When a close relative lies to you

this discussion struck me bulls eye... i have been lied to, but not with a relative,.. she's my helper but we treat her as relative we send her to school, a 6 months caregiver training course, we told her if ever she wants to leave us, she can apply overseas, canada or US as caregiver, we give her that chance but last week i was so mad at her, she said she was at school practicing a dance number for a visit in a mental institution.. night came, about 8pm and she does'nt come home yet, so i called the school, and ask if the class is still there, it turned out they left at about 4pm. imagine my surprise.. i was so mad at her... i told her she is to go home the next day, to her province....after all we give her, we've done to her, and this is what she give in return.... well... i didn't send her home, i gave her another chance.. i made a promise to her that we will help her study so she can help her family, and i'm keeping my promise... i just dont have the heart to send her back home, her parents are so good to my mother

hello there,,long time no see.:)i have been in this perdicament..i was told money was needed for a childs medicine..and they were soo very sick and of course without thinking,,i gave what they needed and more just in case..well..i learned that they used teh money to go out drinking that night..and the child was fine..I was soo mad i was spitting bullets..and whats sad..is that i would have gave them play money to borrow if they just asked me straight up..the next day i told them that and more that i cant say here lol lol..i was just a bit livid..so i say..just face them and tell them how they hurt you and lost ur trust and they are goin to have to seriously earn theer trust back..have a good one hun...and good luck..April

How would I feel? I'd be downright livid not to mention hurt and insulted....How would I handle it? I'd call them out on it...I can and will tolerate a lot of things from ppl regardless of who the person is but i DESPISE being lied to and dont take it lightly at all....

I really dont like speaking with a person who cant or wont be honest. It actualy drives me away quickly. I just think life is too short for games. I think it can be a total waste of your time and energy. I usualy dont have anything else to do with someone who lies to me.

My brother quite often lies to me over stupid things. I usually know when he is and it is frustrating and hurtful to think that he can't be honest to me. Even when I pull him up on it, he still won't tell the truth.

I'll find out the real reason and why they lied in the first place. usually if my family lie to me, this means someone in the family has been badmouthing me. or sometimes they are just too ashamed to admit they need something from me, probably because I am always the youngest and always the one who need help instead of give help. but in all cases, I will be upset and lash out for sure.

I would feel very bad. But I wouldn't confront them about it. I would be careful in the future and take everything they say with a pinch of salt. I wouldn't trust them again. I don't like pretending to be nice when I don't like the person. I might stop speaking to them and be honest if they confront me about being aloof. It's happened to me a few times before. You might think they are close to you...but obviously they don't feel the same about you..or else they wouldn't have lied to you.

I will react sharply. At least i will ask for the reason.There is no difference between relatives and other people, all of them need to be honest. I have never support the view that we must forgive everything to our relatives just because they are relatives.

i haven't come across this before so i don't know hot it feel.i think that it's realy hurt when the person that so close to you lie to you.if they realy mean it,then it's realy bad.if they lies because of certain reason and they also don't want to do it just they can't,i think you should forgive them.it all depends on what they have done to you.