Man, Woman & One Night Stand

I'm sorry you had a bad time. I feel guilty admitting that I've had sober one-nighters before and had a good time. Nevertheless, the complexities of situations like these cannot be overestimated. A lot of the time, this nagging little feeling of I'd-like-to-see-him-again lingers. Human nature, I suppose, at least for woman. Again, sorry.

It sounds like you've learned alot about yourself from this experience...you are not the type of woman to just sleep around. Don't be so harsh with yourself. We've all done things that we are not so proud of. When you do something and you feel bad about yourself after...that is how you learn and that is what life is all about...the learning. from the sounds of your post, I doubt you will ever find yourself in this situation again.

Don't be so hard on yourself, it was something you did and most probably will not do again, but we all do things in the spur of the moment and then spend too much time worrying about it afterwards. When I was younger I had a few one night stands and that is all they meant. I didn't want to be wined and dined or have a relationship. I used them as much as they used me. It was good at the time and I walked away knowing what I had done. It doesn't make you a bad person, just someone who lost a few inhibitions one night, thats all. It seems you have learnt from this and will not do it again, but please do not feel bad.

Now the matter is over, you did it either willingly or unwillingly, but the fact remains, you did it. There is no use of crying over split milk. You should have given a thought to your idea, before going for it. But you can always learn a lesson from your mistakes. Now please do not feel guilty, you cannot change the situation, at present.

that was a very bad experience that a girl could ever have..... honestly, now adays having one night stand with strangers doesn't matter a lot like before.... but to wake up without the man is like a slap in your face. after what happened??? such a bad boy... well i think i dont get pregnant with that or else that must be a very traggic one. T_T

It seems like you just have to live and learn from this - but I would not do it again. Who knows who and what you would end up with. You need to be careful and take care of yourself. You are okay - move on!!!

I am glad you shared this with us. I believe it has not only helped you to get it off your chest, but it has also helped many like you who can relate to your situation yet cannot speak out. Its also like an advise from one woman to another which will hold us in good stead. Yes, the guy was mean, he could have stayed back at least to say ‘Hi’. It would not have cost him more than the hotel bill, and who know, he could have made a friend for life. Guess, guys are more casual than girls in these matters. Anyway, no point in crying over spilt milk, forgive, forget and move on and be more careful next time.

No comments about your habits. But try maximum sharings with your near and dears , not as just happenings. Your way of keeping friendship is right but donot rely the latests and just knows. It is not the advice it is the wish from my deep heart. Wish you happy speedy recovery from your sads and sins.

I'm a man, and I know that some of my friends did the same. They just got a one night stand and then runaway in the next morning. Without any kiss of goodbye. I think they just irresponsible.

Dear sexycoley, I am a man. When I was 22 years old, my boss who was lady about 40 years took me to her home for officicial purpose. In those days typewriter was used for typing documents. I was typing some confidential matters and job got completed by 10.30 pm. She asked to me to accompany with to a 5 star hotel as she had to meet a client on official matter. I went with her. The meeting of the client took only 10 minutes and the man left. At that time she ordered for drinks. I told her I would not drink as I was not used to it. She never bothered and ordered for me. She started drinking after telling me cheers. She consumed at least 4 to 5 glass of hot drinks. She never uttered single word. She said I had already booked room for us, you should stay with me in my room tonight. I was out of wits. I went with her to room but she immediately lost her conscious due to her heavy drinking. I left the hotel. Till date she thinks I slept with her.

I agree that girls should not be drunk whenever they are in the pub because alot of men might take advantage on them.. For all the girls be better careful for all the boys that you meet..

Wow what a story you got. It could not be called as Man, Woman and One Night Stand i guess. I admired that guy.....he was so concerned about you of gpaying your hotel when you got frunk. He was so gentle and most of all RESPECT you being a woman. You must be happy for that.............a man you just know never harassed you that's once in a blue mood as my grandmother told us. NOw a days there's only a few of man like that............mostly get advantage when the lady got drunk..........In what aspects you can consider a man....."Gentleman"

Do u take some protective action? i think it is very dangerous for u to do so after u are drunk... Maybe i am much careful, i hope so.

I'm sorry to hear about your situation, sexycoley. The only thing I can say is to pick yourself up by the bootstraps and move on. Just use this incident as a learning experience. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Follow me on NoMoreCollegeDebt.blogspot.com as I try to make $8k in sixty days using only a computer, a lot of free time, and some determination.

I just want to say some thing while i am not woman but i feel how much you have hearted. But you have to be cautios everytime about your feelings, since no one is going to really hurt any one but since they think only about themselves, that is why, it happens. so take care. your friend

Hi dear, forget everything. I know it is hard on you and you do not want this to happen either. Let take it as a nightmare, forget everything. Just remember in future, if you drink, make sure some lady you trust is with you and not alone. Let the nightmare go away. Take care.

Uh, it was a bad experienced. If I were you, I'll ask the receptionist the personal data of the person who registered you in the hotel. And try to tack his address, do you really want to do it ?

It was really a regret having a one night stand if you have no intentions of doing it! Being drunk is actually not bad as long as you could handle yourself and you must be cautious in every people around you. Of course man if they could take advantage and ran away from responsibilities they will surely do. I hope that would really give you a lesson and hoping that you've learn from that. You still lucky because that man did not hurt you. Going with a stranger doesn't mean they like you or accepted you. But every decision you made you should always think wisely.