He is Gone

I can feel what you are feeling now.. It really is painful. Knowing that it's over between you too.. and worse, he has to go off to another place.., miles away from you.. Know what? I have been in the exact situation.. that someone left you and you don't even know if he/she comes back. It's painful but you can't do anything about it but move on. I had a long distance relationship with my gf, now she is my ex-gf.. We see each other like every 4-5 months, and it really is painful and excruciating inside.. :( The last time she left me, it was over between us. The 4-years we had together was over. And I know she will come back here, but not for me.. That's the hard part. Knowing that the person will come back but your not the reason why he/she came back,. I hope you will find it in your mind and heart to move on and to accept that your relationship is over.. but I know that in your heart, there is definitely a part of it that is reserved for him. Take good care.

Reading your message, I feel the hurt and brokenness inside you, and I am sorry to learn that you are feeling this way. The hurt feelings may go away with time. But I do not understand your situation or why this has to be so. I can only guess that both of you might have just broken up. You said that you really love him, and he also told you that he loved you. And he feels sad that he has to go away for 3 weeks. Is this a temporary separation only because he has to go overseas for some reason? If you both do love each other, and have a good relationship going, then this separation will only be transcient. Three weeks will fly by in no time and you can be reunited again soon. But if you had broken off your relationship with him, then how you are feeling now is understandable, although we don't know why there is a need for a breakup. I hope in the end, things work out for you.

i know exactly how you feel... i've been through that experience as well... i know how painful it must be for you... please be strong and just move on with your life... be confident that you will find someone much better than him one day... i am married now to a wonderful man that really loves and cares about me... so just try to forget him by doing the things that you like... take care and God Bless you...

i am empathyzing with you and i can sympathize with this issue of long distance relationship. and it also s*cks how you fully realize that you truly love the person once he's not there anymore - doubly sad if you haven't have got any moments of free verbal expressions of that love. well do you have any resolve of how you can come up with a compromise not to be apart. coz really, it is such a shame for a couple to be seaprated when they are still so much in love. i pray that you'd find a way, maybe he's feeling the same thing and that both of you will find ways to go around this.

Distance cant be the reason of loving the person whom you love most, why dont you have a long distance relationship? A long distance relationship nowadays are most common, like those partner who works abroad or those partner are working as seamens. Being away from each other is not the reason of quitting your love, love is always in your heart even if the person you love is not beside you always. If he needs to go miles and miles away because of his work why dont you understand him? My husband is working aboard, 12wks on 6wks off, 6wks vacation I mean and some of my neighbors are in that kind of life too. As long as the trust, respect and love in both of you are in your heart nothing to worry.

I am sorry to hear that!But i think everything have two aspect.so i hope you happenice everyday!good luck! By the way,i'm a chinese,so the english maybe not very good!

got this from one of my favorite book "PRAYING OUR GOODBYES" "Life is a continous journey of deep invevstment and letting go..of rooting and uprooting..of settling down and moving on.." I hope you can get a copy of this book..It's written by Joyce Rupp, It was a big help when I had my painful goodbye too. My one liners that made me get up on bed each mroning when I was in teh same situation "THIS, TOO WILL PASS", and IN the end, it will be okay. sending you hugs :)

I know how you feel its harder to move on when you know the love is still there but for some reason you're not together. Im sure the first week is gonna be killer, thinking about him and how hes doing, but im pretty sure after you make it past that itll get easier. And you never know, absence apparently makes the heart grow fonder, so maybe itll be a very good thing that he left. I just hope everything turns out well, keep us updated!

That is sad that he is away, but maybe this distance will help you heal your heart and give you a chance to start living your life. If it is meant to be it will happen no sense in forcing it to happen. I hope that you will grow from this experience and I hope that the both of you can remain good friends.

I am sorry to know that marie. don't worry if you really are menat for each other time and life will do something to make you see each other again and be happy together . For the meantime spend time with yourself and have fun.. It's not the end of the world and you will find someone that will make you happy I know.

I know that I had to say goodbye to my boyfriend at the airport once too. I met him online and he came to visit me in Ontario. We spent three days together and knew it was love. I think the both of us were afraid that we wouldn't contact each other. But you know it killed me! I couldn't believe that he had even seen me at all. (I moved to ALberta to be with him...and seven years later we are still together.) I know that you will get through the pain. Feel it...because if you ignore it it will never leave you. HUGS!

I am sorry that you have to go through this. I guess life just have to move on. But you have to consider first if there is a proper closure because if there is none, then who knows what will happen. If there is then set some time to grieve. Just remember that pain is inevitable but suffering is optional. Good luck to you...