will you get married only because of his/her wealth and social rank ?
By xiongyijun
@xiongyijun (171)
China
August 2, 2007 9:31am CST
around me , there are couples got married because of wealth and social rank. it seems that they are married to wealth and social rank, but not the person called "husband"or "wife".while there are lovers who break up also only because of the two factors.
what is marriage? what is marriage for ? and what do you think is the most important thing in a marriage?
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6 responses
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
2 Aug 07
I really can't imagine getting married for any other reason than a deep love for my partner. I think both people have to be very committed to the relationship and keeping it strong and truthful. All too often one partner is not as committed as the other and this i think leads to the breakdown of the relationship.
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@xiongyijun (171)
• China
2 Aug 07
yeah, commitment is way too important that if couples want to keep their marriage alive.^^
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@huilee (1005)
• Singapore
3 Aug 07
nope, definately not for me... marrying for money... no.. i guess i will only do it for love.. i mean... everyone and anyone can be wealthy... its only a matter of time, be it sooner or later...
but.. without love... life would be miserable.. seeing the person's wealth makes me happy but nt the person? then wats the point?
i guess its pointless... so to me... loving the person equals to the marriage is better...
=)
@xiongyijun (171)
• China
3 Aug 07
it's ture. no one can know when one man become rich or poor. maybe today's poor man will become super rich tomorrow, only if he has abilities. and who can know that a millinare can be a beggar one day?
@limcyjain (3516)
• India
2 Aug 07
Well when a person gets married one has to consider a lot of issues. They include the person you are marring, his education level, his family, his income, his attitude towards life and much more. But one's priorities are different. For some money and social status may be more important so they are going for it. Its simply a question of what you need the most.
@magikrose (5429)
• United States
2 Aug 07
The only reason I would marry to money is if I truly loved the person and they loved me back. Marriage without love is not a marriage at all it is a business proposition or agreement. I married for love and my husband is not a rich man far from it. Yet he allows me to be a stay home mom.
@totallyundecided (3190)
• Philippines
3 Aug 07
i knew someone who married this guy who's really rich. good thing is the guy is head over heels in love with her. i thought that i guess women these days are up for the practical reasons: financial support, security just to insure themselves that they are well taken off in the next years of their lives.
miraculously, she started to fall for the guy and now, they're more than just a happy married couple.
if i were in her case before she got feelings for the guy, i will not submit myself to such (like marry someone because he's rich and etc) because i could never pretend and i will never ever enter a situation where it will only make me miserable.
good discussion xiongyijun.
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
2 Aug 07
For me, the importance if marriage is being able to live with your best friend. If the person you marry is not your best friend, then that marriage is in trouble, and all social rank and money in the world cannot make things right.
It is much more important to marry someone who will be honest and faithful and stick up for you and like you for who you really are than to have a "trophy" husband or wife.
@xiongyijun (171)
• China
3 Aug 07
that's right. there is a saying that "you can't buy anything with money". only love has the possibility to change for others'love.^^