i am sure they feel about me too. I do find that u can see the other side of life though i can see what it is like to have no children as too the childless friends i have can see how the other half live with kids as well. It all depends in the way you look at it i guess.

I can't really say that i find it difficult to be friends with those who are childless,haven't had to face such a situation yet,but since my elder one goes to school,and i drop & pick her to & from school,so i generally meet parents of other children from the same class.But i suppose it is difficult to relate to friends who do not have children,because as a mother i am all the time thinking about my kids.Generally the conversation also revolves around children.So it is only but natural that friends who are childless would tend to get irritated,if all the time one is just talking about kids.That wouldn't interest them very much.and similarly other topics wouldn't interest me for a very long time.I too look forward to making friends my age,with children maybe my children's ages,so that when we actually meet up everyone is happy in their own company,and there is no worry of any kind.

I definitely have that problem. I'm a 20 year-old mom of two, so most of my old high school friends are away at college doing the whole "party all the time" thing. Most of the people I know who do have kids are quite a bit older than me so I'm just stuck in the middle.