my friend is going to abort her baby!

that is IDIOTIC. what does my friend know about what's for the best interest of her and her baby? she's still a teenager. she doesn't have to go through her pregnancy alone. that's why i'm here, i'm her friend. i want her to seek some help from her loved ones, help and support! ok, i'm not forcing her what to do.. what i wanna do is to convince her to do the right thing. ok so you don't believe in sin.. that doesn't excuse you for being ignorant of what's right and wrong. thanks for expressing your opinion, though. i appreciate it. :)

again, i am not talking about legal or illegal acts here.. right now it's between moral and immoral acts. thank you very much.

I think what she is not explaining to you guys is that abortion is illegal in her country! Please set your personal opinions aside for a sec here. The real issue here is that her friend is getting an abortion..illegally and it more than likely is not safe.

thank you. sigh.. i can't find my friend anywhere - her boyfriend won't tell me! i plan to encourage her to pursue the baby not because i want her life to be ruined but to make her grow up and be responsible. i'm pretty sure that being a teenage mom is hard, but that's life, right? we'll all be given different responsibilities to deal with. we shouldn't run away from our problems. we should be able to face them! most importantly, we shouldn't correct our mistakes with another mistake because that won't work.. i know some people with silly mind think that we should leave God alone.. hello?! God is the answer to all our problems, if they must know.

a friend of mine got thru this, and we didnt interfere then, then now, she said she didnt do the right thing.

What ever happened to people just leaving others to make decisions in their life/Her friend has made this decision, and I suspect not lightly. She should not interfere

do you think if the baby inside her could shout, do you think it will shout: "KILL ME, so you could have a better life?" its not really interefering but a mere of a friend giving advice to friend. if she doesnt listen then its up to her.

i AM her friend. that's why i plan to encourage her to pursue the baby and take the responsibility instead of terminating the pregnancy. i'm not going to fight with her.. i just want to make her see. you know, i don't really think that saving our good friendship is more important that saving that baby. but thanks for expressing your opinion.. "This is a very personal choice and one to be made between her and her boyfriend. Ultimately the final choice is hers." and if you must know, they're still both teenagers. they don't really know what's right, therefore they shouldn't make a drastic decision. they should seek help..

ok...just realized that abortion is illegal where you are at which means it could be very dangerous. Obviously her relationship with parents is strained as it is. Is there any other trusted adult that could help?

As you can see, I've changed my stance here. In some cases our personal thoughts on things do not matter much at all.

adoption is an option. but she doesn't like her baby to be adopted because she thinks that'll surely leave her some psychological problem.. i don't know what she's going through right now, but i strongly disagree with her aborting her baby! i can't find her.. i think she's hiding.. i'm afraid she'll do what shouldn't be done.. :(

Yes I am a mother and thank you - I am very fond of my family =) I must point out that I once was a teenager and although it has been a few years since I was a teenager, I do remember the struggles that teenagers go through. But again, I will say you can not make her do what she does not want to do. I do agree that she should seek counsel on this and she should make an informed decision but if her mind is already made up on this, unfortunatly there is not much she can do. By you going to her parents and telling them something they might not know about her, that will only make her resent you, but she will also resent her parents (if she doesn't already). You make a statement that the advice of her boyfriend is not good because he is a teenager, but you are also a teenager. Would that mean your advice to her is not good either? I am sure you don't think so. I am not agreeing with the choice that they are making because I am TOTALLY against abortion, but again, you just need to be there for her and let her face the consquences of her decision. That is one thing I can tell you as a mother and as a former teenager, you learn from your decisions and you deal with your consquences. And sometimes, that is the best thing for us - to learn from our consquences. If we are always told what to do and the proper way to do it, how do we learn and grow as a person? You can always give advice to someone and you pray for them to make the right choice but ultimatly, it is their choice. Just be there for your friend no matter what. She is going to need you - even more so if she has that abortion.

I don't have much choice, do I? She's done it. Yesterday.. She told me she had second thoughts about terminating her pregnancy, but her boyfriend urged her to get it over with. She didn't have much choice. And right now, I don't have much choice - except support her. What's done is done. And I can't help but feel so darn depressed because of what she's going through. Thanks for your response and concern. Much appreciated.

Sure, because I'm as hard as a rock.

thanks. sadly, as much as i want to hug her and be there for her, i can't find her anywhere.. i feel like crying already.. :( i know it's her call and her decision to make. but that makes it wrong if she does the decision without even asking for help and advice from her loved ones, right? i mean, she listened to her boyfriend. but what does her teenage boyfriend know about what she's going through? it's really a sad situation for her. if only i could do something about it..

Well who knows what she is actually feeling right now. What gets me is the boyfriend is not even concerned for her you know? If it was me and for some unknown reason I was going through this, then I would expect my partner there with me every step of the way. It is sad that she felt she had no-one to turn to but I suppose being in her position, its easier said than done.

CALM DOWN PEOPLE. Enough of telling one another to shut up! You have made yourself VERY CLEAR sacrificial claim and her response was in reply to MY COMMENT. So please, LET HER BE.

health and safety. yes, of course. but in this situation, it also includes a new course of responsibility which she should take - not escape from.

Oh my again God here or God there... Can't you leave Him alone??

sacs...abortion is illegal in this girls country...that means that her friend is seeking an illegal, underground abortion and we all know what that means ...don't we? I don't think the issue here is really about abortion..right and wrong...it really is about the health and saftey of the mother at this point!!!

I totally agree with you it is her right and her decision. I understand the negativity around abortion but it is a girl's choice in the end. After she does this she will need someone there for support cause she will grieve and feel very bad. Please just support your friend for what she thinks is right.

i don't agree with you, guys. it's my friend's fault why she got pregnant. she made a mistake by not being careful. she can't just correct a mistake by ANOTHER mistake like killing an innocent child. she has to take the consequences with responsibility.. and aborting a baby is one version of murder. that is a sin.. my friend here should seek some help.

sure.. that's why i'm saying that she shouldn't correct a mistake with another mistake.