Everyone always says "if I'd have only known", AFTER THE FACT!
By chunkers
@chunkers (1050)
United States
July 29, 2007 12:22am CST
When someone reaches out for help, regardless of the help they need, and are told "gee, I wish I could do something for you. Catch me next week", then they find out that the person in need has expired, this is always the response. Why are people so ignorant and unable to see that the person needing help is serious...until it's too late? If you are ever approached by someone in serious need, and it is within your power to assist them....you should help them unless you want to spend the rest of your life telling yourself "If I'd have only known."
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@GardenGerty (160663)
• United States
29 Jul 07
You are right about that, and often we do not want to be inconvenienced, so we do not help, or listen. This is sounding almost personal to you. I hope not. I hope you have been helped when you have needed it, and have helped others as well. We get very self centered until it is too late.
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@chunkers (1050)
• United States
30 Jul 07
It is personal. I have been financing our customers with our company profits in situations where they couldn't have obtained a loan otherwise. All of them have been paying, but the money isn't coming in quick enough. We have nearly $100k of our profits tied up in these investments, with only $2500/month coming back in. I've asked family and friends for a short loan until my wife becomes eligible for Federal Grant money in February. They all tell me "Sorry, we just don't have that kind of money lying around." Well, this is definitely not so. And I'm running out of time and hope to save our business...and worse. I'm just wondering what they will say if and when the worst actually happens. I've asked for help from everyone I know. Some of my 'friends' point to the stock market and say, "Sorry". Anyway, hindsight is 20-20. I wish they would use foresight.
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@mansha (6298)
• India
30 Jul 07
Thankfully, I never had to refuse anyone for help.I have an uncle who has soem financial problems always and I have made it a point to gift him warmest sweaters I can find on his Birthdays and anything that I feel would help him out. He wanted to buy a one room flat but was short of money so I made my brother lend him the money and we had told him he can take as lon as he wants to to return the amount as he would not have accepted the amount from us if we had just gifted it to him. We never asked him to return the amount since but recently he did pay back the sum to my brother. We have kept aside some money in case he needs it for hi kids in future.
I have lost my parents and I know what it is to loose your loved ones and I make it a point to help people out if I know they are genuine.
@pendragon (3349)
• United States
29 Jul 07
I always imagine every instant to be a last and act accordingly.The guilt is unpardonable otherwise.
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@Willowlady (10658)
• United States
29 Jul 07
You make such a good point. How many missed opportunities pile up as you selfishly live out your life. Help can be something as simple as a smile, advice, or money and not a large amount, a ride, donation of clothing or just time. It could be a letter, postcard or ecard. Depends on the situation. There are more examples however I hope to have contributed to this conversation.
Please take a moment to think about the other person. You would like help in time of need probably.
Good discussion Chunkers!!
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
29 Jul 07
I agree if it is in my power to assist them, I don't hesitate to help out as much as I can. Sometimes it is too late and there is no going back, but that is all part of life, and there will be at times where I am unable to help.
@bhappy2 (327)
• Australia
30 Jul 07
I could't agree more. The problem is everyone is living such fast paced lives and so involved with their own problems they become self centred and can't see the suffering of others around them.
Sometimes all it takes is a kind word and to ask "Can I help" that lets a person know someone cares. All too often in our hectic world we think that nobody does care and just to find one person that does is uplifting.
I used to walk past people and resist the urge to help but not anymore. If I see someone in need I help them if I can and I hope if I'm ever in need someone will stop for me.
I believe in karma, or, what goes around comes around, don't you?
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@Lydia1901 (16351)
• United States
5 Aug 07
Yeah, that is sad but people are just mean that way. You just got to move on because there is no need to linger over anything like that. Alot of people out there are full of that.
@kbkbooks (7022)
• Canada
29 Jul 07
It will probably be posted here a dozen times or more, but hind site is 20. It's like when you say you're going to make time to visit with someone and then you find out they are in the hospital dying of cancer. That has happened to me. It's not only these things that come too late. Sometimes a child asks for our help or our time and we brush them off, then they go out and fall down a scrape their knee or worse. If only we had been there to play with them. Unfortunately life is like this. We just have to learn to take chances to do things when they come.
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@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
29 Jul 07
I think it's because they people we ask to help us often don't realize that the situation is as serious as we say it is. Then they kick themselves later when something happens.
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