Depressed all over again

Sounds like the two of you still have very strong feelings for each other. If you don't mind me asking, why did you split up? Maybe you two can work things out? I wish you well and hope these few weeks can give you some strength but I think you two need to work out your feelings for each other. It doesn't sound over to me. Good Luck! Take Care Vicki

I hope this is going better for you now. I think you should email him or something and tell him not to come and see you any more, as it sends mixed messages and you would like to get on with your life. He is being selfish, and not wanting to move on, but unless you guys are talking about getting back together, you do both have to move on. Him not letting you move on just because he is having trouble moving on is unfair.

I think there can be two reasons. either there is strong feeling he has for you and same thing from your side. Or it can be thAT he is taking advantage of your weakness . I am telling you from my experience, that make it very clear whether he really have feelings for you or not. If there are feelings and still u have some problem, u both can sort it out. Otherwise I have seen guys take your advantage of emotional weakness and leave u devastated.

Marie - I'm truly sorry that you're going through this. You've been through enough this past few months without all this added stress. Sounds to me like your ex is trying to "have his cake and eat it too" as we say here in England. He says he wants to split up, and yet he keeps on comng back and playing with your emotions which is very unfair on you. Perhaps he is confused himself and just needs time and space to sort his head out? Or perhaps he is just getting a kick out of the power he still has over you - you know him - I don't - so you would probably know the answer to that deep down. If you want my advice - in order to get over this break-up and try and move on with your life, you need to not see him at all for some considerable time. It will be hard at first, but once the clean break has been made you will be able to build your stength and move forward. Every time he sees you again, he is dragging you backwards and depressing you again, and you don't need that in your life right now. Please take care and I hope you can be strong to make the right decision.

My dear friend, I can certainly empathize with your present feelings...the end of a relationship...or even a dramatic change in a relationship can cause a broad spectrum of emotions....give your self some time... I am learning that the pain may never go away but there are times when life is good even when thigs are bad...appreciate what you have in your life...if things between ya'll is supposed to be one way or the other...then it will happen....there is a reason for everything in our lives and whatever does not kill us makes us stronger... If you need to talk, PM me, I will be here for you.... Tina

I'm sorry if I'm uninformed about your story, but did you find out why the heck he broke up with you? Because I still don't know. Those weeks away from him will definitely be good for you, even if you feel that you won't be able to handle it right now. At least for me it worked pretty fine! I hope it has just the same effect on you. Good luck!