Do you care when you discover you hurt someone?

sometimes i hurt my loved ones very badly and after sometimes i feel very sad and guilty and i use to sorry with them and try to make them smile and happy

Hi, yes you are right, at times we do tend to hurt our friends, family and realtionships leaving a bitter taste in their mouths. We do feel bad and if we know that we have done something wrong and we do apologise, then its alright, but knowingly, if we keep quiet or try and over look it, we are not being true to ourselevs, nor that relationship, as then that scar can never heal. More so when you know that you have hurt someone and still you dont try to rectify your fault. We feel wed become small if we say sorry, so we dont say it, and accept the person to forget and forgive us, which doesnt happen and maybe the person will become alright after a while with us, but the thoughts and memories will always remain bitter within him. So if you want the relationship to reamin ever green, dont be afraid to apologise.

i definitely am... i am a very sensitive person... i don't like people to hurt me and vice versa... so whenever i feel that i had hurt somebody's feelings, i will definitely feel very bad and apologise straight away... otherwise, i won't be able to sleep and will keep on thinking about it...

Yes, but then I explain to them how I feel and why I said what I said, and why I did what I did.

yeah, very much..I don't feel so comfortable knowing i ahve hurt soemone whether intentionally or not. what I do is that I try to talk to them about it and apologize for hurting them.I just can't stand it and go on in my life as if everything is ok well in fact not so I have to fix it.

Even i tend to hurt my friends , home people or others with my words sometimes.But when i realise it immediately or in a later stange that iam wrong in my side i will immediately apologise for my hurting words.I done mind asking sorry with them. I think realising is more important and asking sorry will give us some relief for our errors.

Well,We should care if its our fault but if that happened with out our hand what can we do.Anyway if the other person is hurt because of me i will definetly turn towards that person and will definetly give apology.

Because I am a natural born worrier, I am always worry if I hurt or offend people that are close to me, sometimes I ask too often if I have upset someone, it's never deliberate, sometimes we have offdays and we tend to take it out on people who are close to us, we don't mean too. I always take time out to apologize if I have hurt someone, because I know how it is to feel hurt myself.

I feel remorseful, regretful, and sometimes embarrassed that I have hurt someone especially if they are people I respect like my mom. I made my mom cry a couple of times because I was tactless and when I saw her crying I felt so little I didn't know what to do. I wanted the ground to open up and swallow me for what I did. Apologizing is not that hard but the remorse is not easy to get rid of. I wish I could be more careful with my bluntness. However, just like you on some occasions, I am not bothered if I hurt someone because I confronted his/her misconducts.

when i hurt someone, i am really bothered the whole day. at night i cant sleep. so i find a way to say im sorry or find a way to explain why that happened. sometimes we cant xontrol ourselves when it comes to hurting people.... well not physically. we mostly hurt people verbally or emotionally. when we are not in a good mood sometimes we really hust people without noticing it.... but i really say sorry everytime i hurt someone.

Sometimes people are really backing off to say "sorry". A 5-letter word that may back relationships to its state. it is because of another 5-letter word = PRIDE But yes, i would care if i hurt somebody unintentionaly. I believe that people have responsibilities also to each other. Especially when it comes to our social and emotional interaction with anyone. But it is not nice to say sorry fromtime to time. Because some people are abusive. They may throw all the blame on you knowing that you are a type of person who cares for other's emotion. I would say we should learn to balance everything. It is true when you say "sorry", you will not lose a thing. On the contrary, some abusive people may use them against you. What you are doing is not Bad at all...just be careful enough to the abusive ones.

Hello! If I have unknowingly hurt someone and then find out about it I will go to them and apologize. I don't ever want to intentionally hurt someone. If I don't agree with something that someone has said I will let them know this, but I will be as nice as possible when I do. I believe you can let someone know that you don't agree with them in a way that still respects their feelings. Have a great day! SheliaLee

Well, I think you might need to work on your English a little bit, but for the most part you did pretty good. Anyway, to answer your question, it really depends on the person I hurt. I try to be very careful about saying certain things, but if the person needs to be told something and it's the truth, I don't feel the least bit guilty. Maybe I'm just coldhearted like that but if I do hurt someone's feelings not meaning to, of course I'll apologize.

Indeed i do! i just cant hurt someone and stay without repenting. First of all comes out a sorry and then probably a gesture to show them how important they are to you and how much you value their presence in your life. :)

Yes of course esp when that person is dear to me. But even if he/she is not, I am still disturbed the moment I learned that I hurt somebody. The first thing that I would do is talk to him and ask or explain. There is nothing that I would do to deliberately hurt someone, so I should fix the problem and be sorry if I really hurt him/her.

Hello thefuture, I am really late in responding to this discussion. I have been so inactive with mylot for quite some days. As you said I am also not in favour of hurting others knowingly. I do not like it at all. But if something like that happens and I find that the affected person is too worried I am likely to ask him to forgive me. But if I feel that my asking forgiveness will further deteriorate the situation, then I will keep quite and ask for forgiveness to God only. Thank you thefuture.

Yes i do care but other things sometimes depends on the situation also..

I don't deliberatly hurt people and when I find I have then yes, I am very remorseful. If it is unintentional then most often it is a matter of miscommunication in which case I do take the time to talk with that person. I have hurt someone by breaking off a relationship and that is very hard but it is for the best. I try to do it in a kind way but I know it is still hurtful.

ya, i care for those whom i hurt by physically or mentally. especially for my loved ones who care for me. i felt guilty when i remember those incident. i used to say sorry to them bt i think a simple sorry can cure their feelings tht they got frm my unusal behave. so now i make sure not to play with anybody emotion . they have their own life , belief y should i interfere in them.

i don't intend to hurt people, but i do most of the time. especially my friends. but i think there is nothing i can do about it. because when you hurt people just by being yourself, then there is nothing to do. to apologize won't do it better, neither being aware that you hurt them. actually i don't let people hurt me as well. so i think the people i hurt should think about this.