Stressed out.

Butterfly,I am so sorry for all you are going through. I do know that there is a new medicine out for children's ADHD. I just saw a pamphlet for it in my doctor's office last week but I didn't see the name on it. I have a daughter that will be checking in to it for her son. Please do not worry about the "Bipolar". I have also had that diagnosis. It is kind of a "catchall" diagnosis. Some doctors used to classify it as "Manic Depressive". All it means is someone has mood swings; and we all do. There aren't very many of us that at one time or another are not Bipolar. How old is your daughter with arthritis? Does she still live at home? I am so sorry for her pain. The only thing that I can suggest is that for some people heat works, for others cold packs work, and for others alteration of 20 mins heat/20 mins cold work. Perhaps she can try these out to see if any of them give her any relief at all. Pain medications don't work for me, BUT (and this is GOOD news), Aleve (even the Walmart brand does work. Instead of taking the recommended 1 pill, I take 2, and get at least 3-4 hours of relief from that. After a few months of this, though, I sort of get immune to it and have to switch to Advil (or store brand). That also works but not quite as well as Aleve. I only have to use it for a couple of weeks and them can go back to Aleve. In the case of your younger son not being able to hold a job, are you positive it is ADHD? You might want to do a search on Asperger's and see if he may fit into this catagory. It is a very mild form of ADHD; but it is a disorder that provokes inappropriate behaviors for no apparent reason in the people that have it (and it happens most often in boys). I have a grandson aged 6 whose first diagnosis was Autism, then they switched it to Asperger's, then to ADHD. He was started on Adderal and it worked only for a short time. When the med wore off, not only could his family not stand to be around him as his behavior was extremely wild, he would cry and not be able to be around himself. My daughter took him off the medicine and he began to take his t-shirts and pull them up at the neck and suck on them almost all day. My daughter thought she would fix it by letting him go without a shirt and just letting him wear his swimming trunks. She looked outside to find that he had taken the string from his trunks and pulled it up so he could suck on it (poor babe was almost cutting off his circulation). She sat him down and asked him why he was doing this and he told her he didn't know, all he knew was that his brain was telling him to do it. One of my friend's sons also had Asperger's. He is a grown man in his late 20s and does some very bizarre and inappropriate behaviors in public; but refuses to admit this and thinks he is just being funny, so will not see a doctor for medication. Perhaps your son needs to be retested. You have suggested a wonderful healing method for yourself. Along with the CD, I would only suggest that you use your mind to gently self-hypnotize yourself into a peaceful tranquility as the CD plays. If you need any instruction as to how to do this, please IM me and I will give you my email addy and forward you directions and a script. In the meantime, I am so happy for you that you know you have friends here that love you and are holding you deeply in their hearts.~Donna

It seems that everything is happening to you all at once. I heard about this ADHD running in families and there was something else about it on a TV show, but I do not remember what it was about, so it is no wonder you have trouble sleeping with all that worry about your family. But I am sure that God will send people along your path that will help you. I just did a little prayer for you and I hope that helps and I am sure the sound of the sea waves will help as well.

Oh you poor thing, it is a horrible place to bem I guess we have all been there at some time, I used to just go to bed and hope things would be better later but today I like to get out in the garden it is said get your hand in the dirt you are connecting with the earth, if you don't have a garden create an indoor garden maybe, I know what you mean about the sea, that is a wonderful release but for most of us distance is a problem,I hope you get over this soo and I hope everything will start looking good for you my friend.

Wow, you certainly have a full plate and then some! I hope things get better for you!

I have to go to the city tomorrow for a doctors appointment and I'm taking time to look for a ocean waves CD. I saw myself in everything you wrote except for children my situation is different there but I'm so stressed out and blood pressure is up to 172/108 that's not good for anyone but especially for someone who has already had a heart attack. I'm not a gambler but I would bet my shirt my husband is bipolar, I have migraine headaches and on the verge of walking out of here so YES I understand. I don't know what you should do or I would have already done it. Take Care Keep in touch...

you are dealing with great stress. you deal with it very well though i suspect you do not realise this. god is within you with a inner strength. you are an inspiration to us all with the strength that you possess. continue but think of god for inner help and strength when you feel weak with the pressure. it is people like you that make this world a good and strong place and you are not told this often enough! God bless

I am so sorry for you. I hope things get better for you real soon. Keep your chin up.

I had a few days when I did not get my notificatios, and look what happens--I am so sorry, and so in empathy for you. I have just been reading through your profile. I will say for your son that it is better to know you are bipolar, and be able to look at treatment, than it is to feel like a misfit, and never know why things never work out. My "hero" is actually a friend who is bipolar disordered. I have a daughter in law and grandson who both are, and my little guy is also ADHD. I will pray for your family, and for your peace of mind. Please consider yourself hugged by me. Heather

Seems like all things hit us at the same time. I also feel as if everything goes wrong these days and I have wondered when I am supposed to get the chanse of happiness? I am sure though that there is a point to it all and that this is something that in the end will make us stronger. Take care

You really do have a lot going on in your life right now, Elusive. The important thing to remember is not to allow these situations take over your life. Sure, we all worry over our kids(no matter their age), but they are usually able to work things out in their favor. You have to seek that quiet place within yourself and go there whenever necessary. I learned to do this when I was going through a particularly rough time in my life. Once you find it you will be able to unburden yourself.

I am sorry to hear u and feeling sad.I hope u will get happy days as soon as possible.Please try to overcome ourself from stress.Nothing is impossible friend,try try till u reach ur goal. All the best for future.I pray god for ur happiness Dont worry too much.

i am feeling so sorry for you my friend. according to me u should be very spriritually strong at this difficult time in your life. worshipping GOD and having faith in him that if he has sent u in this world and made u then he surely doesn't want u to end up badly. And when u sart believing this then u will feel it is god's responsibility to pull u out of this prolem and all what is ur part is to just keep fulfilling ur duties responsibily and religiously.

Hello..are you fine know? how along your problem take you like this ? I think you must see open your mind.Don't think about the problem.. Search anything can positif think like what have morning and night.

I think you are a great parent you care about your family very much . I can really understand your pain and misery now, I suffered from a serious disease in my second year in university and it also changed my path in life, but now I think that through the unhappiness I can learn to be strong in mind and understand the value of health.

Elusive Sweetie I am so sorry to hear all this and I am not surprised that you are stressed out that is a lot to deal with and then your Job to I wish I could help you out somehow there but I am to far away You are in my Thoughts Sweet and I am sending you a big Hug from here Love and Hugs

Im sorry your having some rough things going on in your life. And I know how it can make you think and not leave you alone. But just remember everything always works out. Somehow or someway things do work out. I dont blame you one bit for worrying thats because you love them so much. Im glad to hear that CD ocean waves help you. I love the sound of the ocean. I should try that. cheer up sweetie. Big hugs to you!

I can understand where you are coming from. Although I am not dealing with the same things, I am dealing with some similar issues. All I can say is that I hope that things get better for you soon.

Don't take things too hard or you might get sick too. There are no problems too hard that the Lord can not answer. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and pray for your sons and daughter. I have a lot of healthy conditions but I don't worry too much because I can't control what I have, My God is in control. Take deep breaths and let it go. Yes you need to take relaxation programs or go walking everyday, that's good for stress. God bless you.

I am sorry to hear of all your struggles and strifes. It seems true the saying of when it rains it pours. I know firsthand somewhat of your struggles having gone through some things in my own family. And Ido not mean to preach or suggest anything unjust, just something I have learned to be tru. God helps those that help themselves. Again I am not saying anything mean or suggestive that you are doing anything contrary to that. Only in my own situations I have found it to be true. A good way to appreciate what we do have and to focus on the positive more so the negative is to be of good service to others. Volunteer at a soup kitchen, donate to goodwill or some charity. Help someone in need. It has a way to put into perspective how fortunate we are during our down trodden times. I know this is all the last thing you might want to hear but it does really help. Try it. You might feel a little better. And one last thing I believe is that God does not give us more than we can handle. I am not trying to push religion on you. Just saying it will all be ok in the end. Good luck and I hope you and your family get through this hard time together.

I have only been on Mylot for a couple of months...but you have come to be important to me. I hear of your struggles and conflicts and wish there was more I could do. Drop by...offer you a shoulder rub, a hug, or an attentive, caring ear. But I cannot...we are on-line friends but not physical friends...but the concern and prayer support is offered just the same. It is always hard to know why some families have so much more to contend with than others. I wish your family had a lighter load. Hopefully, the love and concern from those around you...and the countless Mylot friends you have will help in some small way. When you mentioned that you listen to an ocean waves CD I wondered if you have tried something called Hemi-synch or Brain-wave synchronization CD's? These CD's have tonalities that synchronize the left and right hemispheres of the brain with positive affirmations. I used them and highly recommend them to clients. If you keyword Monroe Institute or any of the above words you will have more than enough information to decide whether they would be of benefit to you and yours. Sending you loving, warm thoughts and wishing you and yours light filled blessings. Also your best response for the one I posted about our Moms is greatly appreciated.