My 19 year old friend is in love with me...

Ok, my mom is 35 and her fiance is 58 and my dad is 35 and his girlfriend is 62. This seemed odd to me at first but now it's just normal. If you have feelings for him, think about the pros and cons and see where it goes...if you don't have feelings for him, tell him that - straight up. Tell him you like him as a friend and nothing more but as a good friend, one you don't want to lose over it.

Well, It can be true...but you should not go for the same..As he is not matured now as he is so young...So after getting maturity he may change his attitude towards you... So first try to understand why he loves you...?? And more over it is not suit to anybody...So understand him ..i.e. If he loves you so in what manner i.e. as a sister or guider or as a friend as he is so young... So check his attitude and finally do bye or give warm bye.

Hey, am i familiar to you that girl falling to a married man over the internet? haha ... but u know what, you have to follow your noses when it comes to what will make you happy. Other than friendship, do you see yourself with him to possibly have a relationship and feelings more than as a friend? .. Age doesnt matter really. I know u are worried cause its u who is older than him. . Do some soulsearching like what i've been doing now my friend. Hope we'll find the real happiness we've been looking for. Take care and goodluck to us. (",)

Dear, you have asked a tricky question. As you have asked, I am giving you my personal opinion, based on my experiences in life…you may not like it, but being your well-wisher and friend…I will answer your query from the practical point of view. As I said that you will have to look at the issue in practical terms. In this case you being the more experienced person and more mature from him…will have to think twice before going ahead. It appears that you wish to feel younger by befriending him and proceeding with the relationship. I think as a friend…you can continue with him…. but if you go deep into the relationship…..I think it may not last long due to some many reasons (if you would like to know the precise reasons, I will tell you those also, but I think some of them, you can understand yourself very well) I feel that at 19 years of age a male is quite young, he cannot think of or say imagine long term consequences of this kind of relationship. I mean he is not so mature so as to understand the intricacies of falling in love with a female, twice her age. Moreover, even if you accept the relationship and starting moving out at public places…..I think…you might feel awkward and odd going with him…..if someone known meets you on the way and asks you…what is your relationship….will you be able to say…yes, he is my lover. ? I think, the age difference is very much and it will surely effect your relationship. All in all, I would not recommend that you should go ahead with the relationship with that boy …because ‘deep love’ might lead to either ‘live-in relationship’ or ‘marriage.’ And mind you fulfilling a long term commitment for life between a couple having so much of age difference is an uphill task. All said and done….if you feel that you are bold enough and despite all odds wish to move ahead…then you may…. And be ready to face the consequences, which might come in your way during your long term relationship. Best of Luck to you!

Hi Anamika, Iam not surprised with all this. If it is true than i think this not a matured love from his side,It just miss understanding a honest friend. I think it is u r sweet support and responses that makes him feel and falling in this situation. This is not u r fault, U r response to friends and u r friendly attitude is being miss understood by him. Iam sure like u he also did not want to loose u r friendship, what i feel is that U should not delay on this topic or else he will agin misunderstand u, so with out wasting time tell him frankly and also tell him his importance as a freind, Pls do not encourage him and deal with friendly love and soft hand.so far as i know u, u can handle this matter nicely, pls be straight forward.

Well I have a question for you. Do you uncomfortable with the thought of having him as an intimate boyfriend? Depending on your answer I think you will know waht to do. Personnally for me, he would be too young but I dont know the choice is yours. In spite of what others say please think long and hard about this then decide ok? The ball is in your court. Either way what do you have to lose?

Be honest, open, and listen. What else can you do. He is still not an adult. You have more wisdom and experience. Just talk about it and see what happens.

Well your issue is related with very deep concern about friendship! I know that men women friendship has also one kind of atraction as told by so many people, but at the same time the possibilities of expanding friendship beyond the men-women aspect would be there and it is really a phenominal thing! But here the person oposite you has just completed teenage! So how you can explain to him about such concept! You just can try to explain him about the concept of friendship and go ahead with that as genuine as before! Just be there as friends for each other! I have hope that if he has real sense of understanding then he will get the real thing and then you will not going to loose the friend within him! Just tackle it with a friendship approach and be human as a person! I hope there is a chance by such communication...

Gently tell him how flattered you are, that you love him also but as a very close friend. Tell him you don't want anything to hurt that friendship as you treasure it greatly. Say you're afraid that trying for anything closer would destroy what you both have now, and you want to avoid that. You may loose this guy anyway, unfortunately. It'll be hard for him to stand by, having declared himself, and watch you move on with your life. His frustration will only get worse with time. Do you have a younger sister, a niece, someone close to you and closer to his age that you could fix him up with? That could bring him into the family and keep him close, while getting him involved weith someone in the right age group. Good luck!! This is a tough one, for sure!

Maybe you can just be "no comment" for now. That way you're not encouraging him, nor are you discouraging him. With time if you're absolutely sure you don't love him, tell him. You have to face the possibility that you might lose him as a friend.

then what you have decided i think try to explain him and one more thing r u married if not then try to handle this case properly and show him another girl who is like you so he can love her but the grls should be of her age and mainly try to explain him that hes doing that is not correct

Be honest with him and tell him that although you love him, it is only as a friend. Also tell him that you don't want to lose his friendship and that, as a friend, you will always be there for him. There's no way around him being hurt over it, but at least you can feel good about your honesty. In time, he'll get over it and hopefully your friendship will remain after the hurt is gone.

He's 19, considered an adult so it won't be cradle snatching at all. And it's legal! If it's just crush, it'll pass. If you confront it right now, you'll probably ruin the friendship. Don't avoid him, just be normal. If he asks how you feel about him, tell him the truth. If you don't like him romantically, then just lay low and maybe his feelings for you will diminish. If you like him, go for it. Fall in love everyday, it's one of the few free things in this world.

you should be proud of yourself....seems that you are the beauty queen for him. Just say 'YES' and open up your sky....and he must in place that age doesn't matter to him with no reasons. Because love is blind but will never make both of you 'blind'. Come on my dera lovelydame3000, it is 'once in a blue moon' and not 'an egg on the bull's horn'. As 'eye to eye' has been reached deeply into both of you, why not ?...just proceed because we are all humans. I know for what you are thinking about and take into great concern, 'parental consent'? in days to come......make you love speaks the results to both families.

Wow, you must be special to be given such kind of admiration and love of this young guy. Girl, go for it! There is nothing to be ashamed of this. I am telling you give this guy a good chance to prove that he is worthy of your trust and time, ok? Love certainly knows no boundaries. In love, age is not that very important for as long as you can be sure it is really true love. You know, it is nice to be loved by younger fellows. I have a young boyfriend before and it was amazing. Of course, tell the guys never to be immature and to at least try to think like a grown up man. I am so sure that you will have an exciting kind of relationship. Just give this guy a good chance to prove everything. Well, a good love starts in good friendship, that you must remember. And by the way, I am happy for both of you. May this will end up with you walking the aisle of love and having many beautiful and healthy kids. Congratulations! Best wishes!

First of all congrats that you should have been really sexy to have a 19 year old running behind you!!. Turning the matters seriously,follow your heart is what i can say.Don't do one when your heart says the other...if u know u can mingle well with him let him know and proceed!. If you think you cannot tell the same to him without changing words and continue that you can still be a good freind to him!.As simple as that....no thinking!!. All the best!

i don't see what your confusion about... after all you yourself said that you see him as a friend and nothing more.... you got to tell him that... its common at his age to fall for people elder than he is... but its not natural that all these people have to reciprocate his feelings.... as u said, you are double his age... almost old enough to be his mom... so tell him how you feel and don't be too harsh on him.

maybe you can help him find a good girlfriend,but do not let him know your plan. once he has someone in mind , maybe he will step back from you but still be your good friend.

I dont think i con help you ,forgive me , What about have i tour !! Maybe you will free good !! have a good day!!

Well,you looks pretty and nice to meet you here I'm a on-campus student living in China In our country,your situation means happiness And also I know,for you now,you have to alternatively make a decision and it seems not that easy Nevertheless,may you happiness!!