"Anyone here who fall and had relationship with a married guy?"

I think the whole thing is silly. I mean, first off, why even talk with a married man? That is a little tacky in my opinion, but I wont judge. And as for him being an Internet fling or whatever you call it, well that is even more silly. You don't know him, but yet you are falling for him? I would probably just cut the ties with the Internet guy and maybe work on your relationship with your boyfriend a little more and see what happens down that road. I think you are wasting your time with this married man.

HAve you met this guy yet. Either way the reason you can confide in him is because you are distant, it has no comeback. but do u really wanna get involved with someone who would leave his wife for someone he doesn't really know ( you can be anything you want on the internet). If you did start a proper relationship with this guy could you be sure he was not chatting up some other internet girl. I think you are lonely so this 'relationship' is being used as a substitute for what you need which seems to be some attention from your current boyfriend. You have also probably built up a fantasy of this internet guy so are seeing him as you would like him to be but the reality would be completely different. I suggest you try and regain the closeness with your current partner and even if that doesn't work have some fun being single and find a nice guy who is genuine.

From experience here, think things through clearly before doing anything you might regret. Communicate with your boyfriend. I highly recommend that. It can make a world of a difference. Let him know what is bothering you. Consider the time you have invested in the relationship and whether or not it is going to go anywhere. Also, think about the implications this could have not only on yourself and your boyfriend, but others who care about you. I have been going through something similar so I understand.

If no regret meant you want good things to happen , its the gods blesses by you to the person you are engaged. Loving is a separate thing and marriage is a heaven mind it. My wishes.

Let me get this straight...this guy is married right now, but yet he's offering to get divorced and marry you? Have you ever met, other than online? I dunno anjoks, this whole situation smells like trouble to me. WHy don't you put the energy into your relationship with your boyfriend, even if he is far away, instead of messing around with some guy you don't even truly know on the internet? I'm not trying to be mean, I'm just saying, this guy could be anything he wants to online, and it may not necessarily be so in "real life". For all you know I could be some 6'5, 350 lb. ex convict, and not a "soccermom" like my screen name portrays. Get what I'm saying? And another point...this guy is married! What makes you think that he would marry you and things would be "different". Sounds to me like he has some sort of problem and would do the same thing to you that he is doing to his current life. My advice...focus your energy and attention on things that are worth it, not some guy who is essentially "cheating" via the internet.

A relaionship with a married guy is an absolute no as far as i am concerned. I am not a home breaker. I do not like to be the reason of anyones tears. What is the guarantee that ur married boyfriend would not leave you for another girl afterall he is willing to leave his wife for you,is'nt he? My sincere advice to you is to forget the guy because you are worth more. Most of the guys in Internet are fakes and no what they project themselves to be.

Keep him as a cyber soulmate. We all need them to bounce ideas off, have a rant, be there when we are lonely, etc. That is what is so really great about myLot and the internet in general. But don't mix it up with reality. Your boyfriend is reality. You know him by now and know his good and bad points - he is real. Life is a lot easier if you marry someone without 'excess baggage' from previous associations. You have to work hard at a marriage as it is without inheriting problems.

Hi anjoks. well since you have mentioned that this guy has been divorced for 5 years now, i guess that issue is out of the question now. However, there are still a lot of questions that you have to figure out first. First,you have to make sure that what you're feeling for this guy is really love or anywhere close to it. Maybe you just misinterpreted your feelings to love because he's always there for you and he's the one you get to spend more time with instead of your bf. And, it also came from you that you really love your bf. Maybe if you try to work things out with your bf and ask him to give you more quality time, then im sure these feelings you're feeling right now with the other guy will soon fade. Marriage is a really big jump in a relationship and even if you dont have a bf, it's not really advisable to enter into a marriage just by knowing someone thru the internet or just seeing him through a webcam. I would definitely encourage you to get that idea from your mind, at least for the meantime.

I truly understand you.You have all the rights to feel the way you feel now.Sometimes,there are things happened in our life that confused us.It is because we know,it is wrong and you're hurting someones feeling.We have all the choices in front of us.But the question is,can you stand and face any consequences that it will bring to you at the end?Try to put yourself to the wife of that man you love who is married.And also the feeling of your boyfriend which love you and think that you are inlove with him?Can you take the tears and heartaches you may cause for them?You need to take things one by one.And think what is the best and right things to do.But if you can handle everything,no matter what it takes for you because you are really inlove and it will make you happy,THEN GO ON!!!Just be sure,you will never regret at the end...Okay???

Hi, I really don't think you should go after the married guy. Seeing that he's still married who knows if he's planning on getting a divorce or anything like that from his wife. He could be just playing around with your heart...I think the reason that you feel you might be soulmates with this new guy is because your boyfriend doesn't give you quality time as you said. But maybe you should try talking to your boyfriend and see if the spark is still there...if it isn't, then maybe you are finding this other guy so interesting and "a soulmate" because it's all new. Plus, have you guys met in person? I met my boyfriend online and we've been together for 2 years. I just find it a little strange that he's offering marriage when he's still legally married and you haven't met...I would take time maybe to yourself, away from both guys and figure out what YOU want.

What Littlemissh says. I'd only add the question of why would you want to inherit someone else's troubles? If he's coming from a troubled marriage, why would you want to inherit that problem and make it your own? If you can't see the HUGE red flags telling you to stop, yourself, then please see the ones we two responders are pointing out. Don't go there, ok?

There is lots of hesitations in your post which to my opinion you gave the answer to yourself. Stay with your boyfriend that you love so much and try to talk with him explain that you need him to be there for you. Don't throw your present love for some virtual married guy. He is not serious. Hope that helps.

i never had a relationship with a married guy but i once fall... he even tell me that he is willing to leave his wife just for me... well maybe because his wife is nagger! she always embarrass her husband infront of many people and she even get jealous of me... since were band mates.. he used to drive me home till i fall for him... but the only thing i think too much is that he is married and soon to be a father... the point is, if i let him leave his wife just for the reason that we love each other, what will happen to the baby? he will grow up without a dad on his side. and what about the feelings of my family and friends? for sure they will get hurt... in loving, you shouldnt think of your own feelings instead try to think of others that will surely get hurt if you do that things...like your boyfriend.. you will get hurt for sure but atleast u didnt destroy one family..

i never had a relationship with a married guy but i once fall... he even tell me that he is willing to leave his wife just for me... well maybe because his wife is nagger! she always embarrass her husband infront of many people and she even get jealous of me... since were band mates.. he used to drive me home till i fall for him... but the only thing i think too much is that he is married and soon to be a father... the point is, if i let him leave his wife just for the reason that we love each other, what will happen to the baby? he will grow up without a dad on his side. and what about the feelings of my family and friends? for sure they will get hurt... in loving, you shouldnt think of your own feelings instead try to think of others that will surely get hurt if you do that things...like your boyfriend.. you will get hurt for sure but atleast u didnt destroy one family..

Girl please take my advise... dont go that far... its not worth it believe me... there are a lot of fish in the oceans.. probably you are just overwhelm of the feelings it driving you but thats fake it wont last for long.. Please girl pray a lot and seek for guidance in GOD... turn to God in times like this.... God Bless you girl..

Girl, what can i say...follow your heart. BUT you should first put things in order, weight your feelings if it goes for your bf or your internet mate. don't you ever jump in a relationship without closing the book with your bf or you might accused of double crossing. and before committing to another, nothing will lose if you make some background check to that internet guy. I'ts hard to trust people nowadays especially to that one and if he broke your heart, your friends and family will get affected too. Just be careful.

It's wrong. Don't give into this guy. He is already married, and he is decieving a woman he promised himself too. You can't trust a man like that, it isn't right. He is a snake in the grass! He is married to someone, and is promising to marry you! That is so wrong. You have a boyfriend! You love him! Stick with him! If you don't like being away from him, go to him, if you can. Your boyfriend hasn't done anything to hurt or trick you right? Stay with him, don't hurt him. The man you are falling for is tricking his wife and may ultimatly hurt her AND you. You should end whatever you have with him now. I Know how it feels to really fall hard for someone, and always have your heart hurt. This guy is not your soulmate. You have to believe that. He is just conning you, like he has his wife.

Id stick to the real thing instead of a dream men on the ointernet tell you alot of things to see if they can its an ego thing

First I won't judge you because we cannot really tell what is the next thing that would happen. But I just wanna ask you how could he offer marriage when you've said he is married? The thing that you met him in the internet doesn't give assurance that he is honest and true to his words. You can confide to him easilly the fact that its easier said to a stranger and one that far from you. But still be caution because you cannot really tell who are true in the net not unless you know him personally. With regards tp your boyfriend you've said you still love him and I think you do but this chatmate of yours tickle your heart a bit but I reckon it would not be for long. You just fond of him because you always chat with him. But in this virtual world where a lot of pretensions its hard to fall yourself into their bait. Remember the old moms saying " Don't talk to strangers"? it means don't trust to strangers because you don't know where it leads to. Anjoks, what can I say is way things well and find in your heart where your boyfriend belongs. And from there start making decision and don't let flowery words decieve you. I'm not judgung your chatmate but weigh things over and ask for our Creators guidance I'm sure He will be a great help.

It is terrible,isn't it? But please remember,be a brave girl anytime! Don't escape no matter facing how bad situation.