how do you tell your friend that he/she smells...

If you are true friends she should not mind if you tell her. But do not go like:"Hey you stink.", tell her that you heard people talking behind her back about it and that she has a strong smell and you want to help her because you are her friend. people sometimes are funny... we judge people that worn us about our mistakes and associate with hypocrites that rather talk behind our backs about it... i like it when my friends warn me about my mistakes, and that's why i get to call them my friends :D

Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. It might hurt her feelings, but she needs to know. Pull her aside and tell her in a place where there are no other people around and break it to her gently and be tactful about it. Deodorant doesn't darken armpits, and there are a number of clear deodorants so no one can tell it's there. Stress the importance of bathing every day. If you must, let her know that you noticed it and a few other people had made comments. If she knows other people are noticing, then she might be more wiling to do something about it. I once knew a girl who smelled really bad, and it turned out that she had a severe hormonal imbalance that caused her to produce excess testosterone. She had facial hair and everything. I'm not saying this is the case with your friend, but there might be something else going on that you're unaware of.

Everybody has a smell or the other it only because we love them so much that why we dont smell it. But in a particular case like yours just call her for a walk and try and buy for her a deodorant and just let her know that you are a true friend you can tell her that if she uses the deodorant it improves her walk with other people, she will get your message and if she does not tell her that you yourself have an odour that you use deodorant to stem it and you will advise that she does the same she will grab the message if she will not then just tell her plainly that you can see that she has an odour and you will want her to use deodorant so she can smell better, simple fact.

This is always an awkward situation in which to be in. I would honestly just tell her the truth in private. That you have heard comments that she has body odor. I know if I were in her shoes I would appreciate that information so I can fix the problem. I hate being in that situation!

Hi there. Look just be honest with her, she may not know that she stinks, she may be so use to smelling like that her nose has become imune to the smell, she may not realise others can smell her... I think you should take her aside and really talk to her, be straight up and tell her that others can smell her and people are talking. Shes either going to appreciate you for it and make positive changes or turn against you, what ever she does, she must be told, not only for her own good, for the consideration of other peoples nostrils and space... Also her parents might of told her not to use deoderant due to getting black pits, which is a whole lot of crock... Anyway Good luck with this one...

I would tell her the honst truth. If you had body oder and didnt know wouldnt you want to? Even if you got mad? Just dont tell her in pyblic and dont be funny aboutit. Be as serious as possible. Let her know the resonse you are telling her so she will also know that these people smile in her face and laugh behind her back.

if your friend is a sensitive kind of person, there will be no easy way to tell her about the truth without hurting her feelings. but since your intentions to her is pure and that you are just concerned, you better tell her about it. the truth always hurts. but if you explain everything to your friend in a good way, she will realize that you are just being a friend to her that's why you're telling her about the situation. if she is really your friend, she will be grateful for you telling her the truth than not. atleast, people will stop talking about her negatively. that she will truly appreciate in the long run. anne

maybe in that situation just don't tell nothing you buy a deodorant and put at her schoolbag so that way she arrive home and think someone try to tell her she smells bad and want a better smell... in my opinio that way you don't discuss with her and she don't have 100% sure that was you that put the deodorant at her bag! if you prefer the direct way tell her she can be furious with you so better try what i said!

It she is a friend then i would tell her. Take her aside away from your other class mates and tell her that the reason why everyone is laughing at her is because of her smell. Look it up on the net and show her what deodarant does and that it won't darken her armpits. Offer to buy one for her, the kind you use and see how she goes with that. That's what I would do.

Try finding a deodorant that won't "darken" (??) her pits first, then approach her about her smell. Offer the new deodorant as a solution. You didn't mention if she has a weight problem or eats a lot of garlic, both of which can create really strong body odors.

Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multipliess kisses (Proverbs 27:6), Perfume and insence bring joy to the heart, and the pleasantness of one's friendship springs from his earnest councel (Prov. 27:9), IF YOU ARE REALLY CONCERN ABOUT YOUR FRIEND, TELL HER THE TRUTH, I KNOW IT HURTS, BUT IT WILL MAKE HER A BETTER PERSON, Dont drop names, TELL HER," You know i smell something in your underarm, i used this product, so it doen't smells and doesn't darken it. I suggest you let her use ALOE VERA DEODORANT STICK from FOREVER LIVING PRODUCT. It works for mew because they are natural. Or if you have your own product share with her.

I have a friend with a similar problem. I have thus far decided to just keep my mouth shut and deal with it. Some days she really smells and i just wanna scream at her to do something. But she is a heavier girl with several health issues. She is as sweet as can be and I do not wanna hurt her feelings or piss her off. So I can really relate to your situation. I wish you lots of luck!! Let us know how it all turns out!!

I think the only way to go is to be honest with your friend. You really have to tell her about her problem as it's uncomfortable for others as well as her, especially if she realises that people are talking about her. It's not a nice feeling to be gossiped about. Perhaps buy her a small gift of body washes, deoderants etc, research the ones that are the most gentle to the skin etc and explain all this to her when giving the present. If you educate her on what she can use and how, it may help a bit to overcome the embarrassment.

If my friend smells really bad, I will tell her to change the brand she is using because my brand makes me more confident because I am sure it makes me feel fresh throughout the day. In this manner she will realized that something is wrong with her hygiene.

well, honesty is always the best policy and there is no other better way of telling your friend than telling her directly... i think if she is your true friend, she won't get angry... instead, she will thank you as you are doing her a big favour... just tell her in a very nice manner and if she is matured enough, she will take your input and do something about it...

I will sit down and try a tactic to make her unaware that I am actually helping her. I will discuss with her and tell her that I have a problem. I will tell her my problem is I don't know which deodorant I want to buy, since my body odor is getting worse and my current deodorant can't conceal the bad smell anymore. I want her to accompany me to the mall and choose which deodorant is best for me. If she doesn't want to go, I will persuade until she agrees. At the mall I will persuade her to take a deodorant that she likes, and offers to pay for it as my way of saying thanks for accompanying me. Tell her that I want her to wear it to school because I want to know how it would smell on her. Isn't this a great idea? May it will help your friend. I wish you good luck. Have a nice day!

just tell it to your friend in private, so she won't be embarrased at all...

If her fear is that her armpits will get darkened there is Deoderant from Dove that helps the appearence of under arms.

if you consider her a and vice versa, i think you should be honest with her, tell her, if she takes offense then let it be. you did her a favor.

make a simple story about two friends :) invent a situation and along the story, emphasize the importance of using deodorant. OR, tell her in a very subtle manner about her bad odor. ouch, honestly, that's hard to do but then, it is for your own friend and at some point, you are related to her so make the efforts ok? :)