I don't know...a son marrying his stepmother after dad dies......
By LCecelia
@LCecelia (1124)
United States
August 17, 2007 5:53pm CST
I guess truth is stranger than fiction. I read a letter in a Dear Abby's column today from a stepson who is thinking of having a relationship and possibly marrying his (former) stepmother.
My one thought was, isn't he concerned about her comparing him to his father? Reminds me of a Seinfeld episode. The one where Monica had an affair with an older guy and after they broke up she went on a date with the son but couldn't stop comparing the two.
Anyway back to the letter. The son explains that the "stepmother" is actually younger than he is. And there was nothing between them when dad was alive except friendship. Oh and she didn't have any children with his dad.
Color me old fashioned but there are just some lines one should NEVER cross!
I didn't tell you Dear Abby's response, and I quote: What you have in mind is unusual but not unheard of. You are not her biological son, so there is no reason why you could not marry if you wish. In fact, it could work out very well since your feelings for each other evolved from an already-established friendship. I say, go for it - but be prepared for some teasing. End quote.
So am I the only one who is weirded out by this???
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13 responses
@alstaxidermy (269)
• United States
18 Aug 07
Nope - it seems odd to me as well. Unless they are both maybe looking to pool a large inheritance into a huge one - you never know peoples greed is just that way - I can't think of any reason why this should seem normal to people. I once worked with a guy who had married his step sister - granted they didn't meet until they were 18 and 17, and didn't really grow up together, but still - they did end up in quite a messy little divorce with splitting between the family like crazy and sucky situations for the holidays, so something like this seems to be entirely too nuts to even comprehend thinking about doing to me. Yeah, totally weirded out as well, wouldn't ever even think of doing it myself!
@banjiexia (63)
• China
18 Aug 07
I think it's weird. But I have heard a more weird story, that a woman married with his fater-in-law, and her first husband didn't die, and they has a son. Oh, I don't know what does her son call her now husband, grandfather or father. I really cann't image it.
@strawberrygashz (44)
• United States
18 Aug 07
Yeah, thats a little terrible. I mean yeah, they can do it and get away with it and not have it be weird and gross insestual. But what about the rest of the family? What are they going to say or think. Its kind of a slap in the face to his father from both of them. From the son b/c well, its his dads WIFE! Out of pure respect to his father, that should not be done. And as for her, Out of respect to her husband and to show that shes not some scum bag who didnt care about him. If they really like eachother and what not though, they can make it work as long as shes not comparing him or only going for him b/c hes so much like his dad. I gues sthey are about the same age. Who knows, she could have married his father to get to him. Anyway, i think its weird also.
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
18 Aug 07
I think it was a bit odd that his dad, in the first place, married someone who was younger than his son.
This is definitely strange. But I guess that considering how many different possible ways there are of meeting a new love interest, and how many people are ending up with step families, it was bound to happen to someone.
@wiccania (3360)
• United States
18 Aug 07
She's right though... there's no blood relationship, so it's not really a horrible thing. Would I ever consider dating my step-dad if my mom passed away? No way in he!!. I love the man, but as far as I'm concerned, he's my dad.
By the way, it was Friends, not Seinfeld. Monica dated Richard (Tom Selleck) and then invited his son over for Thanksgiving dinner and they kissed and she was just weirded out by it.
@taylorblue (1286)
• Canada
18 Aug 07
OMG that really weirded me out. What the heck is wrong with the son? I wouldn't want anything my dad or mom touched. I even told my mom that!! lOl...I don't know but that is just rude to the deceased dad I think.
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
18 Aug 07
Yes, I agree with you on this. to me it is weird but in todays society...not so much. The lines of what is ok and what is not have been so blurred over time that this is nothing really. In all fairness, he probably never looked at this woman as a step-mother as she probably never really played the "mom" role in his life.
In my family my girls were young when I married their step-dad who had 3 boys. They always looked at these boys as "brothers" even tho there was no blood relation, it would be gross to them to even consider a relationship. Now when they hear of someone getting involved with a step brother or sister they think of their steps and go "eeew!!", never pausing to think these siblings may have met much older and never been raised to feel as siblings. Each situation is unique.
@peanutjar (5198)
• Canada
18 Aug 07
What is this?,another Jerry Springer episode?My first thought would be,was he rocked too close to the wall or what?Some people dont care about this kind of stuff,but theres worse than this,picture a cousin&cousin or brother and sister.Now,thats much more weird than 2 people that are not blood related.
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
18 Aug 07
Well, that was pretty odd. I guess, good for them, but I hope they really aren't rushing into this. As always, I do wish them the best, but I really can't get my head around it all. Very very weird.
