what kind of a friend is this?
By sunshine4
@sunshine4 (8703)
United States
July 26, 2007 10:01am CST
I have been friends with my best friend since 3rd grade. We are now 44 yrs old. I called my friend last week on her birthday from the beach in florida because I was on vacation. I told her I would love to take her out for lunch to celebrate her birthday. She picked today and said that she would take the day off. I called her all this week to verify that we were still on for today and she never called back. I called her this morning and her husband answered and told me that she was working. I just called her at work and she was like "Oh, I forgot." I was really hurt by this. Here I rearranged my schedule, found a babysitter for my kids, saved a little extra money to pay for it, and she forgot about it! She wants to reschedule, but now I don't even feel like taking her out. What do you think about this kind of friend.....do you have any friends like this?
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8 responses
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
23 Feb 09
Well, sometimes people do tend to forget, and sometimes unless you remind people on the date planned things can come up. All I can say I would not let it bother you. It is your choice from here whether to be Friends or not. I know when I went to IL almost 6 yrs. ago and seen my Best friend from High School it was quite different and found out we had changed a whole lot, and had not much in common anymore. I have only heard from here like 3 times since even.
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@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
23 Feb 09
No, she will always be my best friend. I know that this is how she is, so it was expected.
We talk on the phone or email all the time. We live about 3 minutes away from each other. Our kids are friend too.
@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
17 Jan 09
Oh dear... I dont usually take friends out but I had a different kind of friend. She hated her birthdays but wanted presents. Every year I would buy her a present and she never once said ok lets go for a drink or something. And on my b'day she would give me something worth very little like a candle. And this was my best friend.
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@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
17 Jan 09
For some reason we continue to stay best friends with these people. I guess we know how they are and just learn to accept them.
@mimatexas (1818)
• United States
28 Jul 07
With friends like these you don't need enemies. I don't think she forgot, she might have made plans with someone else and she is inventing this excuse now. I wouldn't reschedule it for her.
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@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
29 Jul 07
I don't think that she forgot either. I think that it wasn't important enough for her, so she decided not to go. No big deal...she saved me some money as I was going to buy her lunch.
@awonderfullife (2893)
• United States
30 Jul 07
That's pretty rude of your friend. I agree, I wouldn't do it another time either. She missed her chance, lol. I have a selfish friend like that too. Every time we meet for lunch (about once a year) she "forgets" her money. Well guess what, I think I've had my last lunch with her.
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@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
31 Jul 07
True, I don't know why we waist our time and energy with these so called friends. I even started to feel bad today so called her to see if she wanted to come over and sit by the pool with me. She never even returned my call. I don't know why I try.
@myfanwy65 (1030)
• United States
26 Jul 07
I have friends like that, or I have had. I don't spend a lot of time with them anymore. I have one friend who forgot a couple times to come get me for a time we had planned to go shopping together. She thought that was ok. She nevered called to apologize. I saw her a couple weeks later at Wal Mart and she acted like she hadn't even thought of it or me until then. I don't need a friend like that.
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@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
26 Jul 07
Probably if this was a new friend that I had just made, I wouldn't stick around, but I have been friends with her for 36 yrs and she has always been like this.
@ang_2906 (76)
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26 Jul 07
I have afriend like this, she however would cancel on me at the last minute and not re-arrange and probably not feel guilty about it either although i don't know that for sure. I don't understand my friend as she doesn't exactly have a lot of friends to choose from so I wonder why she acts the way she does.
I wouldn't feel like re-arranging either but if you're anything like me and being a good friend you'll bow down and see her another time.
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@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
26 Jul 07
Sounds like I am alot like you and our so called friends are alot like each other. I have decided to tell her that I am busy when she wants to reschedule and just stop by and give her the gift I bought her. I run a daycare and had to set up an alternate sitter for the kids today. I am still mad about this, but I know how she is so I need to get over it.
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
18 Mar 09
What happened on her next birthday (as I see this is an oldie)? I imagine you are stil friends and she has probably put you into some more of the same sort of situations right?
I have a friend like that too. Well we are less friendly than we used to be because I couldn't put up with having to alter everything to the way she always wanted it to be. We would plan an evening out, decide we were going to such and such a place but then when the time came she would have reserved a table elsewhere and not told me anything. Not once but several times. So I stopped being available.
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
18 Mar 09
Yep, this is an oldie, but goodie.
On her last birthday I just stopped by her house with a little gift for her. She wasn't home so I left it with her husband. We are still friends but I don't make plans with her often.
We did go out for dinner in Dec with the husbands too.
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@jessi0887 (2788)
• United States
19 Dec 08
I don't have a friend who has done this before. I do have a snobby, selfish, immature friend who i could see doing this. The only reason we are friends is we get along fine and have things in common and share secrets.
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