Desperatly disappointed

I am so very sorry! What you just went through is actually called a "missed abortion" just so you know. I have been through exactly this only I was a little further along. First, let me tell you.. you will NEVER get over this! It will get easier with time, I promise! Please let me know if you want to talk more about this.. I felt totally alone and isolated when I went through this and would have killed for someone to talk to who had been through the same thing. Any miscarriage is awful but honestly I didn't feel as much of a connection to others because there are other things that you have to face with what you and I went through.. decisions that have to be made and such. I know some people might think this is rude or uncaring but it's really not, it's just how I felt at the time. I have since had a normal early miscarriage and it did NOT effect me to any degree near what the "missed abortion" did. Please let me know if there is anything I can do. I am so very sorry! Try to hang in there!

miscarriage is always difficult to deal with. the best advice i can give you is to surround yourself with supportive family members and friends. i had a miscarriage about 3 yrs ago and my parents were like "get over it... it wasn't even a baby yet"... so unsupportive and incompassionate. but do not take antidepressants to deal with this.. they are just a simple solution to a big problem...

Hey this sad, condolence and I hope your okay. I kind of remember some friend of mine that is now experiencing bleeding, she’s 1 month pregnant I guess and we hope the baby is still okay inside. Anyway, good thing nothing happened to you while you’re carrying the baby.

owww... that is so hurting,,,im sorry for your lost,,,be strong im sure there must be a reason.

I am so sorry to hear this, will keep you in my thoughts and prayers

I might be late to the party but I want to respond. Peanut I agree with some of the other posters, you have to take care of yourself first. Please don't push yourself. You've got to recover from this, some of it might or might not be physical, but there's definitely the mental and emotional. Take a breather, step back. Think of what your other child would have wanted. I bet he/she is smiling on you, I'm also sure you can feel that child in some capacity. Live a little more for that child and focus on your daughter more as well. I hope your desire of another child comes to fruition. But take it slowly and be sure to take very good care of the two of you when you are blessed with child once again. We're here to help if you need it, too. I can't think of anything else to say Peanut. I hope I didn't sound like a clown with my post. I really want you to be safe and happy. You'll get what you desire not just because you are a good person and mother, but also because everyone around you is supporting you. You've got thoughts and prayers focused on you and your family. I'm sure it'll work out.

take care of yourself...a miscarriage is very hard on you physically, it took me about 6 months before i got over it (of course, i had an active todler at home though) but do get a lot of rest. the good news is that you can get pregnant again...i had my miscarriage in january and got pregnant in july with our second daughter (she is 10 now)

Miscarriages are just normal to mothers who have a low ovaries. If you will be overdoing and thinking so much during early pregnancy the tendency is to have a miscarriage. My daughter had 2 miscarriages because she was problematic and at the same doing all the household chores in their home. I advised her to take a rest for a while from all the chores at home and give her a book entitled, "Tough Times". I think it helps her and after 3 months of her last miscarriage she is again pregnant. She is due to deliver this coming September 2007.

I dont have any advice but I am very sorry for your loss.

My sister had 6 miscarriages -- one was far along enough that she had to have a DNC done. I don't know what to tell you. Never been pregnant, so I don't know what it's like. Never will be pregnant either, so by that I've never lost a pregnancy. "Sorry" just doesn't seem to cut it. It makes it sound like I'm telling you that your lost pregnancy can be replaced like a pair of lost tennis shoes. I don't know how my sister got over it, but she did. She had 4 miscarraiges before her first daughter was born and 2 before her 2nd daughter was born. I personally am not strong enough to carry a pregnancy -- I put myself first and when you're a mother, you can't do that, so I opted not to have kids, ever. Plus my cats would never accept anything that took precidence over them. =)