Please help me become a SAHM........Tips please

I feel your pain. I made a choice with my then partner that I would stay at home with all my children until they started school full time. And luckily he was earning a good wage so i was able to do this, but then, we split up in the mean time, so times were very tough. But I stuck with the stigma of being a welfare mum because I felt I had this oath I swore to my kids, Luckily for me I got a great job when my youngest started school full time. I would suggest to you, that the wages you both earn are crap!.. but then I live in Australia so I don't know the comparision with wages and living expences between the USA and Australia. I know I would not work for 10 an hrs here! I get almost 20 $ an hour to do a desk job here.. so maybe we have it better than we think in Australia. It seems that way! I think from what you have said.. you have some expences that are just for your husbands wants..not needs.. the cable and the motorcycle... I wonder how much less you monthly expensies would be without them. What I would suggest to you is this, find out the types of jobs readily available in your area. You know how to use a PC, as you are using it now, it HAS to pay more than the job at Walmart. Get some help in updating your resume. You might not be able to stay at home full time, but you may well be able to get another job for a better hourly rate so you can spend less hours at work and more with your kids at home. Your Husband is obviously not going to give up his job to look for a better one. I think the trick is to take some power back in yourself. I'm not meaning to suggest conflict between you and your husband. Though it might seem like it. What I'm saying is, sometimes it takes a twist of fate to turn things around. Imagine this.......... your husband is just going along with things because at the end of the day..he has what he wants...doesnt he???? BUT..what if you are earning more than him...and therefore working less hours because you want the time with your children.....Most men don't take kindly to their woman earning more than them....where ever you are...! SO my only suggestion to you is look fro a newjob that you can eanr more money with and therefore work less hours.....It might give your hubby the balls to out do you...then.. you win.. it's just a thought:) Best of luck!!!!!!!!!

It can be done. My hubby was not making that much when I became a SAHM. Luckily he is making more now. You need to consider different things. If only one of you is working maybe you could go down to one car and let him use the bike. If you drop one car you will save on gas and insurance. Shop around for the best prices for internet service and phone etc. Become diligent about eating at home. Use coupons all the time. There are many ways. You know they did a study and found that most families actually spend less money when one parent stops working and stays home. (less work clothes needed, less gas etc, etc) I do crafts for a bit of extra money (although this spring and summer I have slacked but will pick back up in September). I wish I could offer more. You should be able to find a way. Our rent alone is $1000 a month!

I am feeling sad about you. Let me tell yopu that if one person is earning well, the other person can sit at home and take care of kids. If the family is finding hard to meet the expenses, it is better that both may work. Earning on internet can help, but that is way far less that what we earn outside. I heard of a SAHM yesterday, who is making money selling chocolates. Other ways to earn money: Try out: http://www.blogchex.com/onlinemoneymaker/?view_comments=4103

Jolene- I think most of us moms think of that at times - I know I would love to stay home and work from home- How about medical billing- You can take those courses- get a certificate and then work from home doing that- Not sure how much it pays but I would think around $10 an hour- Something to look into. You already have the computer- Right now it doens't seem feasible that you can quit your job without having a back up plan- Your checks go towards alot of the bills- but I know it isn't fun working just to pay the bills and not saving too!

Have you tried writing for Associated Content? I do that and also for Helium. It's not a fortune, but I make about $100 a month extra in addition to my other job. It could help you get caught up and even a bit ahead, depending on where you are right now. There is also Constant Content for writing. And, actually, several other places. If you like to write, that is. If you are interested, please let me know. I can give you references to both Associated and Helium. It won't really help you any, other than get you signed up, but it will get me some extra cash. :D

babysitting brings in some very good money and would also give your kids some playmates. Is that a possibility?

Well Sweetie I really do not know what to suggest apart from your Hubby finding a better paid Job, looking into cheaper Car Insurance and getting rid of his Motorcycle lol I was forced to work to I used to work Part time when the Kids where little and I was lucky to get hours that where in their Play school and School time then when they where older I had to work Full time as my Ex Husband had a very high Social Life I hope that someone can help you out with this one

try doing surveys on the internet or market research as others have done...although i am not register on those since our country is not available for those but i guess you could try...how much saving will you get if you stay at home ?? before doing so.. try weight things out first..and compare dont do dratic things..

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Hi! I am a stay-at-home mom and I have the same financial obligations as you do. My rent is more expensive than what you pay for your house. I live near New York City which explains why. Anyway, I am able to pay most of my bills through blogging, but it took a couple of months before I was able to make good money off of it. While I was working on it, I joined some sites that pay by completing offers and surveys, such as Cash Crate and Cash Lagoon to make some easy cash. They really don't require any skills and can be done while my active 18-month old son is climbing all over me. The key is to find what you're comfortable doing and set a goal. Then determine if it is working for you or not. If you have any questions or comments, feel free to send me a message. Here's my link: http://gabesmomsprivateworld.blogspot.com

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I just recently was approved for a job working from home. I haven't started yet because I have to get certified first. It only cost me 30.00 for a background check. What you will be doing is just answering the phone from home and taking peoples orders. They say it starts off slow but once you prove yourself they will give you more work. You pick the times you are available. I saw somewhere where you can make up to 20.00 and hour if your really good at it. You can check it out at www.liveops.com They also have very few if any complaints with the better business bureau.

hmmm i suggest that you spend a day off from walmart and spend the day with your children and start doing this regularly. from what i have studied, children that grow up without their parents around would tent to act diffrent from normal kids. They would tent to not respect their parents and maybe even bully kids around, look for the love that they have lost from their parents from other people like their girlfriends or boyfriends and then most of them end up having an early marriage. And i think that it is very important that you have them and allow them to enjoy your company while they are young. you know ma'am when they grow up you cant hug them anymore, no more kisses, and no more bedtime stories as well. And you'll be spending more time in missing them when they grow up rather than playing with them while they're young. So i suggest that you spend the weekends with them. Take a walk in the beach, tell them bedtime stories, eat in their favorite fast food chain and all that stuff. It'll be fun, and you will have a bond that would last for a lifetime and a memory that they wont forget. =)

Hi Jolene, I don't have an easy way for you to make money that shoots out of your computer. But I do have a business opportunity if you want to be your own boss and know that it is legit. Me and you are about the same age with two kids and I am in the same boat you are and stay home with my little ones. I found a chance to build my own internet business and it works I get a check every month to help with bills and rent (mine is 925 a month) so you know I need the extra cash. They also offer a medical savings plan and opportunity to buy a new car and they will pay $400 car payments for you. I know because I am doing it. If you are interested in more information you can contact me. Stephanie s_tess4@sbcglobal.net or you can visit my website through my profile. Good luck sweety.