what if you found out you were adopted?

Since I was raised in an abusive home, I think I'd be angry to discover I was adopted. However, I was not. My oldest son is adopted and we have never made it a secret. We always told him we chose him and referred to it as not being "homemade". As a toddler, we read the book, Why Was I Adopted, by Carole Livingston to him. Now, as an adult, he has no desire to meet his birth parents. Maybe because we always answered his questions truthfully....maybe because we told him he was adopted from the time he was tiny, maybe because he is happy with the life and parents he has had. He has told us that he is glad his birth mother chose life and not abortion...that he is happy.

It wouldn't bother me. What actually matters is how well we've been together and have been able to face challenges. Your friend is your friend.If there is a clause in friendship, then we need to give it another name

My husband is adopted and it has always bothered him in some small part of his mind, I think. I considers the family that raised him to be his real family, and I think he's much rather belong to them biolobically as well.

It wouldn’t bother me in the slightest, I’ve always held the view point from a child although I’m not adopted. My parents have put so much time and attention into raising me to be the best person possible, why would I forsake all that in favour of somebody who gave me up?

Thank my adoptive parents and don't hurt them by seeking your birth parents until you are an adult.

It wouldnt change anything .I would go on with life as usual.

Of course, that's a big thing. I would probably find my biological parents. I think that's a normal thing to do. But of course I will still have the same love to my adopted parents.

I don't think it would bother me to find out I was adopted. The parents who raised me are the ones to whom I feel I owe my loyalty and not to someone who I have never known. I might be curious to find out the details, but that would be as far as I'd go with it. My parents (the ones who raised me) are the ones who loved and provided for me and that's what's important.

If I was adopted it would explain everything! I'm so much different than my family! They are nuts and I'm just nutty! No, seriously, it would devaste me to find this out at such a late date but my family loves me and they were the ones that raised me so I would be okay. I'm not sure at this point in my life if I would care to find my biological parents or not though.

I would probably be shocked and maybe a little mad for holding that back for so long. However, if I was brought up well I think in the end I would not care.