How Did You Feel About Your Baby

@birthlady (5609)
United States
October 25, 2006 3:31pm CST
at the moment of birth? Did you feel you already know your newborn? Or did you feel your baby is a stranger you need to get to know? Did you love your baby from the moment of birth? Or does "mother love" take a while to learn and develop?
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@chebel82 (417)
• United States
26 Oct 06
with everyone of my kids icried cuz iwas so happy to physically hold them in my arms, and happy that they were born with no complications, I don't know what i would have done if any had passed away on me I just love them sooo much
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@chebel82 (417)
• United States
26 Oct 06
I think witnessing a birth is a wonderful thing, and I hope to become a R.N. someday, even if i'm already 50 when I start
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@birthlady (5609)
• United States
27 Oct 06
It's never too late! There are alot of programs to help you get started, and special benefits for nurses in underserved areas.
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@birthlady (5609)
• United States
26 Oct 06
Me too! I cry at all births, even if I don't know the family!
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• United States
25 Oct 06
I was really happy and start crying when I heard her voice. I already loved my baby before she was born.
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@birthlady (5609)
• United States
25 Oct 06
I felt the same way with each of my 3 babies...
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@birthlady (5609)
• United States
25 Nov 06
I felt strong relationships with each of my three children while I was pregnant with them. The bond between myself and my babies in the womb, is just as strong now--and my children are 30, 25, and 20 years of age.
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@DeenaD (2684)
• United States
4 Nov 06
I was amazed by the reality and the absolute perfection of this tiny person, amazed by the fact that it had been inside of me just minutes before though I'd never really seen it with my own eyes until that moment(except through a few grainly ultrasounds). And so in love!
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@birthlady (5609)
• United States
22 Nov 06
Falling in love with our newborn babies is awesome.
@thisisme (263)
• United States
26 Oct 06
funny as it may seem. i didnt connect to her right away. her father did though. i had some postpardum stuff going on! but now! omg! she is my life. my everything. all i ever need, and needed!
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@birthlady (5609)
• United States
26 Oct 06
it's very common to not connect with your baby right away when there is some postpartum stuff going on. You are not alone. Many women experience this when they are overwhelmed by pain during childbirth process.
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• United States
27 Oct 06
I loved my baby from the moment i found out i was pregnant, i talked to him every night and told him how much i loved him and how i couldnt wait until we met. I think a mothers love is automatic.
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@birthlady (5609)
• United States
5 Nov 06
How do you think your son responded to your unconditional love? Did he kick in the womb when you said you love hime?
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@Tanya8 (1733)
• Canada
4 Nov 06
I had a very surreal bonding experience following my first birth. I looked down at my daughter for the first time and I felt what seemed like a physical wave crash over me. It was almost violent, yet it felt wonderful. I went from just wanting to get the baby out, to feeling more attached to and in love with anyone than I'd ever been. When my second child was born, they wrapped him up so much, I felt like the blankets were interfering with my chance to bond with him. As soon as I was alone with him, I unwrapped him and, again had that feeling of being knocked over by a wave of love. I do realize this doesn't happen for everyone, so I felt very lucky to have gone through it.
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@birthlady (5609)
• United States
22 Nov 06
Falling in love with newborn baby is a beautiful experience I wish all mothers could go through.
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• United States
25 Nov 06
I felt like I was in over my head and that I didn't know what I got myself into. I felt like she was a stranger, but we didn't get any time to ourselves much at the hospital with all of his family visiting. It was alot for me to take in.
@birthlady (5609)
• United States
25 Nov 06
I understand how you feel, many women feel this way also. Is it better now?
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@LadyElektra (1078)
• Canada
25 Oct 06
ty very much
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@birthlady (5609)
• United States
4 Nov 06
You're very welcome!
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@LadyElektra (1078)
• Canada
25 Oct 06
ty very much..here she is
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@birthlady (5609)
• United States
25 Oct 06
She's beautiful! Her name fits her, as her eyes sing out happiness!
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@LadyElektra (1078)
• Canada
25 Oct 06
i was overwelmed with joy..my heart sang a tune and thats why i called her melodie
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@birthlady (5609)
• United States
25 Oct 06
How beautiful!
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@Mandi2005 (157)
• United States
26 Oct 06
I fell in love with my son the moment I knew I was pregnant. There was a life inside of me, and he was all mine. He was the most gorgeous baby I had ever seen when he was born, and I remember feeling so overwhelmed, scared, and excited all at the same time. I love my son more than anything in this world.
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@birthlady (5609)
• United States
4 Nov 06
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Thank you for responding. Are there special ways you noticed your baby responding to your love?
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@birthlady (5609)
• United States
10 Dec 06
Yes, me too, as soon as I knew I was pregnant, I feel overwhelming love for each of my 3 children.
• United States
10 Dec 06
I felt the same way when I found out I was pregnant
@anja31 (708)
• Canada
25 Nov 06
Hard to say, but I love my daughter when I got her in my arms and that was by birth
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@birthlady (5609)
• United States
25 Nov 06
thank you for responding
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@firelight (1858)
• Australia
25 Nov 06
I was very overprotective and hated other people holding my baby, I wanted to just be alone to spend time with him! It felt like everyone else got to hold him and not me lol
@birthlady (5609)
• United States
25 Nov 06
I would not allow anyone to hold my babies but me for their first week or so.
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@emarie (5442)
• United States
26 Nov 06
of course..i loved him so much...i just wanted to hold him and protect him.
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@birthlady (5609)
• United States
26 Nov 06
It's a beautiful feeling, isn't it!?
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• United States
26 Oct 06
I loved my children before they were even born, my son for some reason I felt like we were already bonded at birth, but my daughter, everything sort of felt surreal to me, and I felt like she was someone elses child, I just couldnt get through to myself that I actually had a daughter and that I had given birth to the baby across the room from me
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@birthlady (5609)
• United States
4 Nov 06
Were there drastic differences in your experiences with each pregnancy, labor, and birthing?
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• United States
25 Nov 06
That's the weird part about it... Everyone thinks that the second your baby is born you have some connection with it. Don't get me wrong, I was SOOOO happy my daughter was here. I just didn't feel like everyone said I was supposed to feel. I do know though. It took time for me. And I like that. Because I actually made a bond with my baby because we worked for it, not because it was just given to us. I will say though.. I had an emergency csection and was completely knocked out. So I didn't get to see, hear, or hold her for a few hours. Well, after I had woken up she was crying and crying. They brought her over to me and she just looked up and stopped like "hey.. I know you!" That was one of my proudest moments as a mother.
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@birthlady (5609)
• United States
25 Nov 06
That is a very tender moment! Your baby recognized you! The first hour and hours after birthing are chemically sensitive times for mom and baby, when physiology sets us up to fall in love with our newborn.
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• United States
26 Nov 06
Hello there...and great topic btw..my cousin and i were talkin about this the other day..she ha s a new bor../and this topic came up..When I first had him with all the complications I could barely hold him wothout dropping him..so i only held him a few mins and then passed out..i had him 9:24am and slept till about 11pm..wow i know lol..but i was also in hard labor for 3 days..anywho..I deff loved him at first site..i had so much love that my heart felt liek it was gonna explode..but..i really didnt feel any bond with him teill he was about a month old..It was soooooooo weird..and i dont know why..but i remember the instant it happened..and i dont know what exaclt happened..it just did..he is my world..and i just cant ever imagine what my life would have been like wihtout him..
@birthlady (5609)
• United States
26 Nov 06
Thank you! You went through alot, did the bond with your son come as a surprize to you, or do you think it was because as he got older, you got to know him better, and he knew you better too...
• United States
10 Dec 06
I felt totally in love and bonded with all three of mine before they where even born. I was overwhelmed with joy and love when I was able to meet them face to face for the first time. I still am every time I look at them! It is a love like no other!!
@birthlady (5609)
• United States
10 Dec 06
Yes, I agree!
@krysy1982 (1041)
• United States
26 Nov 06
I loved my children before they were born. They are the reason I get up every morning.
@birthlady (5609)
• United States
26 Nov 06
Thank you for responding. My children keep me going, and they are adults now!
@CMC122003 (316)
• United States
22 Nov 06
First Day - This was a day after delivery.
I felt I already knew her. I had talked to her for nine months. And yes I loved her the second I saw her.
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@birthlady (5609)
• United States
25 Nov 06
I talked to my babies before they were born also, and I knew my babies too, its like an "aha!" feeling, "So this is what you look like!"
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