will you get married if you are a college student now?
By xiongyijun
@xiongyijun (171)
China
July 27, 2007 10:53am CST
rencently, china has made it legal for college students getting married on condition you are above 22(male) or 20(female). some campus lovers practiced. my boyfriend also said he wants to propose to me.
if you are a college student now, will you get married ?why?
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13 responses
@teejams (88)
• Philippines
28 Jul 07
man does not live on love alone. there are other factors to consider. if you can work and study at the same time. well then good. if you can save up and have money for emergency and education. well then good. but if you are just going to live one day at a time meaning spend what you have now and just worry about expenses when there is...then it's gonna be hard. but if that's okay with you...well then good. :)
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
30 Jul 07
A lot of people are forced to live day-to-day for many reasons throughout life, both married and unmarried, it makes no difference, so why should it matter when you're gatting married?
@teejams (88)
• Philippines
31 Jul 07
well, for one it matters for the future kids. of course we want a better life for them. if we only think of ourselves, then it maybe them who will suffer the consequences. a lot of children today are suffering coz of they're parents' mistakes. so maybe it is better to think twice before entering into a new decision in life.
@xiongyijun (171)
• China
30 Jul 07
you take further consideration of your life and your future family. that's very good. good luck!^^
@freezinglable (17)
• China
3 Aug 07
It is a easy question for me because i have no boyfriend now ***
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
27 Jul 07
My fiance is in college. I can't afford it, but I hope to go eventually. I'm 20 ears old and he's 22 and we're getting married next year because we're in love and we want to. What other reason is there?
@xiongyijun (171)
• China
30 Jul 07
it seems you are very happy now. you're right , nothing but love make sense and marriage is the home of love. i hope you can live toghter for ever!^^
@LeXDei (209)
• Philippines
31 Jul 07
I prefer to finish my studies first before settling down. I guess it is the natural order of things.... you study, get a job then finally marry somebody to spend the rest of your life with. Though, I guess most countries allow their citizens to marry as long as they can be considered adults, I would rather encourage young people to endeavor to have emotional and financial stability first.
@xiongyijun (171)
• China
3 Aug 07
according to what you've said, should i understand it as : marriage will be good when the two are finacially stable? or people would not live togheter happily when they're emotionally stable but not finacially stable? then what is marriage? and what we have it for?
@dreamr802 (985)
• United States
31 Jul 07
How old did you have to be to get married in China before they made that legal? But I met my boyfriend in my junior year of college so we aren't getting married before I graduate...but if I had known him throughout college then possibly I would get married while in school, it just depends on financials...Plus you don't want to rush into anything.
@xiongyijun (171)
• China
3 Aug 07
actually , the age doesn't change---22for male and 20 for female. what was changed is people are free to got married above 22 or 20, no matter wether you are college students or not.
@alibabatheace (53)
• United States
30 Jul 07
I wouldn't get married in college. I want to finish college first and get a good job before starting a family.
@xiongyijun (171)
• China
31 Jul 07
in china, marriage would become much more materialized than love when you are not a student anymore.the two will take house, work, wealth and social rank into consideration and these factors usually have much greater influence deciding got married or not.
i don't know is it the same with your hometown.
what i am persuiting is true and pure love.
maybe one can't live only on love, but without love, life will be not so interesting.
@teejams (88)
• Philippines
28 Jul 07
im a college graduate and have been working for 5 years. i don't think i would get married if i were in college. getting married for me means committing to start a new family hence, be separated from my own family. so how do we do that if we're still studying and asking for allowances from our parents. when i get married i want my husband and i to have a stable job for our family. i don't want our family to suffer like other kids who weren't given the chance to study, loittering in the streets coz they have no food to eat, school to go to and no home to stay at. asking money from our parents makes us still dependent and being dependent gives them the right to dictate what you should and shouldn't do. besides me and my boyfriend enjoy partying with our friends, spending our money for leisure. but once we get married money goes to the house, our food, and our children's future. when that time comes....we are definitely ready. :)
@russelcrowe (279)
• China
30 Jul 07
Maybe u love each other very much.
But do u think u have done enough things to get married.
How did u get ur house? If u are ready to share all habits in ur own lives? How will u deal if u have some conflict in the daily life?
To be get married , i think we should get all things possibly ready.
@xiongyijun (171)
• China
30 Jul 07
maybe house is a big problem. i don't know how two lovers get along with each other in your hometown, but we have beening together for almost five years. unlike most others, we were in the same class and sat at the same desk before college and in the same college now.we are together almost every hour. we know each other quiet well ,including good habits and bad habits. more than four years have brought our different lives together and remolded a new one way of living. also we have conflicts in our daily life now and then, but we managed settle them.but i am not sure will there be other problems or conflicts if we get married.^^
@luohuan1987 (85)
• China
2 Aug 07
Each one has their own choice.I think it is a wise decision by the government that make college students getting married legal.
@lucejjj (1)
• China
3 Aug 07
of course i cannot do this. but in fact i'd like.sometimes, your career, your social classfication, and every condiyions are the founction of our marriage, especially our sweet love .
@zhuxiang (30)
• China
18 Nov 07
And that depends on a lot of conditions you should be clear.If you consider that is worth doing so or your love between each other is deep enough,then congratulations! However, one word of warning: you two must be aware of the concequence that you may regret some years later or faster for not twice thinking.Another thing, you should still focus on your study since you are a student.Anyway,it's your choice,whatever,good luck!
@yangluhua (1)
• China
7 Aug 07
I won't get married.Fist of all,I haven't met a boy I'd like to be with all my rest time.Besides I don't think I have the ability to manage it.In my opinion,marrige means not only love,but also responsibility.As a college student,the future is uncertain to me,how can I make it sure that I can supply the family,both finacional and emotional?So as far as I'm concernd,getting married does'nt seem to be a good choice.
