I love you!!! Can you say it? Is it diffucult for you to say these words?

My parents were not loving at all but I am towards my daughter as I hated the fact when I went to freinds housses and were cuddled and I felt unloved that I did not get the same from my parents, my mom since has brought up my little brother to be loving and respectful and he is great and always tells me he loves me as does my little girl. My mom recently did say she loved me but that was after a close freind of hers passed away, I think it made her realise how short life was, although I was quite shocked, it was nice to knoiw that hse does care after all.

I sometimes say these words to my boyfriend.I DON'T THINK it's difficult for me to say these words But I thingk you should't always say these to him pr her. You should make it more sacred.

When I love someone I have no problems telling them that I love them. If I don't love someone, I would have a problem telling them I loved them. Then again, when I don't love someone, I wouldn't want to tell them I loved them in the first place, so there'd be no problems.

When I was a teenager (long time ago now LOL), I never used to like to use the words "I love you" because it was not a thing guys did. But as long as they didn't hear it, I would say it now and again with my girlfriend. Now though, I tell my wife quite a lot how much I love her.. I think I "grew up" a little :-)

Well I've never had a problem with saying I love you,...sounds strange, but since I live alone now though, the only ones I tell that I love them are my two cats...LOL...But I came from the same background as you...I grew up with my mother and grandmother--my parents were divorced...but neither of them were demonstrative to begin with in showing any kind of emotion and certainly not to tell another family member that they loved them...also weren't huggie people either..yet I love to hug folks and will certainly hug my friends. Years and years ago, when my mom was still alive I did attempt to give her an old-fashioned bear hug....I had been inspired by the "hug" guy. Leo Buscaglia...well my goodness, when I attempted to hug my mom, you think I was trying to attack her or something and she pushed me away...how sad, no?

Hi there. "I love You" is a phrase that we often use in our family. I say it to my husband everyday morning and every night and vice a versa, we both say this to our children as well and in turn they say it back to us... When we're visiting my parents, or my inlaws, my sister or brothers, we often say "I love you" when we're leaving, we even say it on hanging up or saying good bye to family... I dont see how saying these words can be so difficult... But some people do find it hard I suppose, especially when they havent been told themselves often...

Saying I love u. when u really mean it is not hard at all for me.

It was easy for my brother and I to say it and show it because of the kind of mom we had, and because we had three little responsibilities (my three cats). We knew how to show our cats love the minute we got them. I still do to this day. Love in a very important thing in any relationship.

I find it very easy to say I love you miamilady - as long as I mean it! I tell my kids several times a day at least that I love them and they seem to flourish and their confidence gets sky high! Loving and being loved is a wonderful thing and I think it is fantastic to be able to tell those close to me how I feel about them! xxx

For my children and my husband it's a natural words that come out of my mouth. Like you i tell them i love you all the time. I have never heard my parents utter those words to me but i don't take it against them they're just not raised that way. For me though i feel that it is very important for me to say i love you to my family.

I feel fortunate to have had a Mom who was willing to hug me and tell me how much she loved me...and I did the same with her right to her dying day. My father on the otherhand never showed his love for me and his abusive behavior had a negative impact on my life for years. The good thing about that part of my life is that it led me to the work I now do...so good always come from challenging times. With my Mom's ability to say I love you I grew up with a high comfort level with being able to do the same thing. From your examples and mine it shows that we consciously or unconsciously 'do what we know.' My hubby and I say I love you frequently throughout the day. We share intimate hugs and offer reassurances that 'shows' our love is more than just saying the words. In regard to friends, I always tell my friends that I love them. Initially when I feel that we have reached a point of our bond being a loving relationship. I begin to say it to them and within a short time they say it back.

penseful wrote: ...when I said it to my sons, they would look at me funny, because even when they were two or three, they were MEN and MEN are brave. Whoa. What does being brave have to do with being able to say "I love you"? The men I've loved have all told me they love me. Are you saying they were not men or brave because they did? That isn't a definition of manhood I'd want applied to anyone. Toddlers are not men. They are babies and only beginning to learn emotional skills. You projected onto them your false expectations of manhood, not the other way around. Why do people think it is okay to emotionally cripple boys and men? We would never condone the intentional physically crippling of them, yet emotional crippling is usually far more painful. We should be encouraging their ability to experience love in the fullest. Love is the cornerstone of emotional health. There is no known force that can accomplish more or create more happiness.

I often tell those I care about I love them. Why not? Why be stingy with love or words that impart love? Words don't cost money and neither does love. If we don't use our ability to speak to impart the most important factor of all, what good is accomplished? When I speak to others, I keep in mind it may be the last time I speak to them. If that were to become true, I would want them to remember my love, not something less important or emotionally destructive. Of course, I'm not perfect, and sometimes I say things I later regret. But when I do, I try to be quick to undo the harm and replace it with love. I don't understand those that think discussing love "too often" is somehow harmful. How can one love "too often"? If we can't love "too often," how can we speak of love "too often"? Don't new lovers speak of love in almost every breath? Doesn't that heighten the wonders of their love rather than diminish it? There should be no shortage of love or the knowledge that one is loved. Yes, sometimes our kids shrug it off in their teen years. That's what they're supposed to do. Their main job as teens is to pull away from parents and create their individual identities that will take them into successful adulthood. So teens will say they do not want to hear it as often -- but try not saying it when they are used to hearing it. The lack saddens them, a truer sign of their needs than their words of bravado. I ignore their words and listen to their hearts. I was a teen once and know I needed the knowledge I was loved, as do they need the same knowledge today. So I give love to them freely both in words and in spirit. Just like the water they need to live, they drink in what they need and leave the rest for later sustanance. That's okay. I've done my part and feel good about myself. I don't need anything more than that.

Its definitely something that is determined by your upbringing - I would never dream of saying it to my father, I say it to my mother every so often. I can say it with no problem at all to my partner and regularly do on a daily basis. I also have no issues with saying it to my friends. I definitely think its important to hear when you are young, I dont really recall hearing it that often - and certainly never from my father

I nor my parents have ever had a problem saying "I Love You!". I think that it is sad that some people were raised with the difficulty of saying this phrase. I guess alot of men were raised back in the old days, not to say it. They were shown that if you did say it, then it is a sign of weakness. You are right. It is important for our loved ones to hear us tell them we love them.

my parents hardly say the word I love you to me since i am a child until now... but they show their love to me through their actions... and to me it worths a thousand words... i ca feel their love to me without them having to say those 3 words... now, my hubby also seldom say I love you to me... but he shows his love by his actions and care to me... and it is enough for me... same with me... i don't say I love you often to the people that i love... but i show my love to them through my actions...

My mom is the same way. She doesn't say I love you a lot. I usually say it to her. It has to do with her upbringing. Her mom or dad didn't really use to say "I love you" to her and she got used to it. However, I try to tell her I love her as often as possible since I don't get to see her much.

Hi Miamilady, I tell my wife that I love her all of the time. I think shes the only one I realy feel comfortable saying that to though. I dont say it to her kids but their all grown up and out of the house and I dont really say it to her grandkids. I guess I just dont feel comfortable saying it to them and I dont think they would like to hear it from me. Take care, Terry

I am very shy about saying it out loud and maybe that's why when I do say - it has more meaning and depth and people understand that - in the present times these words have become so common that they have lost part of the value they carried in past.

well to say "I love you " to my parents,brother and sister and friends i dont have any problems or hesitations but when it comes to telling that to my girl friend i was not able to tell it for over 2-3 months but then finally told her.....