pls help say to my boyfriend im really sorry, it'll be a BIG help for me..
By aikastacruz
@aikastacruz (187)
Philippines
August 3, 2007 5:11am CST
we had just a fight.. and it terribly went really bad.. to sum it all up we kinda misunderstood each other.. to start the story,
its 3days sale at all Sm malls right, he wanted to buy me a blazer.. something that i could use in school whenever we're required to wear corporate attires.. so after watching movie we looked for one.. minutes after, both of us agreed to this sort of pink blazer.. its size is XS and fits just so so okay but i was thinking what if my top was a lil thick it'd be better if i ask for a S size.. i noticed there was no S size on the rack, so i asked for one.. but too bad the saleslady said all sizes are already displayed.. after awhile we decided to buy the XS instead, its really costly and we knew its sale so we asked the saleslady if this blazer has a discount, she said its 50% off but the saleslady who's putting the 50%off tags is out for lunch.. again too bad.. so another few minutes for lo0king for another blazer that's nice to fit and nice color.. but i really like the blazer with sorts of pink in it.. so i asked my bf to go back where the pink blazer is, thinking the lady who's putting the 50%off tags is already there,. still the lady isnt there.. seeing my bf from afar, he seems already mad at me for deciding too long.. he said nevermind the price but just pay for it.. but im thinking of the 50%off discount, and without it it'll really cost him something.. thats where iv decided not to buy any..
then after, he didnt talked to me.. till now.. he want a breakup.. he explained that, he felt i was so immature, because there are so many other blazers there that i could pick but i chose not to buy any because of the pink blazer.. i told myself i wouldnt talked to him unless he'd talk to me..
we partways without talking with each other.. ofcourse, i was angry and hurt because i dont know whats the real deal of the matter.... im texting him but still he's not talking to me till he got home.. so i felt really hurt and iv told him harsh stuff that i didnt really mean to say.. i really didnt mean to say all those harsh words., im really sorry to that..
its all about misunderstanding, he thought at that moment i was too way immature.. but i was just thinking about the 50% off, i dont want him to buy such costly goods for im also bit shy because he's buying me something that he's not obliged to.. he misinterpret my actions.. he thought for me it was just nothing..
i mean no harm, guys pls help me tell him i really dont mean the harsh words iv said.. i love him.. and im really sorry about it.. i dunno how to explain to him everything because i understand he's hurt by the things iv said.. pls.. enlighten him.,.. help me try to enlighten him,
THANKS ALOT ILL APPRECIATE YOUR KINDNESS
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12 responses
@jolope (987)
• Philippines
3 Aug 07
first..
i think that you're not immature with regards to your action..maybe, he was just disappointed because he really wanted to buy you something special..
next is that i think that what you fought about was silly..
i mean, why would you fight over a pink blazer??that's weird..
lastly, whatever you said, i think that is the cause of all this fuzz..i bet if you hadn't said that then you two might left the mall in good terms..
i mean, if you think he was hurt because you decided not to buy any then you should understand that..i believe that even you would be hurt if you wanted to buy him something and decided later on not to..
but on the other hand, i think he over reacted on the part where he wanted to break up with you..so what you should do, in my opinion that is, is that you should say sorry and explain yourself once more..make him feel that he is right..because that is the only way he'd feel that he won you're fight and i guess later on he'll take back his words on breaking up with you and say he's sorry too for acting rashly..
i hope this helps..
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@aikastacruz (187)
• Philippines
3 Aug 07
our argument is not actually the pink blazer but the thought that i decided not to buy any after the whole period we're standing there.. and also because of the things iv said.. i know i was wrong.. after iv said all those stuffs thats the time iv realized that oh this is wrong and i shudve never said anything like that.. but i was hurt and mad because he didnt talked to me since he got home.. but still i was wrong of telling harsh words.. and im sorry about that..
thats what im doing now, convincing him to talk to me and take back his words on breaking up with me.. iv said im sorry but i dunno if he understands how i feel ='( i know he'll read much of these.. i hope he'd unerstand me better.. ='(
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@tumalty1980 (256)
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3 Aug 07
god thats such a strange reason to want to break up. My wife does my head in everytime we go shopping we can even go food shopping without her taking ages to decide and going cloths shopping get right on my nerves its a woman thing your all born to do our head in picking between 2 pairs of shoes that look the same or two tops that are identicle.
By the sounds of it this is just an excuse and there is some other reason he wants to break up he is just not saying.
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@raychill (6525)
• United States
3 Aug 07
Ok. You got into a fight because you didn't want a blazer that he wanted to buy for you and you ended up having no blazer. Then he said you were immature and wanted to break up with you...over a blazer?
Frankly that's just dumb. I'd say maybe just an excuse because there are other reasons he wanted to break up with you and just used that. That's what guys do sometimes. I'd say try to talk to him and make some sense out of this first.
@aikastacruz (187)
• Philippines
3 Aug 07
no no, u got it wrong.. its not really about the blazer, the story of the blazer is something that provoked him to really get mad after iv said some harsh words at him.. its me who's wrong.. but i was just misunderstood and vice versa..
i was wrong in telling those things, i shouldve never said such... ='( im really sorry for myself because i do regret all the things iv said.. ='( im just mad, i ddnt really mean any of those things iv said.. really ='(
@raychill (6525)
• United States
3 Aug 07
well I guess I can't help you then because I completely don't understand. According to the post it looks like you're implying that he got mad at you over a blazer. You didn't say at all anything about you saying anything so I can't quite grasp what he was mad about or what you're so upset about...with the exception of being upset he broke up with you or wants to or whatever.
So maybe someone else understands.
The best advice is always to talk it out with the person who you're arguing with or upset with or whatever. So I guess my advice is talk to your boyfriend.
@aikastacruz (187)
• Philippines
4 Aug 07
no actually iv thrown harsh words and thats the thing i was telling you about why he got mad at me.. but as i was explaining, iv just said those things because i was mad and hurt.. a person who's mad sometimes can say such words without really intending to.. i mean, i dont really mean those stuffs i said to him.. i was really sorry about it and i still am.. =(
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
3 Aug 07
You don't say how long you have been together. This seems like such a petty reason for him to want to break up with you. It really does. Were there other issues that led up to this? If not, then maybe he was just having a really bad day. I'd give it a rest for a day and then call him and tell him that you are very sorry & that you did't mean the harsh words you said. Maybe you could print off this thread and show him. If that doesn't work, then there is little you can do but hope that he will have a change of heart and come to you. best of luck to you!
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@aikastacruz (187)
• Philippines
3 Aug 07
weve been for almost 2yrs alreDi.. im scared when he gets mad at me.. i really dont want him to be mad at me.. its just that, im hurt thats why my emotions just bursts but i really dont mean to say those words.. i didnt mean any of it...... ='(
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@kampung (17)
• Malaysia
4 Aug 07
first why you give opninion like that? we know all people want somebody care in life. what ever she choose we must respect her. cant me ask you question.. in your life how many people you love ? why you them ? you think , you must have special partner in your life ? i'm just know..ok
@braveheart07 (2601)
• Philippines
4 Aug 07
That's very sad. I think this kinda situation is not appropriate for him to end up instantly his relationship with you. It's not reasonable for him to do that to you. You're definitely right that there is really a midunderstanding between the two of you, and you need to explain this immediately as much as possible for him to be enlightened about the true version of the situation. Tell him all the possible reasons you have, and of course, try to ask him if what is the really reason why he gave up so easily on you. Misunderstanding is really the source of breakups in a relationship and as much as possible, try to avoid this. Secondly, don't be shy. Tell him the truth. You're already commited with each other, so there is no reason for you to be shy. I think you need to practice some lifestyle modifications and try to analyze if these indeed help in your relationship. Once, again, you need to explain further to him the reasons and this will set you free from being depressed.
Hope, you will be able to solve your love problem.
Take care and have a nice day!
Regards,
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@myfaiz (13)
• Indonesia
3 Aug 07
Just leave him, sorry you can looking another boy friend who is not like a child, you will get many problem when both of you married, and i think with one little mistake he is angry with you and not want to talking with you, how about next day the day after both of you get married ?
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@aikastacruz (187)
• Philippines
3 Aug 07
you know what, if ever there would come a point in time that he'd ask me to marry him, i know for a fact that we're gonna be happier than ever.. because there are certain circumstances that we cant tolerate as of now.. we're still in the bridge at the moment trying to cross it together.. and hoping no one will let go..
i know how much he love me but for some reasons and hindrances, we just cant think of such..
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@aikastacruz (187)
• Philippines
3 Aug 07
IF ever that day would come, ill be the happiest girl in the universe.. with our 6kids.. *sigh*
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
4 Aug 07
well, i think it is pretty stupid to argue just for a small matter like that... i can only suggest that you have a chat with him and if he still doesn't want to talk to you, then it is his problem... he is the childish and immature one and i'm sorry to say but just leave him for a while and sees how he feels without you beside him... may be he will learn to appreciate you after some times... good luck...
@humbleme (1004)
• India
4 Aug 07
Hello aikastacruz, First of all I will tell you that your
boyfriend loves you deeply this is the reason he didnt want
to save his money and may be you were taking too much time
in choosing your blazer inside the mall and he might had some
other plans to visit a resturant or elsewhere after shopping
and you were taking too much time and he was getting impatient and afterwards you said something to him that you too have admitted that you shouldnt have told him and it really hurts deep inside and not expected if those words comes
from a person whom somebody loves deeply.My advice is dont
let intervene any third party to solve this problem,just go yourself meet him face to face , give him a tight hug at first and tell him you are sorry and you really love him and didnt
mean to hurt him atall but that was your instant emotional anger outburst only.I am sure if he is not a very ego centric person and if there are no other problems/issues related
with this incidence then surely everything will be fine
again just after you meet him face to face.Best of luck.If you decide to follow my advice then pls drop a few lines
about the outcome.
@aikastacruz (187)
• Philippines
5 Aug 07
thank you.. i know.. i know how much he loves me.. yes iv been really trying to talk to him and clear things up.. explaining things why i acted the way i acted, asking sorry for things iv said.. i understand his anger because i was the one who provoked it.. i just hope everything will be okay, soon.. thanks for the advice i really appreciate your kindness.. we havnt seen and been together since that day.. =(
@satansoldat_666 (412)
• Philippines
3 Aug 07
Well it seems like ur bf is making a big fuss abt less relevant things based on what u wrote there.He should have just bought the blazer and not make such a big deal.What u did was just fine....so that he wouldnt spend so much
But on the guy's part i wouldnt blame him because it is natural for guys to buy expensive stuff or give lots of stuff to girls since we men dont like our girlsd being so dissatisfied.....I used to do the same with my former gf's but they all left me...damn them
@Sweettatas01 (443)
• United States
4 Aug 07
Wow, This is what I think you should do. Tell him how you feel. Leave a message for him if he doesn't want to talk. Tell him that you are sorry for everything that you said, tell him that you're fallible and that you are human and you will always make mistakes. Tell him that you all were misunderstanding each other and out of any heat of the moment anyone is bound to say hurtful things. Tell him that you really do love him and that you were only thinking about saving the money in his pocket. If this boy cannot hear the sincerity in your voice then he is not worth being with. Truth can be painful, but you know there is always someone else that will swipe you off your feet. Like I said, people make mistakes and people can fix their own mistakes by making the situation better. If you've already done this... YOU GO GIRL! If you are still troubled.... I hope my advice helps. But breaking up over clothing is ridiculous and it's not something worth fighting over... I hope all goes well for you! Good Luck!
@aikastacruz (187)
• Philippines
4 Aug 07
i love him.. and iv said i was sorry about the things iv said.. i really dont meant any of it.. ='( yes when one person is hurt you cant really control the feelings he/she has.. she/he can say hurtful things without him/her realizing.. i was sorry with full of sincerity.. i didnt mean all those stuffs i said, really.. im clumsy, im an impulsive thinker,, i suck, i was sorry... now im thinking, he's right that im being immature and unreasonable to say those harsh words.. ='( sorry beb.
@aikastacruz (187)
• Philippines
8 Aug 07
thanks for all the concerns.. we're in good terms now.. but still making things work coz its been awhile since weve talked in soft voice and we hvnt seen for weeks.. sometimes i get fed up with this so-called problems, for after we got over with our current one, there comes the next.. damn.. i dunno y things never get stable with us.. im hoping too that all goes well for us.. in the long run, i wish, this what im into is worth the battle im fighting with.. thnks. godbless
@bench_mmcc (46)
• Philippines
3 Aug 07
Hey, you two guys really misunderstood each other, make him cool down first, pray about it to let God make hi realize everything, comminucation is the most important thing in a relationship, understanding each others feeling, not fighting on a publlic, you know when me and my wife, if one of us loss temper, we tell each other not to talk first, we try to cool down first before we talk again, that way, we dont use our temper to communicate but use our heart understanding each feeling. If he doesn't buy you anything, give you anything, Are you gonna still love him? If doesn't answers you back, remember its his lost not yours...remember, everything happens for a reason, there will be someone better for you.God will give you a better man for you, just BELIEVE!
