Do you think it's "SELFISH" to bring more children into the world?

Why worry about something beyond our control? We should live our lives to the fullest and children are part of our lives (if we have them) and they bring a lot of meaning to our lives and us to theirs. I wouldn't say it's "selfish". Who knows for sure what's going to happen in the future? Perhaps, there'll be a solution to all those environmental problems... and if there is... aren't we then depriving our "children" from living and enjoying it? In short, IMHO, there's nothing selfish or otherwise about having children. We wouldn't know what's going to happen in the future... and the future is in their hands as well.

First, a little advice. STOP WATCHING THE NEWS! You know, the world is the same crazy, rotten, violent, wonderous place that it has always been. With technology being what it is now, bad news reaches us faster and it seems like its alll around us. You have a four year old! You have the opportunity to look at the world through brand new eyes, full of wonder. Enjoy this time. Learn the lessons of childhood again. Remember what it feels like to get excited about snow, leaves in autumn, blowing bubbles, swimming, walking in puddles and running in the rain. Simple joys. Sure you can still change the light bulbs in your house to energy effecient ones, plant some trees and give your appliances the afternoon off, but enjoy this time! You don't get your four year old again once she turns five.

God made humanity and expected people to have children and to raise them. God is in control his word said these things would happen but if we trust and beleive in him we need not worry about Global warming or other things because He is in control and will cut the time short for the elects sake. Christ is returning to restore things and heal. When the earth does finally burn up as it says it will and there is a NEW HEAVEN and NEW EARTH it won't matter. We have at least 1000 years until then plus and God is then going to have his people dwell in the new heaven and earth and babies will be born. Read Isa 65 and I Pet 3. and Revelations 21-22. Stop worrying we need not.

I'm sure every generation felt this way, hun. Look on the bright side. The children we are bringing into the world could make a difference and make things better. People don't always have to make the world a worse place.

hi iam motaz(male) i liked your discussions about children you know i like to have alot of children i like them and iam not worry about any thing,just because iam faith iam faith that god bring them and god will take care of them and at the last god will get them back,of course they will die by any way they will die but ofcourse they will be happy,because they will backe to god.

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As they say “ we give our today so that they may have a better tomorrow”. What you say, has merit no doubt but that’s not the solution to save this earth and our children. If we have no more babies, the world would be full of old infirm geriatric patients, living on botox, looking unnaturally glowing and healthy! UGH!!! I would rather die before that day comes. No doubt the world is in a bad shape and going downhill, but people are becoming more aware, schools are educating children on conservation and hopefully our future citizens will be more responsible. Already our generation is trying its best to reverse the trend and its our duty too, to contribute how little we can, towards a better world. even you can do your bit by starting to educate your child on the values of conservation and nature.

hmmm nikki i guess ur worry is not well justified.don't forget that we humans have great adapting nature.when ape like human can become present day humans then we will get accustomed to all the effects of nature also...

Hi Nikkiwith ,why are we worry about something beyond our control? I agree that our planet is obviously getting worst,we should enjoy our live our lives to the fullest and children are part of our lives and they bring a lot of meaning to our lives and us to theirs. I would not say it is "selfish". Who knows for sure what will be going to happen in the future? Perhaps, there will be a solution to all those environmental problems, and if there is the solutin,are not we depriving our "children" from living and enjoying it. i felt the same way before having my son,i am scared for their future, but i can not lose sleep over it. people are coming together to help our earth, but yes there is still a lot who are abusing it. i try to do my part, what little i do,i should do more, but i use what resources i can, like we try to recycle, we changed some rubbish become fertilizer, things like that to keep our environment, it hurts my heart so bad. maybe things will be better in a future, i just trust in God's will change for me.

No, it's not selfish, it's natural, normal, and good, and always has been.

My husband feels the same way. I kind of waffle back and forth. I know that with global warming, and the rate of crime increasing, our world now is much different than when I was growing up. But, I also always wanted children, and I can't see my life now without my son, and we are planning to adopt in the future. But, yes I have concerns, too, but why worry over spilled milk? We just have to do what we can now to help save our planet and hope for the best. We also need to do what we can to help with the crime wave that has hit our planet. People need to stop and think before they act. I don't think it is selfish to want children, but I have concerns about the life they will be living when they are grown.

i agree nikki. i felt the same way before having my son. i thought, "i want to be a parent, i would make a dam good parent...but what would i be bringing my kid into?" i'm scared for his future, but i can't lose sleep over it. people are coming together to help our earth, but yes there is still a lot who are abusing it. i try to do my part, what little i do. i should do more, but i use what resources i can. we don't have money to donate, we don't have a lot of time either, but there are lil things, like we try to recycle, we changed some lightbulbs, things like that. but i'm almost scared to have another child, simply cuz of money. everything, rates and such, gas, all keep rising. how am i even going to send ONE kid to college, let alone more? if i can't offer them, what they need let alone what they want, it hurts my heart so bad. maybe things will be better in a few years...my hubby's job is promising. good pension plans and such...but it still worries me, i don't want to live like we are now, forever...and why bring more kids into that worry? i just trust in God's will for me. if my hubby and i are to have more children, then so be it. but i don't know how people who have 10+ kids do it these days? hopefully their children will work together and find a way to make the world a better, safer place!!

I like childre very much.Sometimes, I have a dream to have a lot of children.But, it is only a dream.What bother me are not only what you said, but also the pressure from the society.The next generation will face more competitive society.I want my children to accept the best things.I have the responsibility to get better envirionment for my children. If I can not meet their basic need tobe equal with others, I have to give up my right ti be a parent.

That is life. Life is a struggle. All of us must strive to survive a world full of pollution,violence,war... I believe we will still have a bright future. I always keep this little faith in mind.

If you want to have children it is fine as long as you can take care of them, if you cannot take care of them then do not have them. Having 1 to 3 children is fine, but anymore and I call you a breeder.

Thats a hard one..I really dont know if it would be selfish or if thats what you would call..To me I hink thats its very frightening about the future..

How can wanting to bring a child into the world be considered selfish? It is the most selfless thing a person can do. You have to put your life on hold to care for your child.If you can have children and you want more because you have more love to give, you should have more children. There are so many people that can't have children.

Your fear is quite valid. Indeed the world we are living in right now is a nightmare and quite a disaster. This is never the world our forefathers had dreamed centuries ago. I think we are already the rope of man's ability to manage himself. The earth is already showing some signs of giving up on us. The very survival of humanity is already now at stake. Who in the past centuries could have ever imagined that there will be such a time when survival of humanity could be a central issue. Sometimes, we could not really avoid thinking what kind of future our children may have. If at this time, we are already finding it hard to survive, how much more at their time, right? Well, the world today indeeed needs a saving act. Where it will come, that I could not categorically answer.

you cannot change what's happening around you. whether you have more children or just have one what's happening will still be there. the most important thing is, if you have the means and time to bring a child into this world why stop yourself. children gives light to our existence.

With the development of the technology, everything will be improve in better side, especially global warming.So it's obvious for you to have more children.