Cheating!

I wouldnt go after either my husband for cheating or the person he cheated with. I would calmly pack all his stuff and sit out by tyhe road. Then I would file for divorce,empty our checking accounts,and take every thing he has.

Well..I do not have that situation; but, if I did I would not respond with a violent act. I would sit down my significant other..bf or husband .. and ask him outright what the reasonnig is. I would ask ..what is lacking in the relationshiop that he had to cheat. Some men can not stay committed and should never marry ..They float around flirting with all they can find. I would say ..counseling is the best place for the couple involved to meet the problem head on ..the counselor would act as the "referee" "moderator" and keep things on a balanced pace.

In some places the other woman/guy is able to be sued for some infraction. It does take two to tango they say and Yes I would be made at the mate as well as the other woman. At any point if she knew he was married she could have done the right thing and backed off. I would vote to legally punish them both. Perhaps that would save another lady/guy the same grief as I got.

I've never understood that mentality either. It's your partner who broke your trust, not whoever they chose to cheat with. Unless that person had specifically promised me not to mess around with my partners, I wouldn't hold any enmity towards them, because they haven't actually broken any promises. I certainly wouldn't go after some stranger that didn't even know me as if they had done some personal wrong to me. Ultimately the vows between my partner and myself can only be broken by us, and therefore the other person really doesn't have anything to do with the problem itself. I suppose if they were a very close friend or family member I would be annoyed at them, but even then, the anger wouldn't be anything like I would have towards my partner.

Actually, I've had this happen to me twice. In both cases, I remained "friendly" with all parties involved, but to a lesser degree. And neither of the girls ever had a second chance with me. One of them tried to win me back at one point, and I essentially told her, "Tough luck." There's an old saying that goes something like this: "If you screw me over once, shame on you. If you screw me over twice, shame on me." I swear by this philosophy. I can forgive, but I never forget. And I will never put the person in the position where they might be able to do it again. Is that hard hearted of me? Maybe, but I won't have it any other way.

you have to know your spouse first before you know how you should react. some cases that the teasing came from the other side. if he or she tried it really hard, your spouse might fall for him/her. of course spouse is the one you should blame first, but the first intention came from him/her.

I think it is the fault of both, but of course mostly the fault of whomever you have a commitment with. Each situation would vary greatly. No matter how you slice it, it is a rough situation to be in.

I know lots of people who've been cheated on by their partners and have talked about getting even with the person that they cheated with and I've always been rather bemused by it. Say your husband cheats on you, he's the one who's married to you, he's the one who's supposed to be faithful to you, if you're gonna chop off anyone's bits and pieces it should be HIS not the woman he cheated with. For some sense of satisfaction, I'd want to say to the woman, after I packed my man's suitcases and threw them at his head "You want him? Have him! I hope you find out what it feels like to be cheated on some time down the line, cos he's done it to me and he'll probably do it to you too!" And then add something really cutting like "Oh and I hope you like all types of housework cos he's sure as hell gonna expect you to be doing ALL of it, enjoy!" I was with my ex for 15 years and without going into it all, I got a great sense of satisfaction from punching his lights out when we first split up and he cried like a baby begging me not to dump him. He did the unforgivable to me and no one was I ever going to take him back. He's still with the other woman but that's more to do with the fact that his parents chose her for him and I don't care much to know about how his life is now. He actually expected me to stay with him after finding out about the other woman, I can't understand what a desperate cow he thought I was?! I've never met her nor do I wish to, none of it was her fault as he never even told her about me in the first place!

They probably move on with the one they cheated with becasuse she/he is the latest crush and all humans have a tendency for keeping new things and throwing away the old ones. maybe that is what's getting shown here, basic human tendency. So,if i'm faced with the same situation i'd do exactly what u did. But if it were a friend then i'd go mad solely on my friend and not on my girl, don't ask me why, but that's how i feel i'd do.

Both, but I will madder at the partner that betrayed me and will mostly just ignore his partner in crime. Now if the other woman gives me trouble well then it's a different story.

I have been cheated on and it is my partner that I am upset with. The other girl may or may not even know about me. Of course if it were a friend of mine or family member...I'd be doubly hurt. It takes two.

at the time i was cheated for the first time i didn't go after the lady but instead i went after my guy..confronted him and asks several questions why it has to happen..i don't wanna do anything with the lady besides if my guy had moved away from her when the time he feels like cheating then things will not happen..its all in a guy when things happen and the only question asked was if there is something that i she has that i don't have for him to cheat on me..

Firstly,"cheat" is a bad word,I don not like this word and I hate the person who like cheating others'love. we should treasure the relationship between our friends,familymemmber and the boy or girl that you love,so I often treated them in my heart.because I love them and they also love me ,especially,your sweetheart and your family . If someone cheated me,i don not want to beat the person,because he is so tirty and foul,I don not want him dirty my hands.

I agree with you.I can't hold someone cheat me,if they cheat me ,I will cut off relation with them

Your totally right, I would go after the spouse for sure...They might not have even told this fling about you and could be totally innocent...Its the other half that would cop it..

A very wise woman once said, "The best revenge is to make her/him keep the cheater." I think I have to agree with that. Sit back and wait for it; it'll come.

I feel why go after anyone of them. I would say "good riddens, now he is yours." I do not want a cheeter, and you cannot stop someone from cheating on you if they want to. I would not want him to know how he upset me.

I wouldn't go after either of them - i would stay away from both and break it off.

I agree with you I would be mad at my husband.But like you said if its a friend or family memember I would have to get more involved. I would have to confront them.

I would definetly put more of the anger towards the person who cheated not the person who they cheated with. Many times the other person doesn't even know...those are the worse. Here this one, I was cheating on...by my boyfriend...with ANOTHER GUY...at age 15. Now how horribe is that? I never really went after the guy he cheated on me with but it's been 3 years and I still don't talk to my ex. ~cass