Do you have a Good Relationship with your Parents?
@LightninStrike (5915)
Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
August 15, 2007 3:25am CST
Every day in the news i hear stories about fights among members of the same family, usually parents and sons or daughters, for various reasons (money, jealousy etc). Some of those discussions end up dramatically, with one of the persons implied dead or seriously injured.
I do get on great with my parents. As in all families, sometimes we disagree and even discuss about something, or argue for a while. But never to the point of taking it to the personal field.
How do you get on with your parents? do you have a close and nice relationship with them? If you don't, why not?
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21 responses
@lexus54 (3572)
• Singapore
15 Aug 07
I have an excellent and cordial relationship with my mother (my father passed away 3 years ago) as well as all my brothers and sisters, and their families. In all these years, we've never had any fights, quarrels or feuds among any family members. We love and care for each other, and are constantly in communication with one another. If I need any help or advice, I know I can call upon my family members and they will render their assistance. That's because of the great and warm relationship that we have upheld all these years amongst ourselves.
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@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
15 Aug 07
I'm sorry about your father, lexus :(. Anyway, I'm happy to see you have an excellent relationship with all your close relatives...hope it stays this way.
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@lexus54 (3572)
• Singapore
16 Aug 07
Thanks for your condolence. My father passed away due to old age, although he suffered from a major stroke and was half paralyzed for 12.5 yrs before he passed on. His stroke condition brought us all closer, and we really pulled together as a family in looking after him through all these years.
@inderjeetnogi (514)
• India
15 Aug 07
it is not the case with me, i have a happy familyand i am lucky to have so
i have a strong bond with my parents and brother
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@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
15 Aug 07
yeah, same here, and i'm glad you are as lucky as me :)
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@JoyfulOne (6232)
• United States
15 Aug 07
Although both of my parents are now deceased, I had a really wonderful relationship with them. They were good people. We never really fought; I was brought up in church with the commandment to honor your father and mother. We were very, very close, and I still miss them to this day.
@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
15 Aug 07
Well I'm sure that even though deceased, your parents are there with you all the time, accompanying you and giving you good advice..and that is how it will be as long as you live :)
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@andrejuly84 (1047)
• Romania
15 Aug 07
my relation with my parents isn't so good.they don't like my future husband even we have a child together and didn't renounce hoping we will get separated some day.all day ong they have bad words for him.and also for me although i live with them and my lover lives with his parents.i and my girl are leaving from their income.i am thankful they feed us and give us a part of home but there is no peace and harmony between us.me and my mom actually weren't ever friends.they love my child but our relation is most of the times tensionated
@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
16 Aug 07
Well, i find it so selfish on their side. If your daughter or son is with someone you dislike, you should just admit it and do your best to maintain your relationship with him or her as good as possible. It's silly to put pride or prejudices first, because in the end, you end up losing someone from your own family. Besides, some parents forget the fact that it's not up to theirs to choose who will you spend the rest of your life with.
@youngwoman123 (12)
• United States
15 Aug 07
well in my case though am close to my mother..we dont have too much conversation to my dad for some reasons..but its not a big deal for me coz i now even were not close i know he loves me..and talking about my mom i have great mom who always comfort me if i have some problems...arguing is part of our daily life..its nature to every family to have fight..especially when they didnt like what u are doing..ofcouse they have too correct it...have a good day
@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
15 Aug 07
thank you for replying, and have a good day too :)
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@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
15 Aug 07
well it's impossible not to argue now and then, as long as things are talked over and solved. About your father...I can only hope he reacts one day so that it's possible for you two to recuperate your relationship.
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@iinvention (646)
• India
16 Aug 07
I have a good relationship with my parents. I always discuss with them the problems i face in my personal and official life. At times i also argue with them and fight with them and that too upto a limit. When it goes beyond a limit, i myself apologise to them.
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@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
16 Aug 07
It's good that you apologize when it goes beyond a limit..that's the way it should be, shouldn't it? we all say things we shouldn't say in the middle of an arguement, but it's cool if all is left aside for what really matters: your parents.
@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
16 Aug 07
You are definitely one of the lucky group. I would include myself there too. thanks for replying.
@AuthenticPeach (283)
• United States
16 Aug 07
I thankfully have an excellent relationship with my parents. Now we are not the Cosby's and no where near the Osbournes but we have an understanding relationship, we communicate openly with one another, and we share laughs and stories with one another. I love my parents and although we disagree and argue over sometimes simple things as you stated in your discussion above its not for long and for the most part we're back to our loving selves in no time.
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@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
16 Aug 07
You know what, i'm happy you are not either the Cosbys (too boring) nor the Osbournes (mentally deranged). Thanks for replying.
@kyutstudph (1263)
• Philippines
16 Aug 07
My relationship with my parents is good. Though I didnt grew up with them. My grandparents raised me and took care of me since I was a child. That is because my Father works abroad to support my needs and give me a good education. I am now with my father because his contract abroad has just finished and I am happy about that. Since I will spend more time with him. I think every families has their own issues. It is how they manage to solve it and build a harmonious relationship with each other.
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@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
16 Aug 07
I'm glad it's good. Thanks for replying.
@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
16 Aug 07
Hi LightningStrike! I do get along with my father very well and when my mom is still alive we did have a very wonderful relationship. We do have minor disagreements but nothing that can not be forgiven and forgotten. And I am glad that you have a wonderful relationship with your parents too. Have a nice day and take care!
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@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
16 Aug 07
I'm glad your relationship with your parents is so cool, faith, have a good day you too :)
@Philxav (733)
• Malaysia
16 Aug 07
Parents.. all they want is the best for their kids even when you grown up. At times parents acted that they know everything and they start telling things which you cant accept it. This happen to me many time.. well what i do.. i'll be nice and pretend like i'm taking wat they say into consideration.. well that makes them feel better.. i just do this.. simply to stop them to keep on saying the same things.. I love them much and they love me too. So we as an adult we think wat is nice for them and wat makes them happy.. Later, once u have an opportunity.. explain to them bout wat they say.. the good and the bad... always start that with complementing of wat they said first.. then go with ur view.. but ake it short.. and change the topic.. otherwise they might feel embarrassed of what they said.. and that might make them to debate with u again...hahaha
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@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
16 Aug 07
hehe, true. Thanks for replying.
@surveyman9191 (15)
• United States
16 Aug 07
no i dont talk to them, they anoyy me sometimes but i have to live eith it lol
@shelagh77 (3643)
•
19 Aug 07
I always had a great relationship with my Mother and we were more like sisters. I fought like cat and dog with my Father for many years, and my Mother said it was because we were too alike.
Also my Father loved me too much. He knew how he thought my life would be much better and he was determined to force me to do everything he wanted me to do and the arguments were very fierce.
He was right about a lot though. He wouldn't let me go to university and the secretarial course he insisted on actually has given me a good living and now I am disabled I can enjoy the internet much more because I already had the skills to utilise word etc.
We did not know that I had a degenerative illness and it would almost certainly have prevented me going into teaching as I have mini sleeps and falls - imagine that in the classroom of today.
I had to nurse both Parents and extremely upsetting all round to see them deteriorate but at the end of their lives both my Parents were my best friends and I miss them so much even now. Nobody comes close to their love, support and unselfishness.
I know I was extremely lucky, some of my Father's own brothers and sisters were terrible parents to their children but mine always looked out for me.
@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
20 Aug 07
yep, it seems that you're lucky when it comes to your family, and i am very glad that you are. thanks for replying shelagh.
@sweetcakes (3504)
• United States
20 Aug 07
yes i believe i have a good relationship with both of my parents
i just wish they was better grandparents to my 3 boys.
@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
20 Aug 07
better in which way? i mean, if you have a good relationship with them, what do you miss in them towards your kids?
@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
13 Sep 07
not a nice picture with your mother being like that :( I am really sorry that it is like that biggerb. Thanks for replying.
@syndhujaa (252)
• India
9 Sep 07
yea..I have a very good relationship with my parents..:)
although i get nice scoldings from them..:D
see..its always nice to give way to others and try to adjust wiht others..
then only both can have a good relationship..though i get scoldings, we argue but we have a very good relationship and also i lovveeee them alot..
and ther is no way of jealousy n all as u mentioned coz they are my parents and am their daughter..:P
i enjoy every moment with them..!!!!
@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
10 Sep 07
thanks for replying, and i'm glad you love them so much.
@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
16 Aug 07
It's cool that you have such open relationship with them, ellie, keep it like that. Thank you for responding.
@taylorblue (1286)
• Canada
17 Aug 07
I had a good relationship with my parents until I decided to not let them control me anymore. I haven't talked to my dad in 5 years and my mom almost 6 months. But you know what it is easier without them telling them what I need to do with my life.
@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
17 Aug 07
well i hope it works for you this way, taylorblue, thanks for replying :)