Should you Forgive and Trust your Loved one who Cheated on you?

Maybe I can forgive him at the same time forget him forever...as long as I don't see him again for my entire life...no chances and I hope he will enjoy his new girl that cause us the trouble.

I believe this is different for each individual couple . Just because one cheats does not mean they will definitely do it again but for the most part we do often hear that once one cheats they will do this again but I do know couples that one or the other was cheated on who remained together and were never cheated on again but then their are those that feel that they can't handle the betrayal and the trust is gone so once this happens there is no foundation to work on . I myself have been cheated on and stayed and am still with the same person . It has happened on more then one occasion but I keep trying to make it work not only for myself but for our family and the fact that I still do care and want to make it work but if one was not willlin to work at it and this means a lot of work then I don't see how it could work . I don't know if I will always be here but do believe that each situation is different from the one before and their are different things to consider when deciding weather to stay or not .

I say the first time forgive and forget, but if it happens again you shouldn't

How about some honesty before you cheat? If you are attracted to someone else, why not telling your partner before you plan on cheating, and have your partner be able to make the decision whether he/she wants to stay with you afterward. I'm absolutely not a cheater and would neither forgive nor forget if my partner cheats on me. That relationship would be over right then and there...no regrets. And I wouldn't care how many days, months, or years we have been together. life is too short for me to waste my time on a cheater. Always remember...a leopard doesn't change its spots !!!

I think almost everyone has been in this situation. My ex boyfriend was my world and he still is but we both had problems with cheating. I gave him a second chance but then I was the one who screwed up and ruined the relationship. If they do it continually though then they're not worth it and they are too inconsiderate of your feelings. Of course, I don't know the situation but if you love them then at least try to forgive them.

I've been to this situation before. My husband cheated on me, but he earned the consequences of the mistakes he done. God forgives, why can't we? But one mistake is enough, if he do it again, definitely there is no reason to waste my time giving back my trust to him.

Once upon a time I tried to forgive someone who cheated on me but the realtionship turned out worst then what is was before he cheated. I always thought that he was cheating again everytime he left out the house. If a person loves you they will not hurt you and they would never put the realtionship at risk. Michele

I tried to forgive an ex of mine. We had been together for almost 4 years when I found out that he had cheated on me. However I could not forget/forgibe and in the end we broke up. the trust was gone so therefor i do not think I would ever even try to forgive if it were to happen again!

If you let a cheater get away with cheating he/she is going to do it again. I am the kind of person who will never tolerate something like that more than once. If it happens once, it will never happen again. There's no point in giving a cheater a second chance becuase he/she betrayed your trust. It cannot work anymore after that.

It depends on how and what you trust of a person. I beleieve you love one person because you have one fine deep likeness. No matter what they say two different people can fall in love I guess other people misunderstand what it means. Loving a different peson means you may differ in hobbies, ways, or even things you like to be. But loving someone means commiting yourself into his/hers and into your "likeness". If she/he cheats you understand him/her to be going out of her way. And it differs in many relationships where one forgive the other on the first time of cheating. For me, speaking of people I know and I love, I would give them another try. and many other tries.Love is bearing. So you must have love and some truth to trust, for if truth is gone, you can't bear even the slightest pains. That's why I don't believe real cheaters. You must be careful. Know a person before you commit into a relationship. Speaking of cheaters not in arelationship. I know one hateful cheater and her name is Cindy. She is an elect line leader of the QC where I am working. I hate this b.i.t.c.h and I don't trust her. If I can show to the world how much she is a virus, i would.

Forgiveness is different from continuing on with the relationship. I can forgive her eventually but I wouldn't get back together with her. The relationship is definitely over. The cheating is a clear sign that she doesn't love me and she doesn't deserve my love. I'd rather be free than be with someone who tramples on my heart.

Well Its a very tough question to answer. The ones with strong heart say mistakes are made to be never repeated and who does it twice will do the third time. The ones with a bit weak heart say its love what matters. If its still there then go on give him a chance. I say whether you are weak at heart or strong must understand the feeling of the one who cheated sometimes we have to do things we ought not to do but in circumstances have to do. So you see its analysis what can make a difference. The matters in love are not taken with only hear or mind they are dealt with emotions which are never lasting.

in my past i have given someone who cheated on me a second chance the problem that i found with that was i didnt forgive the person so i was always hurt by what had happend. I cant say someone who cheats will cheat again and again for i dont know this for sure or not but in my experience i could not trust the person anymore so that caused problems in its self. So I personally wouldnt forgive my partner for cheating on me and i would definitally not give them another chance because I wouldn't be able to handle the no trust issue!

I do believe many people encounter the same experiences. It is very much depend on how much you still love and trust him or her. Ask yourself, "will he/ she cheating again?" One thing I believe, a person who cheated more than 3 times, the same issue will happen unless he/ she really meant to stay with you and promise to make a change. It is good if you could give chances to change the situation because everyone make mistake. You could try to listen his/ her explaination. Listen will help you to understand more and also to ensure yourself not to feel regret by making wrong decision. Forgiveness is good but depend on the "quantity". Meant how many times it already happen? Is that repeated issue? Because sometime too much of forgiveness, he or she may take advantage of the "trust" we gave them. Which will harm and hurt ourselves. You should ask yourself, do you still feel secure and trust towards him/ her? Would you still like to spend your valuetime and do you think you will stay stay happily with him / her? Sometime it is good if you could read some books that share the experiences. You will learn more. I wish you all the best in your relationship.

Difficult, very difficult. But perhaps, giving them one or two chances are fine. Sometimes we must know why our partner has cheated. I'm not talking of compulsive liars but of partners who until now have been faithful and love you. Its important to ask him/her why he/she did so and accept the reasons with an unbiased mind. Most often, you'll find that perhaps you are the reason beyond the betrayal. If you are the aggressive, angry and possessive kind you might intimidate your partner into lying who fears your reaction. I'll give you an example. Once, when I was visiting my parents my son fell ill and I wanted to get back home. My husband had informed my dad that he was going on tour for a week. When I tried to contact him, his boss told me there was no tour scheduled. I felt devastated and betrayed. I refused to speak to him. Later, he told me there had been this school reunion in the neighbouring city and he felt I wouldn't like him to go and visit his chums(he 's been to boarding school, so these friends are the ones he's grown up with) and anticipating an outburst from me, he lied saying he was on an official tour. I bought his explanation and thereafter I've ensured that I do not react negatively if he wants to do something on his own.

I n my situation I had to have my time to be angry and he had to prove to be that he wanted to be with me when he did that we did get back together and have grown form the situation, it all depends if you can handle knowing what he did in the end it took me awhile to get over it but I did and I am happy that I did.

Hi, well it all depends how much you really love the person. Mistakes are made by everyone and no ones perfect i feel, but yes if the person has always been the cheating kinds as per your previous experiences, then no question of a second chance, but incase hes been caught and is very regretful and seeking forgiveness, and if you really love him, then give him another chance with your mind open for the worst, that what if hes caught again cheating, that will be the end then, no third chances, and he or she be told regarding this and during that time period you can observe him closely too.